What wisdom can the enneagram give you about yourself and your loved ones? Do you belong to the enneagram types 2, 3, and 4? Can understanding these numbers and the traits behind them add deeper pools of meaning in your relationships? In this podcast episode, Billy and Brandy Eldridge speak with Jackie Coban about the Heart Center: Enneagram Numbers 2,3, and 4. Meet Jackie Coban Jackie is a triple-certified coach in Life Coaching, Enneagram Coaching, and Neurolinguistic Programming. She is the founder of Table For 9 Coaching and the host of the Table for 9 podcast. She is a quick-witted, passionate, fire-cracker woman whose personal philosophy is that it IS possible to see people win in life, love, and work. Jackie is a coach who works with various individuals and groups to help them embrace who they are and what they bring to the table, no pun intended. She is well-balanced in where she has worked: law offices, anti-sex trafficking movements, the non-profit sector, human resources, finance, and the like. She had one thing in common in all places: the pull to “make it work” for everyone. After leading 5+ teams simultaneously at a non-profit organization, she realized what everyone brought to the table was truly different and equally valuable, and she wanted other people to see it, too. Visit Jackie’s website and connect on Instagram. Listen to her podcast here. In This Podcast Summary * Heart center * Type 2: The Helper * Type 3: The Achiever * Type 4: Individualist Heart center People who have their number in the heart center collection generally lead their lives through a feeling function. They use emotional awareness and focus on relationships and desired images because that comes straight from the heart. They can struggle with shame. The more well-balanced you are as a person, the trickIer it may be to find your number in the enneagram. Jackie recommends looking for the “loudest voice” in the chart when you are looking for your numbers by evaluating them to your life experiences. Heart desire: Significance and identity. Type 2: The Helper * They are highly intuitive and emotionally well developed within their interpersonal skills. * Sit with your partner if they are a type 2 and see what parts of the enneagram they identify with as this will give you good guidance to see how to support them in a way that will be unique and fully helpful to them. * Type 2’s feel like their value comes from helping people, and that is the way they can be loved. * Type 2’s repress their minds, their thinking center. They are usually more in tune with their emotive side than their rational side. Creating a safe space for them to express their needs is the best way to help them, to remove any space where they may feel shame for saying no. The type 2’s gift of giving and helping needs to be facilitated to curb it backfiring. If you think of yourself to be part of the Type 2 bracket, consider these questions: * Toleration and boundaries * How often do you jump into something before asking ‘is this mine to do’? Type 3: The Achiever * They are optimistic, resilient, and inspiring people. * They are front and center because they prefer to lead than follow. * Type 3s tend to focus on doing rather than being; they tend to ignore their emotions and place all their focus on their actions because they feel their worth is rooted in their successes. * The lack of vulnerability they have with their emotions tends to cause a mistrust with them,