Why do we love having sexual fantasies, and what are their benefits?   On this episode, Sara chats with guests Mo and Andy, who are stand-up comedians that host the local Ho Ho Hong Kong podcast so be prepared for some big laughs.   We discuss how sexual fantasies stimulate arousal, are an escape from reality (like the pandemic), alleviate boredom and can even help us heal from past traumas.   We each share a few of our own personal stories around our favourite sexual fantasies and...

What does consent look like, and how do you make it sexy?   In this episode, Sara invites sex-positive friends Jessica and Prescott Gaylord to talk about their personal experiences on consent.   Prescott is an improv actor and instructor who facilitates consent workshops. And on the show, he gives us practical techniques and exercises on how to establish better consent and boundaries.   We talk about our definitions of consent and how our personal feelings towards this concept have...

Is long-distance a deal-breaker for your sex and love life, or can it actually make things hotter and better? In this episode, Sara chats with sex-positive friends Helen and James, who have both been in long-term long-distance relationships and are happy to share their experiences. We talk about some of the difficulties couples may experience with intimacy and the misunderstandings that occur over long-distance relationships. But more importantly, we talk about how to keep it sexy and...

Sexual desire, or libidos, naturally ebb and flow. Sometimes over a course of a single day. So one of the most common challenges that couples face in relationships is a loss of desire or mismatched libidos. Often in these situations, sex begins to feel like a chore or a performance, which leads to further avoidance.   On this Sex FAQs episode, Sara and relationship coach, Valentina Tudose from Happy Ever After tackle common questions crowdsourced from listeners around the topics of desire,...

Dirty talk usually gets a bad rep. After all, sex isn’t dirty – so why should talking about it be?   On this hilarious episode, Sara chats with her sex-positive friends Kat and James, who are never short on things to say, in the bedroom or otherwise. We talk about the many benefits of dirty talk – from building fantasy, increasing arousal, establishing consent, getting validation and connecting more deeply with one’s partner.   We explore the many different styles – from flirty, naughty,...

How has the global pandemic affected your sex and love life? And how can you ‘corona-proof’ your relationship against the stress, uncertainty and conflict?   A crisis like the one we find ourselves in accelerates the dynamics of any relationship, and you may feel more intense emotions for each other or reach breaking point more quickly.   We’re all concerned about staying physically healthy during these times; but it just as important to keep your relationships safe, strong and healthy...

What did you learn in sex-ed class, and what do you wish you had learned? Often there’s a big difference between the two!   Sara and guests Jules Hannaford, teacher and host of the Hong Kong Confidential podcast and comedian Elena Gabrielle of Story Party, talk about the sex education we received, which was shrouded in fear, abstinence and shame.   We share our early sexual experiences, and reflect on what we wished we’d known about STI’s, consent and responsibility at that time.   We...

Is your perception of BDSM and kink informed by the infamous Fifty Shades of Gray?   Even though the Fifty Shades franchise does a lot to bring BDSM to the mainstream, it also get a lot of things wrong. Particularly one of BDSM’s key principles, negotiating consent.   Sara and co-host Kat sit down with Jannus of KinkBites — a veteran kinkster, community organizer, and Hong Kong dungeon manager — to lament the Fifty Shades effect, and the myths and misconceptions around BDSM that it...

Do people with disabilities have a right to be sexual? And what can they teach able-bodied people about intimacy and sexuality?    On this episode, Sara and co-host Kat talk to Carmen Yau, a registered social worker with a PhD from Hong Kong Polytechnic University and founder of erotica collection, “Sugar’s XXX Stories”.   Having been born with spinal muscular atrophy, Carmen is an iconic spokesperson for the sexual equality of people with disabilities and women. She is very vocal about...

How do we keep that initial passion for sex and intimacy alive for the long-haul?   Highly sought after sexual/marital psychotherapist and founder of The Academy of Lasting Love, Nikki Green shares some illuminating lessons with Sara and co-host Kat from over 20 years of experience primarily working with women in Hong Kong.   She believes that great sex can definitely survive over the long-haul however it’s a myth that it will just happen spontaneously and naturally. Sex is usually full...

Ever felt self-conscious about your body during sex? Studies show that shame and anxiety about one's body lead to the avoidance of physical intimacy and reduced sexual satisfaction. On this episode, Sara and co-host Kat follow Curvasian.com founder and body positive advocate Bertha Chan through her journey that led her to thrive as a plus-size woman in Asia. Regardless of what size you are, we learn what can be done to cultivate a stronger sense of body positivity in our everyday lives.

We all love orgasms because they feel good, but are we actually using them to their full potential? Life and business coach Hani believes we can harness powerful orgasmic energy to create abundance and success in the rest of our lives – including our careers, business and relationships.  We talk about the philosophy behind YUMMY orgasms, a unique practice brought about by orgasmic meditation, which combines mindfulness and orgasm. We then demonstrate a 5 minute orgasmic meditation on-air...

