Do you have difficulty allowing yourself to be fully authentic, vulnerable, and feel safe connecting with a man's heart? When you are attempting to attract commitment from sabotaging relationship patterns, child trauma, or unhealed wounds you will have a hard time communicating from your heart without fear of rejection, disappointment, or being judged. This is way, learning how to communicate and connect from the heart is one of the most powerful ways you can transform your love life and...

Have you been selling yourself on settling? In this episode we discuss what it actually means to sell yourself on settling, why you do it, and how to stop so that you can attract the healthy relationship you deserve. Too often, women confuse settling with status, accolades, or even ego driven desires. However, actual settling is much deeper and has a greater mental, emotional, and spiritual impact. When you sell yourself on either settling to stay single or settling for less than you...

Have you been feeling burnt out with courtship and dating? The feeling of "burnout" is often linked to deeper emotions that's causing you to want to shutdown, avoid or simply do nothing with your love life. While it's understandable to feel frustrated or disappointed at times, being burnout is typically the result of managing your beliefs, emotions, and actions during the courtship process. Wanting a relationship is normal. Every human wants to feel understood, connected and loved. Yet,...

If you haven't felt sure about what steps to take to meet new men this episode is for you. Today, we're discussing Captivating Courtship's signature 5 step Love Links strategy and how you can use it to self-assess what actionable steps you can take to meet quality men and attract an authentically aligned partner. The Love Links strategy is a simple road map shared with The Captivating Courtship Code's clients to navigate the relationship market and expand dating and courtship options,...

The relationship pattern known as the LoveMe Love Loop is known for self-sacrificing during courtship, dating and relationships in order to people please and meet their potential partner's needs. The hopeless romantics of the 8 Love Loops, their willingness to prove their worth through people pleasing and shrinking their voice is their strongest form of self-sabotage that keeps them from having the relationship and connection they deeply desire. In this episode, we dive into the LoveMe...

Do you have the Trophy Love Loop? One of the biggest challenges with the Trophy Love Loop is having difficult keeping boundaries due to a fear of missing out. This fear is rooted in survival emotions that not only causes low value behaviors in relationships and your personal life, but it also causes you to attract and work to keep relationships that are low value and less than you deserve. All of this is rooted in thoughts, feelings and beliefs of not being worthy of the love and security...

If you have been single for years or find yourself experiencing the same types of relationships, men, or courtship and dating experiences you may be in a Love Loop. Love Loops are the signature 8 sabotaging relationship patterns that makes it difficult to build a happy, healthy relationship that leads to long-term commitment or marriage. Each of the 8 Love Loops has different experiences, beliefs, feelings, and actions that keeps them in the loop. Some are more difficult to break than others....

In this episode we discuss how you can take the leap to captivating courtship this year. Zara opens up about challenges, pivots, and changes needed in order to create the most aligned vision and ways to assist women transform their relationship patterns so they can improve the quality of their love life and attract a healthy relationship. You will learn about new programs, services, and coaching options available to assist you with the most important aspects of the dating and courtship...

Do you need to heal to attract a healthy relationship? This episode is a special live coaching episode that dives into questions about making the decision to heal and prepare for marriage instead of waiting until you are in the marriage and working with your spouse to heal from past trauma. We discuss the impact itself -esteem and self-worth on your ability to attract a healthy relationship, along with thoughts around having to choose between being single and focusing on travel and career vs...

This episode is from Captivating Courtship's monthly live training hosted by Zara J. Come join live and learn with us about the latest tools, tips, and information in the dating and relationship industry.  In this episode, we discuss practical steps to find a spouse, blocks that may be holding you back, and the main focus to increase potential options if you have not been courted by a man for at least 30 days, in the last 6 months. Apply to The Captivating Courtship Code coaching...

In this episode, we dive deep into the world of courtship and dating, focusing on successful women aged 28-43 who have a burning desire to find love and get married within the next 12 months. Join us as we unmask the most common courtship and dating mistakes that may be hindering their path to marriage and provide a roadmap for success. We begin by discussing the importance of setting clear relationship goals and defining the path to marriage. By understanding what you truly desire in a...

When you are in survival mode being in your authenticity and attracting a man who shares your authentic values in courtship is a challenge. This is because when you are anxious, fearful of getting hurt, or trying to control the outcome of the relationship you aren't focused on building meaningful connections. Instead, you will simply focus on securing the man or the relationship, even if he is the wrong partner for you. While it's a good thing to have resilience in courtship, applying...

