I wish I knew that part of healing and actually creating the life you want to experience - with joy, attunement, connection, authenticity and feeling safe in the space you exist in - wasn't all gamor and ease. There is a period of adjustment that I wasn't expecting and in this episode my intention is to pass along this lesson to you, to enable you to move through it with less overwhelm and more ease. When your perspective filter has been set to "what is the worst possible scenario? and what...

In this episode of The Boldly Becoming You podcast we travel back in time to the dark ages of our relationship.  A time without communication. A time…without boundaries 😱😵😵😱 We cover: How the older you get, the more overwhelming boundaries can become How capacity but also the fear of being a burden, inconveniencing someone else and what we see others do inform our ability and willingness to identify our needs. An important question to ask if you are in a relationship that has a long...

This one might hit you right in the trauma. You are sacrificing your time, energy and your future far too often for far too little.  The reality is…you’re a problem, you’re a real problem. But so were we.  In this episode, we talk about: Tasha and Brandon talk about the silent fight in sharing Instagram posts with each other  How I kept telling myself, I just don't have enough time to do all the things I want to do How Brandon’s title as the “perfect husband” was BAD for both of us   ...

What started out as a fun, lighthearted exploratory adventure has turned into a journey to trust myself and my body after years of feeling untethered from it.  One of the biggest disappointments in getting sick in 2014 and being officially diagnosed in 2017 with myalgic encephalomyelitis, ME/CFS, was that Brandon and I were told, "It's unlikely you'll get better. And you'll be lucky, you'll be lucky to not get worse." In this episode, I share some of that journey and the bigness of one of...

If you’re a list maker, note taker, or a to-do guru then you KNOW that if it’s not on a list, it ain’t happ’nin.  So then why oh why does everyone get all weird when we bring up the topic of Vision Boards? …is it maybe because they have been turned into this big scary expectation of happily ever after or else? Or maybe it’s because no one ever told you how you are actually supposed to use the damn thing.  In this episode we talk about how to unlock the magic of your vision boards so you...

In this episode, we get into the weirdly challenging concept of Visualization - what it really is, why it feels hard and what to do to make it easier AND more effective. As we battle our self-imposed timer we dig into our respective relationships with visualizing and goal setting…And we talked about goats, and to a lesser extent, chicken. Seats to The Boldly Becoming You Workshop are currently $97. If you’re fed up with trying to figure out a system to make your goals actually happen, this...

In this episode we talk about a concept that is overlooked by almost everyone. Capacity.  Where does it all go? Why do we think we have more of it than we do, and a few ideas that will get you thinking…”oh yeah, that does make me tired”. AND we give you a few tips to navigate this whole “capacity” issue. This is a big deal, because without understanding the capacity you have, setting and achieving your goals is going to be impossible. You wouldn’t go on a 5 hour drive without looking to...

Earlier this week we asked the question: “What do YOU think is stopping you or standing in the way of you having what you want” In this episode, we dig into your responses and our own relationship with goals, success and how we completely shifted our focus to out of burnout and off the neverending treadmill of letdown and disappointment in ourselves and our results. Specifically: Being too tired and overwhelmed to even think about setting goals past sleep Wanting to want to have the...

I don’t know if you’ve noticed, but almost all of the 2024 new year content on social media is basically gone. That’s because all of that “New Year, New You” crap is all based on the idea of having everything PERFECTLY mapped out all before January 1st. At R & R, we know that expecting yourself to have your entire year perfectly planned and ready to go by the end of December is based on a bunch of arbitrary rules that throws perfectionists into anxiety fueled fight/flight survival...

2023 was a BIG year for my personal growth and healing. It was a lot of inner work and in this episode I share the big lessons I learned including the new non-negotiable I made a vow to do before I touched anything I care about. As a result of the commitment I made last year to keep facing my fears, and having the support I needed to stick with it, I grew my capacity and am dreaming bigger, attracting more abundance than I ever have as a result. My ability to see a more expansive future for...

If you’re like I was, a successful business owner making 6 figures for multiple years, but thinking that one more hour, one more call, one more post was going to be the thing that makes or breaks your business, you need to listen to this episode. I share a very personal story about a distressing couples' therapy session that had me REELING, raging and angry sobbing the rest of the day. But ultimately, was the catalyst for so much growth, healing and expansion into a life I am grateful to...

Doom scrolling IG and binge-ing New Girl and Schitt’s Creek are not hobbies or special interests 😉 my friend. But if you're like me, or Brandon, you have a complicated relationship with fun, creativity and "leisure time" because ...like who has time for that? In the long-term, not having activities that are exclusively for your joy or pleasure will 100% land you in burnout. And not just the I’m tired and unmotivated stage, the full-fledged body shutting down, chronic health issues burnout. ...

