This week's episode is an intimate conversation between Rosie Makinney and her husband, Mark, as they dive straight into the spiritual heart of pornography addiction. No punches are pulled in their conversation as they tackle the spiritual root of addiction, and the need for individuals to fully surrender control and rely on God for recovery. Drawing from their own crazy story, their love for the stories of C.S.Lewis, and many years of working in the trenches with couples in recovery, Mark...

Are you concerned about how to raise your children in today's hypersexualized culture? In this episode of "Fight For Love," host Rosie Makinney welcomes guest Barb Winters, an expert in promoting healthy relationships. They dive deep into the challenges parents face, such as discovering their children's engagement in undesirable behaviors like sending nudes,  and watching pornographic videos. Barb and Rosie acknowledge the difficulties parents encounter and emphasize the importance of setting...

Are you struggling to understand your husband's behavior and suspect that he may have a mood or personality disorder? In this episode, Rosie is joined by Julie St.Onge, an expert on mental health and addiction, to dive into the importance of mental health screenings and how they can impact the journey of recovery from addiction. Julie discusses the different types of mood and personality disorders, including sociopathy, histrionic behavior, narcissism, borderline personality disorder, and...

Today, Tim Muehlhoff, author, speaker and professor of communication at Biola University, joins Rosie on the show to delve into the fascinating topic of Spiritual Warfare in marriage, especially in marriages struggling because of a pornography addiction. In this episode they discuss the tactics of Satan and look at all the ways he attempts to discourage and divide us. Praying warfare prayers does have to be complicated or scary, it's all a matter of understanding your authority, or rather...

For those of you who grew up in purity culture but have never connected the dots to your current situation, this is going to be a powerful and potentially emotional listen. Back on the show by popular demand is Sheila Wray Gregoire to discuss the harmful teachings of purity culture and the impact it has had on women. In her new book She Deserves Better, Sheila explores the damaging messages around modesty, consent, and respect, highlighting how these teachings have led to blame and shame for...

Joining Rosie today to tackle the bewildering and overwhelming topic of having your husband arrested for illegal sexual acting out are Jen, Rebecca and Lynn. In this extended episode we cover how to: Cope in the early days following a shocking, and often public, discovery, Make the decision whether to stay in the relationship, Deal with people talking about you and giving unwanted advice.  Manage day to day when your husband is not around, Best help your children. Create a recovery...

If you feel like your sexual identity has been shattered following betrayal, it's hard to imagine ever feeling positive towards sex again. Here to help us tackle this sensitive and painful topic is author/coach/founder of StrongWives,  and co-host of the popular Sex Chat for Christian Wives Podcast,  Bonny Burns.  In today's conversation we look at how betrayal ruptures our sexual identity and the steps you can take to reclaim it.  Sexual Clarity Group with Bonnie Unlocking Your Orgasm...

When you are dating someone who is struggling with pornography evaluating whether you have a long term future together is complex and tricky.  To help us tackle this difficult decision we have broken it down into 3 parts: Step 1 - Evaluating your own Struggle with Singledom Step 2: Understanding the reality of marrying a porn addict  Step 3 - Assessing the strength of your partner's recovery and long term likelihood of sobriety.  Joining Rosie on the show today to explore step 1 is the...

If you have ever felt deep in your bones that there is something dreadfully wrong with the way the world AND the church think about sex, then this episode is a MUST LISTEN. Returning to the show is clinical psychologist and founder of Authentic Intimacy, Dr. Juli Slattery, to talk about her mind-blowing and paradigm-shifting new book ‘God Sex and Your Marriage.’ Juli brings a much needed perspective, reframing our painful sex lives and helping us understand how the pursuit of true sexual...

Today in the second part of our divorce panel, we get down to brass tacks and discuss what the process of getting divorced looked like for Ruth, Tami and Jen. We talk about finding the right legal help, other forms of support, timelines, and knowing best when to try and negotiate things on your own. Using their hard won wisdom, the panel share all the things that they wished someone had told them before they started travelling this path, and also what they have learnt about themselves and...

Returning to the show to help unpack one of the most common questions we receive here at Fight For Love are Ruth, Jen and Tami. Deciding whether to hang in there for a bit longer or to call it quits is one of the most difficult decisions a betrayed partner can face. There are no easy answers, every situation is unique. However, there are common threads that can bring validation and clarity to those in the painful and confusing fog. Today our panelists take us through the emotional, mental and...

Next time you get overwhelmed by feelings of inadequacy because you think you can't compete with the women in pornography, take 10 for yourself and listen to this.    Put a post it on your mirror that reminds you to look up every time you look in. The relief you seek from a broken covenant can never be found in your reflection, only in Christ. Take heart, God is using this deep pain of comparison to draw you into a deeper level of intimacy with Him. He is inviting you to bravely open that...

