"I'm doing the best I can with my child but some days are just really hard - and at the end of them I feel like a terrible parent. I'm getting really good at apologizing to my child but I'm worried that I'm doing some damage by going through so many of these cycles where I explode and then say sorry. How can I get through these days?" In this episode I take a look at the main reasons why we have these hard days - from our child's temperament to our temperament to attachment relationships, trauma, and neurodivergences - all of these intersect especially tightly on the hard days. Then we look at three ways to get through these days with a little more grace - and maybe even without having to apologize to your child at the end of it.