In this edition of HOLAA in a Hot Spot Tiff answers questions around sorting out issues when in a long distance relationship, trying out new things in bed without being pushy and dating a person who wants to also explore with men. Rules of the game: 1. You can submit your questions anonymously. 2. Just tell us where you are from so Tiff can give advice with context and focus. Submit your questions here - https://forms.gle/Jq2xEQM1EX9CoWng9 Follow the Basically Life Instagram on...

How does kink bring about community? How do you go from being fucky to f*****g right? And is it OK to randomly take off your top in the middle of a recording session? In this episode I get to sit down with two faves to find out all about their journeys to be the s*x positive bad bads that they are, from navigating intimacy at a young age Check out the Instagram: I.G basicallylife_pod Check out Chido's gram on I.G etanapatriot Check out Mamello's gram on I.G tswana_hippie Like, review and...

How do you write about s*x and sexuality? What is it like to date a white person? How do you handle group s*x? How should you act in s*x clubs? Are exes sometimes the absolute ghetto? (Yes.) We sat around and chatted about all things writing, race, books and relationships. An online conversation between Kim W., Efemia, Nakhane, Roche and your host Tiff around the themes in the book, their experiences with lovin', livin' and sexin' and also being a writer around sex. TW: Mention of...

In this edition of HOLAA in a Hot Spot Tiff answers questions around sending nudes in a new , figuring out where your partner learned that thing they did in bed and having a low s*x drive. Rules of the game: You can submit your questions anonymously Just tell us where you are from so Tiff can give advice with context and focus. Submit your questions here - https://forms.gle/Jq2xEQM1EX9CoWng9 Follow the Basically Life Instagram on basicallylife_pod Like, review and subscribe on all your...

Is yoni steaming just squatting over hot herbs? How do you heal after an abusive relationship? What is self love coaching and does it involve masturbation? Check out the Instagram: @basicallylife_pod Check out Lwazi's gram on I.G itsabameslife Like, review and subscribe on all your fave platforms!

Do I have a partner? How did we get together? Have I made her better? (Yes, yes I have) This is Basically...Life: looking at queer sex love and living and I am your host Tiff Mugo bringing you a random garden chat, with my partner of 12 years. In this episode Tiff sits down with her boo thing and they have a chat. Check out the Instagram: @basicallylife_pod Check out Siphu's gram on I.G ithongomusings Dua Kilifi Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/duakilifi/ Free Touch Manual -...

In this edition of HOLAA in a Hot Spot Tiff answers questions around touching yourself, hitting on women and coitus with a close friend. (and we shout out Thando’s Youtube) Rules of the game: 1. You can submit your questions anonymously 2. Just tell us where you are from so Tiff can give advice with context and focus. Links: Azania Realness YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/c/ThandoHlophe Submit your questions here - https://forms.gle/Jq2xEQM1EX9CoWng9 Follow the Basically Life...

How does long distance help your relationship? Why do folx really not understand the B in LGBTIQ? Why is it sometimes so hard to date men? In this episode I get to sit down with my amazing homie Ophelia and chat about dating, bisexuality and the wildness that is dealing with multiple genders. Check out the Instagram: I.G basicallylife_pod Check out Lwazi's gram on I.G kemigisha Like, review and subscribe on all your fave platforms.

Is XY just a state of mind? What is classified as compulsory heteroexuality and why do we so often fall into its clutches? Do all transbodies somehow fall into the stigma of heteronormative society or does it change when you transition? This episode has the awesome awesome couple Lwazi (my brilliant producer for season 2) and Khanyi. the bae extraordinaire! Check out the Instagram: I.G basicallylife_pod Check out Lwazi's gram on I.G abuti.homebody Like, review and subscribe on all your...

Last episode of season 1 fam! In this one we sit down with the incredible mind that is Siya Khumalo and answer 'what happens when you crash a dinner party and start chatting about sex? How do you marry the idea of Jesus dying for your sins and you being free in your sexuality? Have You Read You need to be gay to know God? (seriously, read it). Check out the Instagram: @basicallylife_pod Check out Siya' s gram on @siyathewriter #BasicallyQueer

How do friends help you plan a marriage proposal? Can you be masculine and wear lingerie and send nudes? Can you share your sexual experiences with another person with your partner? On this episode we sit down with long term loves Thatso and Ndumi to discuss all things relationshipping. These two have grown so much. (Also the sound quality is wild cause this was at a dinner party. Love us). Check out the Instagram: @basicallylife_pod Check out Ndumi and Kgothatso's grams on @ndumi_17 and...

