In this episode, I investigate why we seek male validation.   In Part 2, I discuss options and exercises to help you stop seeking male validation. For more tools on dating and centering yourself on:https://www.charliestoolbox.com/ Twitter: https://www.charliestoolbox.com/ Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/charliestool...Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/charliestoo...  #decentermen #dating #selfhelp. Listen to Charlie's Toolbox on: Spotify:https://open.spotify.com/show/7cQHIKl...Apple...

Every day I receive questions about what it looks like to center yourself. I also receive complaints about how hard it is or how much women struggle to make decisions for themselves. So, I thought it would be a great idea to interview women from all backgrounds to show you that centering yourself is not as complex as it seems. In this episode, we interview Shelby Ivey Christie, an American fashion and costume historian.

Every day I receive questions about what it looks like to center yourself. I also receive complaints about how hard it is or how much women struggle to make decisions for themselves. So, I thought it would be a great idea to interview women from all backgrounds to show you that centering yourself is not as complex as it seems. We interview Tyler Young, a documentarian, screenwriter, producer, and director, in this episode.   Check out our YouTube :...

This episode is a little unorthodox. I’ve done a great job on Twitter and Instagram letting folks know that I am human. I like this because I don’t want to be placed on a pedestal. I just want to give you all the tools I learned on the way so that you can bypass a lot of heartbreak or b******t.  So, I want to keep that same understanding on here and let you all in on what is going on with me…  

It's Women's History Month and as promised I have another interview. This interview was filled with vulnerability and I hope that you see strength in it. Remember, there are many facets to centering yourself, and being your authentic self everywhere is the best way

Every day I receive questions about what it looks like to center yourself. I also receive complaints about how hard it is or how much women struggle to make decisions for themselves. So, I thought it would be a great idea to interview women from all backgrounds to show you that centering yourself is not as complex as it seems. In the first episode, we are interviewing Valese Jones public relations extraordinaire

Every day I receive questions about what it looks like to center yourself. I also receive complaints about how hard it is or how much women struggle to make decisions for themselves. So, I thought it would be a great idea to interview women from all backgrounds to show you that centering yourself is not as complex as it seems. In the first episode, we are interviewing Amina Aweis, a former software engineer who advocates for web accessibility.

This episode is for the hyper-aware who is ready to leave at the slightest inconvenience and the overly invested who takes every part of the dating process so personally. These two groups suffer from the same affliction trauma from relationships or childhood and a lack of emotional boundaries to help them cope with their dating anxieties.

This episode is for the hyper-aware who is ready to leave at the slightest inconvenience and the overly invested who takes every part of the dating process so personally. These two groups suffer from the same affliction trauma from relationships or childhood and a lack of emotional boundaries to help them cope with their dating anxieties.  

In today's episode, we discuss the road to building your self-worth. I thought this would be a great topic because it is an area that we all struggle with. This episode will outline several steps to help you strengthen your muscle of Self-Worth. Please use these tips and add them to your life toolbox. 

In today's episode, we discuss the single-girl holiday blues. Lately, there’s been an overall gloom single people bring to the holidays. Mostly it is because you all see the girls with their partners happy, joyful, and receiving gifts. Their joy does not have to make you feel bad. Instead, you can have a different attitude about the holidays and lighten the mood for yourself.  

There has been so much that people have gone through these past couple of years. People have experienced death, isolation, disruption to their everyday life, heartbreak, political unrest, failure, and the loss of their job. These moments are earth-shattering and have a profound effect on every one of us. Though I cannot make these situations easier, with less grief, and sadness, I can help you process them and move forward in a hopeful and optimistic way. You should leave this episode...

The new year comes with weight and body goals. Along with those goals is an increase in criticism, self-loathing, and an internal dialogue that would quite frankly crush you. The objective of this episode is to steer you in another direction and provide you with a set of tools to inspire appreciation for your body.

