What do you do when your husband is too often grouchy or down at home? Are his expectations for the family falling short, challenging his relationship with your children and your relationship with one another? You want to share the joys of marriage with him but how can you be happy enough for both of you? How can you see things from his perspective when his struggle stokes your own worries? Learning to recognize and empathize with what’s really going on in his head and heart is a critical step in helping him feel better about himself and his relationships.  In this episode of the WifeSavers Podcast, “When Family Life Overwhelms Him”, multi-award winning marriage author and educator, Ramona Zabriskie, and her husband of 40+ years, Dale, answer a wife who is tired of trying to cope with her husband’s negativity within the family.   THROW ME A WIFESAVER: “My husband has been struggling off & on with depression and anxiety. He is angry much of the time and struggles to cope with our kids as they overwhelm him. I find it exhausting to be constantly challenging the story he tells himself. This just makes parenting more difficult and it makes marriage hard for me. I would love any advice you might have!” Listen and learn why your husband may be feeling anxious and depressed, why this naturally affects family life, and how to help him regain a sense of control, balance, and energy. Key Points in this podcast: Your dissimilar approaches to managing pain/emotion How parenthood may be affecting him  Possible causes for your anxiety over his anxiety 5 ubiquitous male drives that underpin male fears 4 “male masks” used to hide or postpone experiencing emotion 5 common “male” fears that are stirred up by family life Strategy for helping him regain a sense of balance, control, and energy “I love listening to both Ramona and Dale interact and laugh with each other - it just makes me happy! Their podcasts model respectful and joyful interactions in marriage and reminds me to laugh more often, especially with my husband. ✭✭✭✭✭” Apple Podcast listener Related episodes: Ep 27: Getting Him on Board With Best Parenting Practices Ep 22: Finding and Pursuing His Quest Ep 16: His Criticism Hurts: What to do When Your Husband is Unkind or Unfair Ep 1: Helping Your Husband Bond With the Kids Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/wifesavers/message