If you or your partner are currently in, or are thinking about signing up, for a Pure Desire group this is an episode you don't want to miss. Ashley Jameson, Author, Speaker and International Women's Group Coordinator, joins me today to chat through many of the questions and concerns that I have received from wives over the years about Pure Desire groups. Remember your job is not to fix your husband, but to help get him to a professional or a group who can. However, in order to do that,...

Calling all of you who are feeling weary and hopeless, come, sit and be comforted and inspired by Matthew & Joanna Raabsmith as they take you through their practical and profound step-by-step approach to creating a beautiful biblical level of intimacy out of the ashes of betrayal and addiction.  With their unique and irresistible style, Matthew and Joanna take us on a journey through the stages of honesty, safety, trust, vulnerability and intimacy. This is one to listen to with your...

If you are curious about what really happens at a residential trauma intensive, take a listen to my conversation with Matt Wenger, Clinical Director of Boulder Recovery as he takes us behind the scenes at his 14-Day Intensive for men struggling with sex, porn, and relationship issues. The program uses the TINSA® treatment model (Trauma Induced Sexual Addiction) to heal the traumatic experiences and attachment wounds driving addictive behaviors and problematic thinking around sex and intimacy....

Dr Jake Porter, Licensed Professional Counselor, and founder and president of Daring Ventures, joins me today for a rich and deep dive into the brain of a betrayed partner. Drawing on his vast expertise in relational neurobiology and attachment theory, Jake compellingly explains the following: How betrayal trauma affects the brain Why triggers can feel overwhelming How you can begin to rebuild trust when your entire history feels like a lie. Why healing happens in relationships Why a...

If you are struggling with feeling like you will never measure up in your husband's eyes, this is the episode for you. In this exploration of this dreadfully painful subject we shoot you straight with both the reality of the problem and the solution. Although some parts of our conversation may be hard to hear, dragging everything into the light is the only way forward. The biblical truths that Heather Creekmore, (author, speaker, and host of Compared To Who podcast ), shares today hold life...

If you have ever felt that small but insistent internal nudging to start your own group this is a conversation you don't want to miss. Donna Meredith Dixon from A Door Of Hope shares with us so many precious insights and wisdom about facilitating groups for betrayed partners, and introduces us to her unique 12 week peer facilitator training program. Topics we talk about include: What makes a good peer facilitator? Is it a natural or a learned skill, an art or a discipline? How do you hold...

Learning how to emotionally regulate yourself when you get triggered is a really useful skill in recovery. Today, partner coach Shawna Meek teaches us how to listen to what our bodies are trying to tell us, and shares techniques to help us bring our brains back on line and settle ourselves.  From her own experience of being married to an intimacy avoidant spouse, Shawna also shares the best way to help someone who is acting in instead of acting out. 

The cry of every betrayed wife's heart is to be truly heard, seen and validated by their husband, but is it really possible?  Stacey Sadler, MA LPC CCPS, joins me today to share that yes, it really is! With her memorable step-by-step Victory through Validation program, anyone can develop or improve those all important empathy skills.

If pornography has hijacked your sex life and left you feeling traumatized, this episode is for you. With compassion and clarity, Dr Carol, (OB-Gyn physician, Doctor of Ministry, author, speaker, and personal coach,) jumps right into these murky waters to validate your experience, and to bring you the hope that things can be different, whether or not your husband is willing to get into recovery. 

If the impact of betrayal trauma has rocked the very foundation of your faith this is an episode you don't want to miss. Cat Etherington from Naked Truth Project and Lyschel Burket from Hope Redefined join me to discuss the deeply lonely and painful spiritual struggles that women commonly experience as the betrayed partner of a porn/sex addict. 

Based on a groundbreaking in-depth survey of 22,000 Christian women, Sheila Wray Gregoire's The Great Sex Rescue pulls back the curtain on what is happening in Christian bedrooms and exposes the problematic teachings that wreck sex for so many couples. As a long overdue corrective to church culture, not to mention the typical advice given to wives in porn affected marriages, this book is poised to free thousands of couples from repressive and dissatisfying sex lives so that they can...

