Why is asking for our needs to be met so scary? And how can we be our own secure base? These are the two main questions I explored with guest Rikki Cloos, who wrote an amazing book called Anxious Hearts Guide. We talk about what's happening when our anxious attachment is activated, what to do when we feel anxious in early dating situations, what's normal to need in a relationship and how to create more emotional safety for ourselves in dating. Rikki also talks about how she ended up in a long-term relationship with an avoidant attacher, and how they're healing their attachment wounds together. I love this episode!  Connect with Rikki on IG Get Anxious Hearts Guide Connect with me on IG @dating.intentionally Get my free dating troubleshooting guide About Rikki Cloos Rikki Cloos is a writer and content creator with a captivating authenticity and passion for attachment healing. Her book, The Anxious Hearts Guide - which has already sold thousands of copies in the United States and 16+ countries - is an approachable, accessible, and enlightening window into why we do the frustrating things that we do to chase love and how to rise above it.