Are you simply defaulting to monogamy? Have you ever genuinely asked yourself, "Would a different sexual model work better for me?" Dan Savage, an author, sex-advice columnist, podcaster, and public speaker, suggests that we should all regularly pose these questions to ourselves. Dan and his husband have chosen what they call a "monogamish" relationship. They've acknowledged that it's impossible to fulfill all of your partner's needs, and that's a message from which we can all learn. While we typically focus on monogamous long-term relationships, in this episode, we'll explore how various types of relationships can be successful. Tune in and prepare for some introspection into your own sexual expression. Timestamps: 5:00 - What does monogamish mean? 11:27 - Eroticism in a long-term relationship 17:24 - Bringing in a third 23:37 - Monogamy as the default setting 31:00 - Changing broken marraige norms 33:50 - Dan's relationship journey 46:49 - Allowing for erotic autonomy 53:57 - Dan's advice for young people 59:00 - Action step Links: Sign up to get Jayson's weekly newsletter via email Order Jayson's book: Getting to Zero Get 50% off your first month of relationship coaching with the promo code "First50" Follow Jayson on social media: Instagram YouTube LinkedIn TikTok