Steph speaks with Illiyin Morrison and Sophie McCartney (AKA Tired and Tested) about those early days and months of motherhood, as part of the Lost For Words series. Rather than gloss over it, Sophie and Illy both have careers that centre on being reassuringly honest about motherhood, and in turn offering support to women who may be finding it tougher than expected. Illy trained as a midwife and now helps women debrief after birth, and Sophie is a comedian and bestselling author with a huge Instagram account sharing the trials (and hilarity) of motherhood.   Illy and Sophie talk about the early days, their feelings of failure and guilt about not doing it ‘right’, whether that’s the birth, breastfeeding, or just being a mum. They talk about obsessing about sleep and feeding, sweaty weigh ins, baby groups and having babies at the same time as Kate Middleton. They also discuss comparison and expectation, and the impact babies can have on a relationship. This conversation will make new mums feel better, or if someone further down the line thinks they did a terrible job, it will let them know that none of us knew what we were doing.   Thank you to Naturalmat for sponsoring this series, handmakers of organic beds and mattresses, and DBHF podcast listeners can get 15% off with the code DBHF15   Tired and Tested: The Wild Ride into Parenthood by Sophie McCartney  The Birth Debrief by Illiyin Morrison (out 16th March 2023)  Mother Hens by Sophie McCartney (out 30th March 2023)  If you’re struggling with parenthood, try contacting Home-Start UK   Illy’s Instagram  Sophie’s Instagram  Steph’s Instagram   The NEW Create a New Mum Gift Box at Don’t Buy Her Flowers Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.