Oftentimes when I'm working with clients who find themselves repeating relationship patterns, anxiously attached, or fearful of getting hurt their main focus during dating & courtship is to change the man. Your love lens is so intensely focused on him that you may not realize your subconscious fears are causing you to show up as controlling, needy, or simply less attractive.  This is the opposite of what you actually want, right? Right. This behavior causes drama, pushes the man away, and prematurely ends promising relationships that could lead to deeper commitment. Instead, focus your love lens on you. In this episode you will learn the importance of not changing a man and how it can improve the quality of your life and self-love. Links mentioned in this episode: FREE Love Loops mini course - Discover your relationship patterns and how to change them The Captivating Courtship Code Lifetime Community - Become a member of the CCC community and get the 6 step proven process to heal relationship patterns, create your captivating life and attract love. Join The Captivating Courtship Code Coaching - Enjoy the luxury and intimacy of live coaching in our exclusive group coaching community for greater success and support to transform your love life for good. Have a question? DM Zara on Instagram @zarajcaptivatingcourtship or email [email protected]