In this episode we celebrate the healing power of story with writer Jody who shares with us how she is now inspiring others to come out the shadows and embrace the restoration life that God has for them.

In this episode, SarahJean shares the devastation of discovering her husband's addiction to porn at the same time as becoming a first-time Mom. If you are wondering whether it is worth the pain of ripping off that Band-Aid, facing the porn in your relationship, and jumping into recovery, this is the episode you need to hear. After only six months of Fighting For Love SarahJean describes the remarkable changes that have occurred in her marriage.

Kicking off the New Year with a incredible reminder of the spiritual dimension of our Fight For Love. In this incredible testimony, Stacey describes how her spiritual oppression physically manifested and how miraculous healing and divine appointments enabled her to face the porn use in her marriage.

In this episode we give you the inside scoop on what it's really like to be part of a wives recovery group. As daunting and scary as it was walking into our first group, all of us agree that the fellowship that we gained through recovery was absolutely life-changing. Recovery groups are real, and precious, not to mention avenues of healing - they will ruin you for other groups!

Essential listening for any couple walking through this path, this refreshingly honest couple describe the heartbreak, healing and transformation they have experienced in their own journey. They are the founders of Restored2More Ministry with coaching and workshops for couples, and the hosts of the weekly podcast Restored2More.

In today's 'In the Trenches' episode we hear Marzena's hope filled story as she describes how she and her husband have discovered a level of intimacy they never had before.

Listen in on this candid and laughter-filled conversation between two couples who have dedicated their lives to helping others walk this path. If you've ever wondered whether recovery is even possible when addicted spouses are critical, resentful and resistant to recovery, this is a must-listen.

Today's installment of our 'In the Trenches' series is Tami's story of learning how to love herself in order to be able to love others. Despite the heart ache of being currently separated, Tami is pursuing her own recovery vigorously, and has much hope and learned wisdom to share. And if you are unsure about joining a recovery group for yourself, this episode is a must-listen!

In this third installment of our 'In the Trenches' series we bring you Leeah's story of Fighting For Love, overcoming both bad advice and an unsupportive church environment. She also shares the practical steps taken by her and husband, plus the stories in the Bible that sustained and inspired her.

Today we bring you the second of our 'In the Trenches' series with Tanya's inspirational walk of faith through the pain and rejection of a porn affected marriage.

To encourage others to come out of the shadows and walk in the light about porn addiction in their marriage, our little band of brave women is stepping up like never before, boldly sharing why and how they are currently Fighting For Love in their marriages. Today we bring you the first of our 'In the Trenches' series with Jen's incredibly story of courage and faith straight from the frontline.

Fantasy in films and books is promoted and sold as a socially acceptable coping mechanism, and yet for those of us in difficult and painful situations it can develop into a self-destructive crutch. Joining us today to unpack the topic of fantasy addiction is Lacy Bentley, an award winning author, women's mentor and coach, and founder of Women United Recovery Coalition. In her warm, engaging, and compassionate way, Lacy takes us by the hand and leads us through this tender topic, and gives...

In this hope filled and inspiring conversation with Dr Juli Slattery, clinical psychologist, author, speaker and the president/co-founder of Authentic Intimacy, we delve deep into the mystery and majesty of the purpose of sexuality as per God's design. Her most recent book Rethinking Sexuality is a resource like no other, brilliantly fleshing out exactly what we are fighting for when we Fight For Love in our relationships. Also don't forget to check out her podcast Java with Juli.

If you are seeking affordable, easily-accessible community and support for betrayal trauma here's another terrific option for you! Melissa Ruff is the director for Live Free Wives, a long-time group leader at Small Groups Online, and is studying to become a Licensed Professional Counselor. She lives with her husband of 13 years and their three wonderful children. Melissa has walked the long road of healing from betrayal and knows the difficulties that betrayed spouses face. When she was in...