Welcome to this week’s episode of Charlie’s toolbox. Today’s topic is safety. Physical and emotional safety. This is an interesting topic because I’ve seeing tips typically used by experienced sex workers passed off as dating advice. I worry about this because sex workers are not naïve about men, but you all are, and your naivety is something that can be preyed upon, exploited, and used as an opening for violence. So, you need to be clear about what safety is and what it is not.  

This week we are going to discuss what to do when a friend betrays you. This is a timely discussion because there's been an upswing in videos discussing the heartbreak of losing someone you once thought was a friend. By the end of the episode, you should leave this with solid tips on how to cope with losing a friend you once loved. 

In this episode, I discuss five elements required to create a good foundation for friendship. By the end of the episode, you should be able to articulate your needs and expectations for your friends. You should also send this episode to friends to help them tell their needs and expectations as well. The objective of this episode is to help you think clearly about friendships and to ensure you've laid the proper foundation for a loving one. 

This episode is all about aging. We take a deep dive into aging what models we use to shape our new identity, and how difficult aging can be for women. You should leave this episode with a new model of aging, a deeper understanding of why we view aging in such dread, and tips on keeping your joy and hope intact while aging gracefully. Time Stamps: Intro:22About Me:51Song of the Week: 2:21Main topic 3:30Tips 12:24 For more tools on dating and centering yourself on:...

In this episode, I discuss how parenting impacts the way you see suffering. I help you understand why we should be more critical on parents because it impacts children so much. You should leave this episode knowing that suffering isn't your birthright and that your parents owe you more. 

In this episode, I discuss why using usefulness to build relationships is not a healthy strategy for healthy relating. This episode shows how you develop this thought process. It walks through two parenting frameworks, and shows you how each framework shapes your relationship skills. Lastly, I provide tips to help you work on rewriting that thought process. At the end of this episode, you should know how  parenting frameworks show up in adults and impact their relationships.    Time...

In this episode, I discuss what decentering men looks like. Unfortunately, there aren’t a lot of examples, and we don’t always discuss the steps it took to get to a space where men aren’t shattering or directing your life. After this episode, you should have insight into what decentering men looks like. What questions to ask yourself while in the process.  Also, you should use this episode to affirm the process you’ve already developed.

In this episode, I discuss the price of entertaining disrespect while dating. After this episode, you should have insight into what disinterest communicates to you. You should be able to see how hand-holding and guiding prospects through the dating process is harmful to your self-worth and disrespects you. Finally, I show what you are giving up when you try to coerce men through anger or tears into treating you with decency.  

In this episode, I discuss your emotions, no matter how uncomfortable they may make you feel are you. They aren’t separate entities that you manage. They are signals that tell you what you enjoy, what’s pleasant, what you dislike, and what you don’t want around you. All of those things are what you choose friends from, community from, or hobbies from.  So, what do you think happens when you ignore them?

This episode discusses the new crop of narcissists using self-help tools to manipulate and exploit women.    For more tools on dating and centering yourself on: https://www.charliestoolbox.com/ Twitter: https://www.charliestoolbox.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/charliestool... Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/charliestoo...   #decentermen #dating #selfhelp.   Listen to Charlie's Toolbox on: Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/7cQHIKl... Apple...

In this episode, I discuss the elements of confidence, steps I took, the experiences that shaped me, the steps I suggest, and the results of the work.    For more tools on dating and centering yourself on: https://www.charliestoolbox.com/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/charliestoolbox Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/charliestoolboxx Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/charliestoolbox/   Listen to Charlie's Toolbox on: Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/7cQHIKl... Apple Podcast:...

In this episode, we discuss how consuming beautifying yourself becomes and the ways to subvert these standards and expectations so that you can feel good in your skin, as you are.    For more tools on dating and centering yourself on: https://www.charliestoolbox.com/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/charliestoolbox Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/charliestoolboxx Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/charliestoolbox/       Listen to Charlie's Toolbox on: Spotify:...