Welcome to the second episode in our series addressing questions that we have received from listeners. On this episode, we answer the question "How do I prepare for marriage?" We share important and practical tips on how to prepare for marriage. If you find this helpful; please share with your wider network.

In this podcast we share a few things we consider necessary ingredients for the foundation and growth of any marriage from it's inception.

We consider marriage, amongst other purposes to be a partnership with God in sanctification.

There are several common myths surrounding the institution of marriage, that might be causing more harm than good.

With the current rate of migration in the quest for a life preferred to the one experienced by many families or couple's, the social, economic, and cultural differences experienced take their toll on many couples, impacting adversely on their marriages, and homes. In this podcast, we open conversations around this looming pandemic, in the hope to create or arouse some awareness and counsel for couples to consider. We know marriages work, but they must be worked at.

The period between your engagement/decision to get married and the actual wedding for some can be laced with a lot of tension. We acknowledge that we have quite a lot of listeners who fall in this demographic and in this episode we address how to best navigate this season. Married already not to worry there is definitely something in this episode for you as well. To book our couple's counselling, follow this link - https://selar.co/bmwmarriagecounselling

In this episode we share some of our lessons in 8 years of being married. I am sure that we could go on and on if given the chance but this is 8 of our lessons. What have you learnt in your time of being together or which of the lessons stood out to you the most? share with us. (P.S the lessons shared are not in the context of abusive behaviour)

Intimacy is experienced when two people commit to knowing and caring for each other in true, open, and vulnerable ways. In this episode we tease through barriers to intimacy, and how to practically build intimacy.

Like many other skills, communication is a skill and it is definitely a necessary skill set for any marriage that would thrive. In a great relationship couples talk freely and openly….. they feel safe sharing their most private thoughts…. They comfortably verbalise their concerns and feelings when any difficulties arise and they freely express their joys when things are good. In this episode we tease through what we will like to call the rudiments of good communication and give you tools to...

What do healthy boundaries look like in marriage.  Why are boundaries important and how do we uphold , respect boundaries without feelings of guilt, contempt? In this episode we hope to answer all these and more.  So dive in!!!

Expectations unexpressed and unexamined is premeditated resentment and a recipe for frustration Unmet expectation is found at the heart of a lot of relational tension and understanding how to navigate this would bring a lot of relational freedom.  As usual this episode is practical, real and light hearted. 

Does your marriage have built in support systems that would help it thrive? In this episode we speak to how we should intentionally create and nurture support systems for our marriage and relationships.

Gender roles is one area that can never be overlooked in the lifetime of a marriage. Life is full of demands and responsibilities and the humans in the marriage must respond to keep their union living, moving, well, and balanced. it can become problematic when there are differing views, assumptions or perceptions between any given couple that guide how roles and responsibilities are decided and enagaed.  If whatever system has been employed begins to affect the health of the marriage, then...

People change; we are not meant to remain static. Life experiences and challenges shape us, mold us and in some cases, grow us.  Growth: both as individuals and as a couple-doesnt come without its reward. It isnt easy but it is worth it. In this episode we speak on navigating change in your marriage.

Happy New Year!!! Regardless of your feelings about making new year resolutions or setting goals, the new year presents a good opportunity to grow your relationship with each other. In this episode we speak to setting goals for your marriage in 2023.  Remember Marriage works and the marriages that work are worked at. We are rooting for you and are willing to work with you on the road of marital success in 2023. Don't forget to take advantage of the premarital and post marital sessions that...

Marriage requires ongoing commitment and the truth is we cannot expect to maintain connection when we are not creating the context or avenues for it. There are so many reasons why couples grow apart and a marriage loses its spark. It is very easy for marriage to settle into dangerous comfort zone. In this episode we speak to an email we received from a listener about disconnection in their marriage and we tease through the layers that can contribute to dicsonnection and how to repriortize...

Leaving and cleaving can be messy because when family is involved things get sticky. In this episode we share the practicalities of leaving and cleaving and what it looked like for us. What we hope you will hear is that leaving and cleaving is not about cutting ties... it is about boundaries...it is about the existing relationships in your life evolving to accomodate your new priorities , it is about your marital unity. 

Holding on to resentment is one of the most destructive things you can do in a relationship.  It is possible to build a resentment free relationship and marriage.  And if resentment is already a prevalent undertone in your marriage it is possible to heal and chart a path forward towards wholeness.  In this episode we unpack resentment and the danger it poses to the health of our relationships. 

One of the things marriage unearths is how different you and your spouse potentially are.  Finding out these points of difference can throw us aback and when not properly managed could be a great source of conflict and disagreement. In this episode, we speak to how we work our way around differences.

You’ve probably heard of the term “emotional baggage” before, and while we all probably deal with emotional baggages to some degree, it can become problematic when it begins to affect the health of our marriage and relationships in general. When you have emotional baggage or pain from past relationships or situations, it can creep into the present and hurt your life.  On this episode we tease through what laying down baggage and choosing love has looked like for us. If you ever need...

Intentionality is such a buzz word now and it gets thrown around but what does it mean to have an intentional marriage.  Let's face it we are all full of good intentions, but how do we translate these good intentions to actions for the greater good of your marriage? In this episode we share practical tips for cultivating a deliberate, purposive and nurturing marriage culture.