What is an enneagram? Do you know your personality type? How can knowing your intelligence center and personality type help you deal with life problems and situations? In this podcast episode, Billy and Brandy Eldridge talk to Jackie Coban about enneagrams. Meet Jackie Coban Jackie is a triple-certified coach in Life Coaching, Enneagram Coaching, and Neurolinguistic Programming. She is the founder of Table For 9 Coaching and the host of the Table for 9 podcast. She is a quick-witted, passionate, fire-cracker woman whose personal philosophy is that it IS possible to see people win in life, love, and work. Jackie is a coach who works with various individuals and groups to help them embrace who they are and what they bring to the table, no pun intended. She is well-balanced in where she has worked: law offices, anti-sex trafficking movements, the non-profit sector, human resources, finance, and the like. She had one thing in common in all places: the pull to “make it work” for everyone. After leading 5+ teams simultaneously at a non-profit organization, she realized what everyone brought to the table was truly different and equally valuable, and she wanted other people to see it, too. Visit Jackie’s website and connect on Instagram. Listen to her podcast here. In This Podcast Summary * Ugly mirrors * Jackie’s “aha” moment * WTF is the enneagram? * The enneagram and spirituality Ugly mirrors There’s gotta be a why, but I can’t figure it out. Based on the expectations around Jackie, she had been suppressing a lot. You run away as much as you can but you realize you can’t run from yourself and you finally hit a breaking point. You’re stuck with yourself, you’re in this place of knowing what’s going on around you, you know what you’re doing, and you see what you’re doing, but you can’t figure out why you’re doing it. When you don’t have something that tells you this is a stop sign, when you don’t have boundaries, and when you’re stuck, all you’re looking at is a mirror that you can’t explain. You have to look at this person in the mirror and acknowledge that you’re going to take her wherever you go but you’re going to embrace her and figure out what the healthiest version of her is. Jackie’s “aha” moment Rock bottom doesn’t have to be your only teacher. Every single day we can choose to look at ourselves and ask why. A couple of years ago, Jackie started working with survivors of trafficking. This is when she started to realize that there was a lot more to her than what she was singing. Jackie’s moment came when she hit rock bottom but she tells her clients that rock bottom doesn’t have to be their only teacher. Every day, we can choose to look at ourselves and ask why. Asking yourself that constantly and doing that little work helps you avoid rock bottom and start the journey to self-awareness. WTF is the enneagram? The enneagram is a personality test that defines nine types of people: 1. The perfectionist or the reformer At their core, they feel like if the world around them is not perfect, they’re not perfect. They fear being bad or unredeemable, because that’s what imperfection means to them. 2. The helper The kind of people that are really warm and approachable, but they honestly feel that if they’re not needed, they’re not going to be loved or seen. 3. The achiever or the best The people you look at and say they’re CEO bound. Their worth is tied to their work and they struggle a lot with imposter syndrome.