How can you move through insecurities to meet yourself, confident and clear? What can you do to create a workspace that encourages personal growth and honest, beneficial communication? Can you lean into the discomfort to better yourself? In this podcast episode, Billy and Brandy Eldridge speak with Molly Tschang who is a powerhouse of kindness. Meet Molly Tschang Founder and CEO of Abella Consulting, Molly Tschang helps senior management to Win As One—which companies often never even try to do—guiding them to commit to each other’s success and build powerful chemistry to lead together. She is also creator and host of the Say It Skillfully® Radio Show and video series, and a member of Marshall Goldsmith’s 100 Coaches initiative. Molly serves on the boards of several privately-held companies and the Cornell Engineering College Council and is a CornellTech guest lecturer on teams and leadership. Molly has held executive leadership positions at Cisco Systems and U.S. Filter, where she led the integration of over 80 acquisitions globally and helped management navigate rapid change and uncertainty in high growth environments. An advocate of social enterprise, she also served as the executive director for NetHope and is a fellow of the RSA (royal society for the arts, manufactures and commerce) and board member of Community Solutions, a finalist for the 2021 $100 million MacArthur Foundation “100 & Change” award for accelerating the end of homelessness. Visit her website and Say It Skillfully. Connect on LinkedIn and Twitter. In This Podcast Summary * Being able to be your full self * Helping people through their insecurities * Throw ‘should’ out the window Being able to be your full self I find that to be so core, to be your full self is the way forward. If we had that in the world, even 5% more, we’d be in a crazy better place and so I really wish that for all the people I know: to be comfortable in your own skin, to love yourself first and to be able to have that confidence which then enables you to serve. It is very hard to serve if you are worried about yourself. (Molly Tschang) We all have insecurities at times and move through spaces in our lives where we feel better or worse, but there comes a point in our journey towards ourselves where we know – regardless of unpredictable life – that we are going to be okay. Helping people through their insecurities If you’re not leaning into some kinds of discomfort, discomfort is a sign of growth and we’re not trying to make it super painful but I do encourage that for folks and the curiosity, not the judging, the curiosity to say ‘hey, what’s out there, what could be better?’ (Molly Tschang) When something painful comes up, it is very easy to point the finger and place the blame of the discomfort on someone or something else. Molly offers that when you find yourself doing this, change the focus from them onto you and see what is going on for you in this situation. Be curious and don’t judge yourself because self-awareness is a key attribute among some of the world’s most successful people, and it is especially amplified when it is connected to self-compassion. It takes courage to go into that space of looking at yourself in these tough situations. Some people will set themselves free and other people will hold onto the tension. Please be your best friend and not your worst enemy … you can choose to traumatize yourself, totally your call, I would just ask [you] to ask yourself: ‘would you ...