What advice would you give? Would you want?    The last two weeks while in Italy, I was swept away in the best romantic story.   A dear friend unexpectedly met someone while traveling internationally far from home and texted, “I might have met my husband.”   The wrinkle is that a life with him means a major fork in the road, leaving possibly forever things she’s loved, and for various reasons the decision is going to be made quickly.   When you have a major life decision, how can you be confident you won’t regret whatever you choose? Over hours of voice messages back and forth I reflected:   The advice I’m giving her is so much different than I would have 10 years ago. What I learned from my IVF, surrogacy, and book journey that gave me wisdom. What we really want to know, and are never going to.  How to avoid self-shame/blame if it doesn’t work out. The biggest difference between taking risks in your teens/20’s vs your mid-30’s and beyond    The questions I guided her through, I found myself asking myself in the very different scenarios I’m walking through personally today.   This is the grown-women’s approach to love and life choices that (thank goodness) has less draining drama and more delightful drama that makes life exciting yet empowering.    Curious to hear on Instagram @HilaryRushford what advice you’d give after you listen? If you share it on Stories tag me so I can see!