What’s it like dating a violist? Why aren't I trying to f**k Efemia? Why was Efemia celibate for a year? Its another great episode with this writer and constant collaborator of mine (whose name I seriously said wrong for years. Still shook). Check out the Instagram: @basicallylife_pod Check out Efemia' s gram on @efemiachristiana #BasicallyQueer

How is Kaz navigating her throuple? How do you find community in threesomes? What does a cross over collaboration look like? This is a special episode of Basically Life, a cross collaboration with The Spread Podcast, Africa’s biggest sex positive podcast. @karenkazlucas is greatness. The Spread Podcast: @TheSpreadPod Basically Life: @BasicallyLife_Pod

Why would you not want to be medicated? Can rope help with anxiety? Can you eat wings whilst recording a podcast? This episode has the awesome Thabile who is dropping wisdom on abuse, social currency, and dealing with chronic mental health issues. Also she brought so many snacks. Check out the Instagram: @basicallylife_pod Check out Thabile's gram on @shale_thabile #BasicallyQueer

*Note: Our best quality* Do couple friends rock? Do Pandemics stress us? How do you go from a kiss and run to actually being together? Also do you need a leather hoody to be a smoldering lesbian? These two will facilitate ANYTHING including couple drama. They are amazing. You never have to leave yourself at the door, whatever you come with... let's do it. Check out the Instagram: @basicallylife_pod

Why do the gays not know queer women culture? What is Nandos full chicken? Does penetration mean power? This episode has the awesome Zante, a premium gay and writer. And long term homie. Check out the Instagram: @basicallylife_pod Check out Zanta's gram on @zanta_nk #BasicallyQueer

How do travel and trauma affect the talking stage? Can becoming celibate fix your dating life? you How the HELL have I been saying Efemia’s name wrong for nearly a decade? Also Efemia went on a reality dating show! Check out the Instagram: @basicallylife_pod Check out Efemia' s gram on @efemiachrisitina #BasicallyQueer

How does depressive bipolar affect sex? Is kink privileged? Why is mental health scarier to show your friends than lovers? This episode has the awesome Thabile who is dropping wisdom on abuse, social currency, and dealing with chronic mental health issues. Also she brought so many snacks. Check out the Instagram: @basicallylife_pod Check out Thabile's gram on @shale_thabile #BasicallyQueer

How do you make your pussy political? Why is dating white men such a damn stress sometimes? Can you sync your periods after not seeing each other for two years? Can you have wine with your demons. This episode has Uvania, speaking mental health, dating outside ones race and country and being a general super star. #BasicallyQueer

What is being an emotional tissue? Why does it take a village to raise and child and what happens when part of your village passes? Also, what the damn hell is an alpha femme? This episode has the awesome Nyami a digital entrepreneur, business owner and consultant and all round cool cat. Check out the Instagram: @basicallylife_pod Check out Nyami's gram on @nyaminess #BasicallyQueer

Why are heterosexual folx boring? Should straight men clap them cheeks? Do writers have demons? (duh of course they do) This episode has the awesome Zante, a premium gay and writer. And long term homie. Check out the Instagram: @basicallylife_pod Check out Zanta's gram on @zanta_nk #BasicallyQueer

What are fun names for sex toys? How do you handle being non monogamous? What is a 'monopoly'? Why is gender representation and sex so tricky? This episode has the awesome Anzio Jacobs co- founder and facilitator at Scope Facilitation, writer and activist. And a flame in five inch heels. Check out the Instagram: @basicallylife_pod Check out Anzio's gram on @imjoesir #BasicallyQueer

What is free bleeding? How does interactive s*x poetry work? Have you read they called me queer? This is Basically...Life: looking at queer sex, love and living. This episode has the awesome Kim Windvogel, curator of The Called Me Queer, founder of Femme Projects and all round bad ass. Check out the Instagram: @basicallylife_pod Check out Kim's gram on @blazingnonbinary #BasicallyQueer

Why is relationshipping a scam? What makes you stop being a baby dyke? Should you ever delete a number? This is Basically...Life: looking at queer sex, love and living. This episode has the awesome Mbali Chosen Flower, a multi faceted artist and creator who runs, the media consultancy, Chosen Flower Collections. Check out the Instagram: @basicallylife_pod Check out Mbali's gram on @chosen.collections #BasicallyQueer

HOLAAfrica has a new podcast for ya! It is weird it. It is wild. It is queer. This podcast is all about the ways in which queers are livin', lovin, and f**kin' hosted by Tiff Mugo, curator of HOLAAfrica. Every episode Tiff sits with some friends and chosen fam to chat about queer things. Check out the podcast on instagram @basicallylife_pod