How do you push past an ex and deal with interfaith relationships? In today's coaching episode, we'll have an insightful conversation about how to do just that. In relationships and specifically interfaith relationships, it's important to understand why we feel the way we do and process our emotions. In this episode, she admits that she still misses her ex because he had certain qualities that she can't find in other men around her. But as she digs deeper, she realizes that she's not open...

You don’t need to go through pain and relationship issues for months or years on end to find a valuable man who is worthy of you. Today’s episode brings to you freshly brewed stories for the Captivating Courtship Code which are examples to tell you How and why to stop wasting time with a relationship that’s going nowhere. Many high-achieving women rush into the dating and courtship process, focusing solely on the outcome. This will lead to being in cycles of non-committal relationships,...

Humility in your spirit is a beautiful virtue to have but it can make you shrink in your courtship process in a way that is unhealthy for both your partner and most importantly, you. Take a deep dive into this episode to know why humility does not serve successful women during dating and courtship. Since time immemorial women have been taught to be less, speak less, and express less. It has never been safe for a woman, especially women of color to be seen and heard. We grow with...

If you have been dedicating 10-15 years of your life to education, growth, and self-development, you deserve a partner who understands you and is authentically aligned with your values. Today’s episode brings you an in-depth dive into the 3rd and 4th mistakes of the Courtship Mistakes series of episodes in our podcast! If you find yourself jumping into situations that don’t go too far, it is because there is somewhere in you a lack of confidence in your own ability to feel valued, loved,...

Being committed is defined as being devoted to seeing it through. It means when you know you’re in it to win it. Today’s episode works through understanding commitment readiness levels, in not just your potential partner but also yourself. A relationship starts with you looking inward first. Before questioning if the man is commitment ready, it is essential to work on yourself and get to the point where you are able to receive that commitment healthily. There are cold guys, warm ones,...

In todays's episode of the series, 6 courtship mistakes successful women make and how to correct them, we dive into courtship mistake #1: Successful women not focusing on valuable and authentically aligned men. Many accomplished and successful women don’t know how to identify and attract valuable men. Over my 8 years in the relationship industry, we’ve worked with a spectrum of professional women who desire to partner with men they deem as valuable.  It became clear they had no real idea how...

You come to bed tired from home, you switch between the dating apps, you get drained from introducing yourself to men who don’t match your energy, before you drool to sleep. Now imagine finding men you can authentically connect to, men who are willing and eager to create a deep, heartfelt connection with you without being hesitant or having their walls up. Spend time with this image in your head, sit with it, embody it. Because you are about to actually find these “imaginary” men like...

DID YOU KNOW that YOUR BIRTH CONTROL could impact the kind of partners you’re picking or decisions you’re making in your courtship process? This episode is eye-opening for millenial women who are trying to balance busy careers, love and wellness. Hormonal health directly affects how your relationships and potential body image issues, anxiety, fatigue, emotional management and how you feel about yourself! Your hormones also can affect how you emotionally react, communicate and navigate your...

If you’ve been feeling like you’re running on a treadmill and not making any real progress, it is because you don’t yet know who you truly are in a relationship - what your relationship patterns are, what works for you & what doesn’t and what you want in the future of your love life. If you’ve ever had the thought of marriage and a family in your future, know this: it is 100% available to you and the voice in your head that tells you it’s not, is lying to you. No matter how much...

Of the top three relationship pattern types (The Too Goods, The Love MEs and the Trophies), which one are you? Most people fit into one dominating pattern type and one or two other sub pattern types. Not knowing and owning your authentic value in a relationship may be happening because your inner girl is still choosing your partners and making decisions in your relationships. So, you seek validation or settle in a relationship. In this episode, we deep dive into the three main...

In this episode, Zara breaks down why discovering your relationship patterns will be the turning point of your love life- not just for your love life but your other relationships, your career, your finances, your health and your self image. What takes you from being a Wounded Princess to a Captivating Queen is healing your inner child. Your inner child has felt insecure, abandoned, ignored, unheard and triggered. This is why, even now, your inner child is running the show. This is why,...

If you attract emotionally unavailable men there may be a chance you are also emotionally unavailable. Do you want to know how to build and turn a long distance courtship into marriage? Maryama says “Don’t wait until things get worse. The sooner you take action, the better your life will be!” If you’re a successful millennial woman and you have been actively courting and dating and you don’t know where to start, this podcast is tailor-made for YOU! When she joined coaching, Maryama...

YOUR BRAIN IS NOT WIRED TO FIND LOVE! The good news is that you can rewire it. Do you feel like every time you take one step forward with attracting a partner, you go three steps back in your love life? Do you at this point question your desirability or ability to find love? We are all operating on negative thought loops and patterns we default to because they feel familiar and safe. The way out of this cycle is to learn how to process from the present and the future instead of your...