“Should I stay, or should I go?” is one of the most important questions you will have to answer after learning of your partner’s infidelity. And even though most women want to make the decision quickly, the most important thing you can do is give yourself the gift of time and decide not to decide. In fact, the average length of time it takes for a couple to decide if they want to stay together is 12-18 months. Why? Because that’s how long it takes for you to see your partner in action and to gauge their behavior, commitment, and understanding of themselves and what led to the affair in the first place.   Top take-a-ways Why deciding if you should stay or go after your partner’s infidelity is a process that takes time and is not a decision to be made early on or by looking at a check list. How to keep yourself, your partner, and the relationship safe early on so you can calm and reregulate your nervous systems and make rational decisions. What factors and behaviors to look at that will help you decide whether you should stay or go. Download your Sparkle After Betrayal Recovery Guide at www.BetrayalRecoveryGuide.com, a guide designed to help you take the first steps in feeling better, so you can reclaim your power, own your worth, and start putting yourself, and your life, back together again.   About Lora: Attorney, speaker and Burnout & Betrayal Recovery Coach, Lora Cheadle believes that betrayal uncovers the truth of what’s possible when we stop focusing on what was done to us and start showing up unapologetically for ourselves. She helps women rebuild their identity and self-worth after infidelity so they can reclaim (or find for the very first time) their confidence, clarity, and connection to source and create their own kind of happily ever after.   Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this podcast! Take charge of your mental health and get 10% off your first month of therapy at https://BetterHelp.com/FLAUNT    Get the support you need to find your footing, begin making sense of it all, and feel better fast. As an attorney, betrayal recovery expert, and survivor of infidelity I can help you find the clarity and confidence to create a life that you love on the other side of betrayal. Book Your Session Here: https://calendly.com/loras-schedule/coaching-session     The most comfortable shoes you will ever wear. Available in seven heel heights, these shoes will keep you comfortably on your feet for 12 hours. Made with cork, many styles are available including heels, wedges, and boot. www.EuropeanHeels.com $25 off with Discount Code Flaunt