Links to things mentioned: Our survey link! Couples are invited to take our marriage survey (you take it individually and it’s confidential): https://baremarriage.com/grim/ Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month and help support our research and our work! https://patreon.com/baremarriage The article where you can find the Elisabeth Elliot quote on the essence of femininity: https://www.crossway.org/articles/the-essence-of-femininity/ Holly Furtick’s reel on being grumpy: https://www.instagram.com/reel/CtnHKVJOOOI/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link&igshid=MzRlODBiNWFlZA== Holly Furtick’s reel on not fussing and just praying: https://www.instagram.com/reel/Cm1oSdNBGB3/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link&igshid=MzRlODBiNWFlZA== The study on why sweating the small stuff is important: https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/18361676/ Get help for religious OCD at NOCD.com -- Licensed therapists using evidence-based techniques. https://nocd.com John Gottman’s book The 7 Principles for Making Marriage Work: https://amzn.to/3Mxzc8h