For those of you who have struggled with pornography yourself, or have ever felt pressured by your partner to watch it with him or create images of yourself, this episode is for you. Jessica Harris is a leading voice and trail-blazer on the topic of female porn usage who shares with a level of honesty and insight that is literally shifting attitudes around the world. Jessica joins me today to talk about her own struggle with pornography and the invitation to grace that she found in the midst...

If you need a shot in the arm of positivity and encouragement, this is the episode for you. Jennifer Hand is the equivalent of a storm chaser. Where others might pick up the phone and text in a donation, Jenn will pick up the phone and literally book a flight. In the aftermath of terrible tragedies Jenn can be found ministering on the ground, and equipping others to do the same. Wonderfully relatable, delightfully uncoordinated, and infectiously joyful, Jenn inspires and equips us to face the...

Empathy by the recovering addict for their betrayed partner is essential component of reconnecting and healing, but learning how to become empathetic takes work and practice. Joining me today to talk about her powerful Early Recovery Couples work is the wise and wonderful Carol Juergensen Sheets. With it's focus on developing those all important empathy skills, Carol's workbook Help Her Heal not only helps addicts understand what their betrayed partner is feeling but also lays out a roadmap...

We are know there is no silver bullet when it comes to preventing our loved ones from accessing porn, however today we introduce you to man whose company's mission is to get as close as possible. Using technology developed in Israel to scan for nudity in real time, Canopy offers a level of protection and range of features not yet seen in the US market.  Sean Clifford, CEO of Canopy invites Fight For Love listeners to be part of the next generation of this software, using our feedback to help...

Today we come alongside those of you who are feeling tempted to seek, or have already sought, comfort outside of your marriage to cope with the pain of being neglected and/or betrayed by your spouse . Christy Neal is an advocate for women who feel tainted and cast out after adultery. As the author of Don't Ever Tell and the post host of Everyone Has a Voice she is the catalyst for hope and healing she desperately needed but never found a decade ago after her own affair. 

If you feel crushed and broken by your partner's persistent emotional distance and neglect, this is the episode for you. Today we are so blessed to have Karen Rellos, Certified APSAT coach, Certified AASAT Intimacy Anorexia Coach and founder of Restored Hope Coaching &  Redeeming Love Marriage Ministry, with us to share her incredible story of finding her voice and restoring her marriage after years of soul-crushing emotional neglect and abuse. Grab a fluffy blanket, a cup of tea, a box...

If you have ever felt invalidated, confused and manipulated,  found yourself second guessing your instincts, or had trouble making decisions, this episode is for you. Living with someone who is intentionally, or even unintentionally gaslighting, is a confusing, painful and lonely prison. Eroding your ability to connect with your authentic self, gaslighting steadily robs you of your self-worth and true power. Sarah Morales, relationship coach, host of Deconstructing Gaslighting™ podcast and...

We keep talking about "Recovery" for partners and how important it is, but what does that actually mean? What will you actually be working on when you enter recovery, and why is it so important to find an experienced guide? Joining me today to give us a candid closeup of three stages of the healing process is Lisa Taylor, an APSAT trained Christian counselor specializing in sex addiction and betrayal trauma.  The Three Stages of Betrayal -Trauma Recovery: Stage 1 - Establishing...

A heartfelt message from me to you, my dear exhausted sister. A short exhortation to encourage and equip you to stand firm when the enemy tries to convince you that you are not strong enough for this fight.    Music credits Lucid by The Seraphim Project https://www.worshipstart.com/royalty-free-music/p/bg-horizon-by-hoyle-96wha-6krzg-yyxy6-ge9hl-44nr3-ax5j7-wggmy-25zrf-lf3d3-rfx3z-lzhaz-p9znc-3rs4w-hbrfw-yr8y4  Loop 4 by Soundology &...

Whether or not you have a daughter, this is a ministry that you need to put on your radar. From her unique perspective as a betrayed wife and daughter, and a Certified Pastoral Sexual Addiction Specialist, Kristin Cary of Living Truth shares a message of hope and help for those impacted by a parent's problematic sexual behavior. Plus you are not going to want to miss hearing about their unique and totally free support group for daughters between the ages of 15-30. For more information about...

If you are passionate about the topic of Human Trafficking, but the sheer scale of the problem leaves you feeling overwhelmed and paralyzed, this is a conversation that will hopefully turn things around for you.  In this episode Raleigh Sadler, Author, Founder & Executive Director of Let My People Go shares with Rosie how acknowledging our own vulnerability is key to being able to identify and come alongside the most vulnerable people in our community, those who are often hidden in plain...

Whether you are newly divorced and thinking about dating again, or wanting to relaunch yourself in your marriage, Jenni Rochelle brings an inspiring message of hope and healing. With her contagious vibrancy, Jenni unpacks the daunting process of learning to trust again, and makes it seem possible for every women to embrace her own big sexy comeback. Don't forget to check out Jenni's podcast - Beauty after Betrayal and her 8-week Big Sexy Comeback Mentorship Group. Special offer for Fight...