In this episode, Brandon shares part of his journey to create his first 2 originals in his clothing line. You'll hear the story behind the Introvert Hoodie and the power of having art you can wear that speaks to your needs and desires. Plus, how mean girls on the internet started a ripple of love and authenticity to Brandon's self-expression this year adding more validation and affirmation for the genderqueer layer of their identity. "The BB Pullover is a love letter to Tasha" and in this...

Being seen, listened to, understood, and validated is a CRUCIAL missing piece from our respective childhoods. And it continues into our adult lives, for many reasons, deteriorating your ability to see how truly brilliant and meaningful you are. In this episode, I share a story about a birthday cookie that made me feel invisible and one of the MAJOR differences between how we coach our clients...based on a lifetime of being treated like just everyone else and one of the super powers we use...

How a hard conversation led to one small habit and the massive ripple effect a year later. Brandon shares his experience including the adventures and creativity he's been inspired by, as well as the Introvert Hoodie and BB Sweatshirt he launched last month. (you can pre-order yours here) Check out Habit Magic and the new flex pay option through Wednesday, November 15.   Share this with people you love and on your social media if you found value in this episode. Check out our links page...

Nell was fed up with her business being so hard, waking up with her heart racing, pressure in her chest and flushed with anxiety and panic as she launched into action to get her business WORKING. Her confidence was on a roller coaster, depending on how her social media content was performing, and she was angry, flooded with emotion and was close to throwing in the towel despite having a solid foundation of engaged and aligned followers AND having had genuine success in selling her courses and...

If you're like me, for most of your life, you've been told to not make excuses for "bad behavior" or when you didn't get something done that you were supposed to. And as a result, you haven't been able to actually give yourself the grace and compassion you deserve for all the times, and all the ways, your good intentions and thoughtful planning didn't turn out the way you had hoped.  In this episode, Brandon and I cover the difference between an excuse and an explanation, specific aspects of...

TWO HUNDRED episodes and it's been a full evolution. In this episode I share some of the things I have learned, let go of and what's coming up next in this season of expansion, releasing MORE perfectionism to make room for BIG Bold worthiness and joy. Thank you for being on this journey with me and I love how we keep showing up to do this together. Share this with people you love and on your social media if you found value in this episode! Check out our links page for free resources and on...

We've all heard that the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results. But the tricky thing with Perfectionism and trauma response patterns in general is that it often doesn't feel like you have much choice.  And until you understand how your micro-decisions send a ripple into your daily life, you can feel powerless. In this episode, Brandon shares an experience from last night where he made a decision that was breaking his own rule - a rule...

In this episode, I share some recent thoughts on ...thoughts. And I invite you to challenge yours - are they true? How do you know? What would happen if they aren't yours? What's available to you if you don't keep believing them? Share this with people you love and on your social media if you found value in this episode. Check out our links page for free resources and on events, as it is updated regularly. Follow me on Instagram: @rulesandrebellion Follow me on Tiktok:...

In this teary episode, we talk about:  - our biggest lessons, takeaways, and gratitudes from our 15 years of choosing each other. - Brandon shares his journey with a recent art project that is PERFECT for the introvert in the fall and winter season. - Brandon secretly created a thoughtful and surprise love note as an anniversary gift.   Links for the Hoodie and Sweatshirt Check out our links page for free resources and on events, as it is updated regularly. Follow on Instagram:...

Our environments heavily influence us in daily life and in long-term achievements, satisfaction and creativity. If you aren't actively and intentionally choosing the people, places and things that influence you, it's likely you have some undetected resistance happening in daily life, adding to your frustrations, disappointments and false starts. Great news, although we can't change the governement overnight or the social systems we live among, we do have a lot more choice in our daily life...

Another fabulous LIVE session on IG and FB turned into a podcast episode 🎉 Myths about habits: - It takes 21 days to create a habit ❌ - If you don’t do it EVERY day, you aren’t being consistent ❌ - Bad habits are just because you aren’t committed or motivated enough ❌ A habit is a behavior or thought that repeats. You know that your habits make up most of your daily life and that there are some habits you want to or wish you already had locked down and there is a mile long list of "bad"...

A 'skill' is the ability to do something well. The practicing part, the assessing what "well" means, the procrastination, people pleasing, hyper-productivity and pickiness - all contribute to that Perfectionist fight/flight skill development derailment.  But you can do it differently when you understand what's happening with your real life and your nervous system. You're going to want to listen to this one a couple times so make sure you save it and share it with your recovering...