How has technology changed the world of dating and finding love? In some ways, the Internet has made it easier to meet and connect with people outside our immediate social circle. Yet it’s also exploded our options, and the choices can be paralysing. So finding love could be more challenging. Sara and guest Lauryn Huang, CEO of Grouvly discuss the impact that online dating has had on our psyches, and whether we still believe in romance.

We all know that wellness is important, but what about sexual wellness? Sara and co-host Ben interview Billie Quinlan and Anna Hushlak, the creators of Ferly (https://weareferly.com, formerly called Leika at time of recording), an app that guides women through various areas of sexual wellness, aiming to transform their relationship to sex. Billie and Anna deliver an empowering message – equating sexual wellness with self-respect and self-love, and defining the impact that it has on a woman's...

Want more “Secrets of the Bedroom”? Cumming right up!  **This sequel episode covers all the material that we’d crowdsourced for the live show but didn’t end up being featured due to time - and public decency - constraints. We recommend that you listen to episode 19 before this episode to get the full Secrets experience.**  Jye and Sara are joined by Kat Leung, our live show panelist as we reflect on the highlights of the live show, as well as the entire Better in Bed season. 

What's the secret to.... having a threesome? Having anal sex pleasurably? Using a strap-on? Or keeping sex fresh in a long-term relationship?    Everything is on the table at our live podcast, which was recorded on International Women's Day, and featured a panel of our favourite podcast guests and sex experts answering burning questions crowdsourced from our audience, i.e. you!   We laughed (and maybe died a little inside) over the awkward sex stories that were shared and some of the...

Is porn harmful or beneficial?    With 30million people watching it every second and the average age of exposure being 11 years, porn in today's world has become a pervasive force we can't ignore.    On this episode, Sara and Jye are joined by sex-positive friends Taura Edgar and Ross Gawelek to discuss all things porn. We discuss our personal experiences of porn, from how we discovered it to how its evolved, and the resulting impact on our watching habits.    By sharing the different...

Think swinging is just for leathery, old couples swishing around keys in a bowl? Think again.    Or maybe swing again... and from that chandelier in the sex club!    On this episode, Sara and Jye explore another form of open relationship with married couple, Ben and Fern Bale, who open up about how swinging keeps their relationship fresh and exciting.    They also explain basic swinger terminology ("soft swap, anyone?") and protocol, debunk common swinger myths and as well as give...

Why do we always want what we can't have? And want to do the things we shouldn't do?   Sara and Jye invite Jayde Lovell, the YouTube host of popular science show SciQ, (https://www.youtube.com/channel/UClydU5bsfQTzebnMMZ4CqUw) to shed some light from the fascinating world of neuroscience.    Jayde helps us understand how the brain is susceptible to the heightened risk and excitement of any forbidden sexual act - thanks dopamine and adrenaline!   We discuss how to overcome the shame...

Sextech refers to any technology or tech-driven venture that enhances the human sexuality experience. Its the US$30 billion industry that you've never heard of... and no, its not just sex robots and VR porn.  On this episode, Sara and Jye's worlds collide as we talk all things sextech with Gavin Heaton of Disruptor's Handbook (https://disruptorshandbook.com/). Together with Bryony Cole, Gavin is also part of the team that hosts the Future of Sex global hackathon and accelerator series.

How well acquainted are you with ... tops, bottoms, otters, wolves, bears, cubs or twinks?  Sara and Jye take a lighthearted look at some of the most common terminology used in the gay world with their guest Tom Attenborough this episode. 

Love it or hate it, we all have to play the dating game to stand a chance of finding love or even getting laid.  Sara and Jye discuss the triumphs and travails of dating in today's world with the very entertaining Elena Gabrielle (https://www.elenagabrielle.com/). As a comedienne from touring dating show "Story Party" and host of sex-positive, underground variety show Dirrty Cabaret in Berlin, Elena has heard it all.

Sara and Jye record their very first mobile podcast at Hong Kong's female-friendly, intimate lifestyle store Sally Coco, surrounded by all the wonderful things that vibrate, pulsate and oscillate. We follow the personal journey of founder Vera Lui, who talks about how a vibrator changed her life and led her to start Sally Coco. Discover the unlikely origins and evolution of sex toys, as well as what benefits they can bring to your sex life.

Need yet another reason this year to hit the gym? Well, tune in and drop it like a squat! On this episode, fitpreneur Mack Pijewski (http://mackfitt.com) joins Jye and Sara in the studio to deconstruct the link between sex and fitness, and the discussion spans neurochemicals, nutrition, mobility and more. Find out if "coregasms" actually exist, why pelvic floor training is beneficial for both sexes, and whether sex has an impact on performance before a big sporting event. 

What is female ejaculation, aka squirting? And why is it considered so hot yet so controversial? Sara and Jye are joined in the studio by sex educator Christina Antonyan, founder of http://wwwconfidentlovers.com for literally, the juiciest episode on record yet. So don't forget your umbrella!  We dive headfirst into the mystery and fantasy surrounding squirting, as well as debate the science behind what female ejaculate consists of.