How do you navigate your politics and your pleasure? How do you handle age gaps and power dynamics? Why are activists messy in the sheets whilst marching in the streets? In this episode Tiff sits and chats with this feminist powerhouse about dating in these feminist streets and how it is sometimes so wild. Check out the Instagram: @basicallylife_pod Check out The Feminist Bar on I.G: thefeministbarpodcast Tina on I.G: thefeministcreative On twitter: thefeministbar Give us a 5 star review,...

Do you have to date people forever? Should we explore different regions in our s*x lives? What happens when your holiday-bae and your mama are in a whatsapp group together? In this episode Tiff sits down with her birthday mate and new homie Kui to chat about dating in Senegal, having your mom get a very sensual photo of you and what it means to heal when you are in these dating streets. Check out the Instagram: I.G basicallylife_pod Check out Kui on Instagram I.G: kuithefish Give us a 5...

In this edition of HOLAA in a Hot Spot Tiff answers questions around wanting to just be in the streets after a break up, wondering why you constantly get dumped and being with younger people. Also gay p*rn, again. Rules of the game: 1. You can submit your questions anonymously 2. Just tell us where you are from so Tiff can give advice with context and focus. Links: Submit your questions here - forms.gle/Jq2xEQM1EX9CoWng9 Follow the Basically Life Instagram on basicallylife_pod Like,...

What is dating like in San Fran for a new queer? What sort of things to race and culture bring up? Should you go on a weekend away to a clothing optional retreat as a first date? In this episode Tiff sits down with the beautiful Kebone to discuss dating in a new country and city, dating across race and culture and how you really need to just get out there and explore when you are coming into your sexuality. Check out the Instagram: I.G basicallylife_pod Check out Kebone on Instagram I.G:...

Why don't men chat about sex? How does your childhood trauma and drama turn up in your dating life? Why are people still pulling catfish vibes in this day and age? Seriously? In this episode we have our first cis-heterosexual man! Rix the poet sits down with Tiff to discuss masculinity, co dependency, dating and finding someone who is super compatible and how at men really need to chat about the more intimate parts of being between the sheets. Check out the Instagram: I.G...

In this edition of HOLAA in a Hot Spot Tiff answers questions around being with a lovely man but wanting to open up your relationship to get more s*x, the trouble that looking straight brings to queer dating and wanting to go down on a partner. Rules of the game: 1. You can submit your questions anonymously 2. Just tell us where you are from so Tiff can give advice with context and focus. Links: Submit your questions here - forms.gle/Jq2xEQM1EX9CoWng9 Follow the Basically Life Instagram on...

In this follow up episode to the one before (which you should check out) Tiff and Siphu continue to discuss their relationship and how Siphu has been in these streets. Thinking through whether having someone at home helps with dating, what it means to be attracted to other folx and how sometimes home can bring comfort. Check out the Instagram: I.G basicallylife_pod Check out Siphu on Instagram I.G: ithongomusings Give us a 5 star review and subscribe on all your fave platforms.

How do you navigate the messy of your relationship? How long does it take to figure out being non monogamous? What is it like when your partner activates their nigerian man? In this episode Tiff sits down with Siphu to discuss how their non-monogamy has gone over the years, how money can affect a relationship and why being with other people can be messy. Check out the Instagram: I.G basicallylife_pod Check out Siphu on Instagram I.G: ithongomusings Give us a 5 star review and subscribe on...

In this edition of HOLAA in a Hot Spot Tiff answers questions around being polyam and queer in a monogamous hetero-presenting relationship, having a low key crush on women and being straight presenting. Rules of the game: 1. You can submit your questions anonymously 2. Just tell us where you are from so Tiff can give advice with context and focus. Links: Submit your questions here - forms.gle/Jq2xEQM1EX9CoWng9 Follow the Basically Life Instagram on basicallylife_pod Like, review and...

What happens to friendship groups when there is a break up? Why do gender roles always make a cameo in relationships? What are the heartaches of co-parenting when a relationship ends? In this episode I sit down with the awesome Pet and chat through a time in their life where parenting was a real thing and how that ended. Sometimes adulting can be so real. Check out the Instagram: basicallylife_pod Check out Petronella's on I.G - petronellatracy Check out her Twitter: queenyellowjuice Give...

Has sex positivity failed our sex? Is there pressure to be f**kable and sexy? Have you listened to the Awesome new podcast from Adventures? In this episode I get to sit down with my big sister, mentor and the baddest of bad bads Nana Darkoa who chats about figuring out their sex positivity, the pressure to have a W.A.P, what it means to actively engage in one’s own pleasure and their brilliant new podcast along with their ride or die Malaka. Check out the Instagram: I.G...

In this edition of HOLAA in a Hot Spot Tiff answers questions around wanting to be watch gay p*rn, another person in love with a bestie but this time dating someone else and a partner who has not had an orgasm. Rules of the game: 1. You can submit your questions anonymously 2. Just tell us where you are from so Tiff can give advice with context and focus. Links: Submit your questions here - forms.gle/Jq2xEQM1EX9CoWng9 Follow the Basically Life Instagram on basicallylife_pod Like, review...

