“I binged this entire show. I listened to the whole thing quickly, and I was so hungry for another episode. I adore Esther Perel and have also listened to a massive chunk of her content.
The episode about open relationships w Jessica Fern, opens with the hosts mentioning all of the various kinds of dates and dating that people can engage in.
I have been polyamorous for the majority share of my relationships. I am exploring monogamy now. I am interested in people of all genders and I have historically been a huge sl*t, in the best way.
The episode with Aziz and Manny hit home because I also live n the Bay Area. However… the handling of the elements of gay culture in this episode felt clumsy and awkward. The hosts didn’t seem to know what they were dealing with, and didn’t seem to know enough about gay culture to successfully facilitate this date.
I recoiled when the question about sex on the first date was asked, and then when the hosts responded to what those men said about their exploits. Their activities were framed as like scandalous or salacious. It wasn’t so much that it felt shamey but more that the degree of surprise felt out of step with the culture of the two people on the date.
I worry a little that if this show continues, and expands.. if there is a wider reach of people that are on the show! A huge variety of people… are these hosts equipped to deal with a wide variety of people? Charming perverts? People who engage in BDSM? Dykes? Trans women who want to date cis men? Like…. I can’t say I would be confident about their handling of this.
And this would all be fine! No one can understand every direct experience… but there does seem to be a level of “oh well I understand the gay men!”
Maybe theres a moment to bring on some coaches for the coaches. The episode with Jessica Fern is a good example.. but would she coach the hosts through handling the dating life of people looking for romance with more than one partner? I get the impression that these women (the hosts) are from a specific world, have a specific world view, and I think would benefit from some different viewpoints.”
Jules Sinead via Apple Podcasts ·
United States of America ·
08/25/22