In this episode of Untidy, Hannah and Matty speak to Jo Robertson, an experienced therapist, specialising in sex and relationships, addiction, betrayal, and trauma. She was also one of the relationship experts on Married at First Sight NZ. Jo joins Untidy for the second episode of a special two-part edition where she answers anonymous audience questions on their own sex and relationship issues and dilemmas.  (Trigger warning: These two episodes cover topics such as sex, porn, betrayal, mention of grooming and historical sexual assault. While there is no graphic detail, please listen with care for yourself and those around you.) In part two Jo covers questions on navigating and recovering from betrayal, keeping secrets, managing tricky relationship dynamics with parents, losing trust, feelings of insecurity over a partner’s porn consumption, intrusive thoughts, protecting kids from sexual assault/grooming, what to look for in a future partner, and, what to do if your four-year-old finds your butt plug ...  Groups Jo mentioned in the podcast:  Naked Truth Recovery Side by Side (Auckland-based)  Contact Jo directly if you're looking for something specific and she can point you in the right direction. Book for consent/sexual harm for kids: Only for Me ACC's website for free sexual trauma counselling.  If you want to hear more from Jo, listen to her first episode on Untidy called, ‘Navigating New Sexual Landscapes with Jo Robertson’ on your favourite podcast app.  You can find Jo and a lot of resources via her website https://www.jorobertson.org/, and on Instagram @sextherapistjo. You can also sign up for her parenting course @trickychatsparenting by visiting the Tricky Chats Parenting website. If you enjoy this episode of Untidy, please support the show by subscribing in your podcast app and tapping the ‘+ follow’ button. That way, you’ll never miss an episode. Help us to keep building this supportive community – subscribe, share an episode with a mate, and chuck us a 5-star review. Thank you for listening and supporting our independent production! You’re the best! Untidy is made for you – the people right at the heart of this steaming hot mess we call parenthood! Follow the show and DM us on Instagram @untidypodcast or email [email protected]. Your stories and ideas to help us shape the show! Find us online at Untidy podcast. Find Matilda at @matootles and get your copy of The Feel Good Guide. Find Hannah at @hannahedavison and her My Big Moments children’s books at @mybigmoments. Enter code UNTIDY at checkout for 10% off your order. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.