Why don't men Google what 'feminist' means? What happens when end up recycling swipes on Tinder? Why do we love us a Ben 10? In this episode Relebone chats about their time with a younger snack, figuring out their heauxtation and the love of Jazmine Sullivan's Heaux Tales (such an awesome album). Check out the Instagram: @basicallylife_pod Check out Relebone's on I.G - @relebone Check out her Bookstagram - @blackfeatherhideout Give us a 5 star review, and subscribe on all your fave...

What is a vulva worship party? How do you balance addiction in a new relationship? How do you find yourself after years of depression? 'My orgasms still feel great, the sun still feels great on my body and that's what matters.' In this episode Safia sits down with our host to unpack their love, life and how addiction and healing plays into it. Also the sun feels good on their skin. Check out the Instagram: @basicallylife_pod Check out Saf on I.G: thccc_saf69 Give us a 5 star review, and...

In this edition of HOLAA in a Hot Spot Tiff answers questions around wanting to be spanked in bed, telling a new lover you are polyamorus and telling a friend they are queer (and into them) Rules of the game: 1. You can submit your questions anonymously 2. Just tell us where you are from so Tiff can give advice with context and focus. Links: Submit your questions here - forms.gle/Jq2xEQM1EX9CoWng9 Follow the Basically Life Instagram on basicallylife_pod Like, review and subscribe on all...

Does going to therapy mess with your relationship? Should your partner be your therapist? Is being married easy? Check out the Instagram: @basicallylife_pod Check out Anthony on I.G: oluoch Find Anthony on Twitter: oluoch Go and listen to The Padded Cell podcast - https://soundcloud.com/padded_cell Like and share, give us a 5 star review, and subscribe on all your fave platforms.

Its another cross over episode where Tina from the Feminist Bar podcast speaks about chatting s*x with their partner, figuring out what their intimacy means to them and how they are unpacking their coitus. Good times! Check out the Instagram: @basicallylife_pod Check out The Feminist Bar on I.G: thefeministbarpodcast Tina on I.G: thefeministcreative On twitter: thefeministbar Give us a 5 star review, and subscribe on all your fave platforms!

In this edition of HOLAA in a Hot Spot Tiff answers questions around a partner finding out they have an STI whilst in a monogamous relationship, coming out to your parents after coming back from abroad and trying to figure out how to make your partner c*m. Rules of the game: 1. You can submit your questions anonymously 2. Just tell us where you are from so Tiff can give advice with context and focus. Links: Submit your questions here - forms.gle/Jq2xEQM1EX9CoWng9 Follow the Basically...

What is sugar daddy energy? What is dating like in Mozambique? Why do people follow a social-sexual script? In this episode we get to chat with this beautiful being from Moz about dating, friendship and turning 30. Check out the Instagram: @basicallylife_pod Check out Eliana’s I.G: elinzualo Give us a 5 star review, and subscribe on all your fave platforms! (Also share)

In this edition of HOLAA in a Hot Spot Tiff answers questions around co-parenting after a bad break up, dating men to make your parents happy and tackling depression and isolation. Rules of the game: 1. You can submit your questions anonymously 2. Just tell us where you are from so Tiff can give advice with context and focus. Submit your questions here - https://forms.gle/Jq2xEQM1EX9CoWng9 Follow the Basically Life Instagram on basicallylife_pod Like, review and subscribe on all your...

This is a special bonus episode where Astrid run's your host through a pre- tie negotiation as well as a post tie debrief. Check out the Instagram: @basicallylife_pod Check out Embodiment CT on I.G: embodiment_ct Astrid’s gram on I.G: desirelinesbondage Give us a 5 star review, and subscribe on all your fave platforms. Links: - The Embodiment CT website - https://www.desirelinesbondage.com/ - Shibari 101: Let’s Talk About Japanese Rope Bondage -...

How is rope a form of couple communication? Does rope make Astrid h*rny? Why are old white guys always in the mix with everything? Check out the Instagram: @basicallylife_pod Check out Embodiment CT on I.G: embodiment_ct Astrid’s gram on I.G: desirelinesbondage Give us a 5 star review, and subscribe on all your fave platforms. Links: - The Embodiment CT website - https://www.desirelinesbondage.com/ - Shibari 101: Let’s Talk About Japanese Rope Bondage -...

Why are friendships so important? How do you navigate casual dating after years of being in serious relationships? What is a sex coach? In this episode we get to sit with a fave Kgothatso, who is my sweety baby and a whole sex- positive titan to speak about their love, sex and work. Check out the Instagram: @basicallylife_pod Check out Kgothatso’s sex coaching on I.G: yourpleasureadvocate Kgothatso on I.G: lyricnotic Give us a 5 star review, and subscribe on all your fave...