You say all the right things as a single mom but deep deep down you don't always mean it. Example: You tell your kids you have no problem with their dad & his girlfriend but the second they aren't looking your non verbal says otherwise. Or you tell your kids you are happy that they love to go over to see their dad and his girlfriend- but deep down you don't love it one bit. Genuine Forgiveness is the true and total release of the hurt, resentment & anger. It means you have faced your feelings, worked through them and healed in order to no longer have your heart burdened with those feelings. Genuine Forgiveness is a gift you give yourself.