Some years ago I was wandering up my street, Roncesvalles Avenue, here in Toronto where I live. I wandered into my library and one of the reasons I go into the library is so I can wander the shelves and I can let serendipity happen. A book waves at you and goes, hey, notice me! In this visit, a book leapt off the shelf: The Chairs Are Where the People Go. As a facilitator and somebody who cares about group dynamics, I thought …  well that's interesting, what is this about? So I took it home and I read it, and I came to know its author, Misha Glouberman Misha runs a program “How to Talk to People About Things” and is also a faculty director at the executive education program at the Ivy Business School. He hosts the Trampoline Hall Lectures, which are a quirky Toronto bar room lecture series, which have a fabulous energy and fabulous speakers. It's like TED, if it had a punk spirit. His book, The Chairs Are Where the People Go, was named by The New Yorker magazine as one of its top nonfiction books of that year.  In our conversation we work on how to get out of our own way when we’re having a conversation; the foundational error that derails a good conversation; how curiosity can be a saving grace; why we so often continue to tolerate short-term irritation; and why we’re often not bold enough in owning up to what irritates us most. You can meet Misha at his website www.MishaGlouberman.com. This show is brought to you by The Advice Trap, Michael Bungay Stanier’s latest book. You can access a wide range of tools to help #TameYourAdviceMonster at www.TheAdviceTrap.com If you’d like to spend more time with Michael and people he admires, sign up for The Year of Living Brilliantly. 52 teachers over 52 weeks, each teaching one brilliant insight. Absolutely free.