Ep #287: Most of us will not remember today over any other day. Most days are just another day in our lives. When you allow your emotions in the moment to dictate your behaviors, you can betray the promises you've made to yourself. Here's the deal. We forget so much about our lives. It's part of the brain's ability to store things in the unconscious so every little detail of our lives doesn't burden our conscious. So use this to your advantage when your life wants you to make the hard...

Ep 286: We all have behaviors that no longer serve us. You might even notice that certain things you do annoy you or give you a result that is not what you really want or intended. I believe that our entire life is built upon habit loops, and the behavioral loops repeat over and over and over again. Today, I will give you my breakdown of how to remedy any behavior and habit you seek to change for the betterment of your life. This will help you in every aspect of your life. The steps are as...

Ep #285: Money can be a huge stressor. How much do you make? Where are you spending it? Can you save any, or are you living paycheck to paycheck? Do you have ample funds, yet you find yourself unable to set aside any for retirement, savings, vacations, or other things you want that would add to your life? I know about debt. I started this year with $30,000 in debt, and I swore to myself that I would not wake up even one dollar in debt on New Year's Day of 2025. I know from having hundreds of...

Ep #284: Okay, this episode is totally Jesse-isms and pumping you up. From inspirational propaganda to my many voices to diatribes - if you love it when I get all Jesse and excite you, this episode is for you! I will also delve into the idea that easy decisions often lead to a challenging life, while tough choices can afford us our best future. I toss in the 'crab bucket' phenomenon, where individuals can be pulled down by their environment when attempting to change. We also contrast the...

Ep #283: This week, I traveled to Oklahoma for my dad's birthday and the solar eclipse, and then my car broke down, the boat battery died, and clouds filled the sky. What was to be a once-in-a-lifetime experience quickly could potentially turn into the week from hell, BUT we chose to experience ourselves at the moment, stay focused on what we could control, and stay positive that, at the very least, we are together and that is what this whole adventure was grounded in. By the end of the...

Ep #282: Judging oneself is the harshest criticism because it sounds like our voice, in our heads, telling us we can not achieve something we desire for ourselves. Teaching yourself to reject those self-critiques and take the next smallest step toward your "meant-to-be" is where the magic of addiction recovery lives. Saying yes or saying no is determined by your subjective perspective of the potential outcome. Will this lead me toward who I want to be, or might it lead me back to the me I am...

Ep #281: Maintaining sobriety, whether in its fragile early stages or as a long-term commitment, requires vigilant self-awareness and dedication. Individuals navigating this path may encounter significant hurdles if their focus drifts from the critical pillars that underpin a sober lifestyle. The journey is fraught with potential distractions and setbacks, including the allure of old habits, the challenge of reshaping one's identity, and the complexity of altering deeply ingrained social and...

Ep #280: Somedays, I am surprised I hold it all together. Today is not one of those days. Today, anxiety and inner judgment are running rampant, and rather than act like everything - I think it best to talk it through with y'all. It is okay not to be okay. We all have those days when sobriety isn't enough for today to be the best day. Know you are not alone. You are part of this gigantic Earth experiment we call human-ness. Breathe, reset your Vegas nerve, hug yourself, get on your feet, and...

Ep #279 - A role is a set of expectations, behaviors, and responsibilities assigned to an individual within a specific context, such as in a family, workplace, or social group. In the context of sobriety and recovery, adopting roles that promote healthy behaviors and offer supportive relationships can significantly enhance an individual's ability to maintain sobriety and navigate the recovery process effectively. In contrast, roles that perpetuate stress and anxiety or involve exposure to...

Ep #278: How would you rate your emotional resolve and resiliency? Do you notice when life seems to get into a state of flow? Mastering your emotions, physical responses, thinking, and feeling is a never-ending journey and a beautiful aspect of life. In this episode, I'm gonna discuss self-mastery, mastering each moment, self-awareness around your flow state, and how you must stop being the reason you don't succeed because you're the first person to reject yourself - and START being the first...

Ep #277 - Have you ever convinced yourself that your way of seeing things is the only way? That's Perspective Bias waving its wand. Found yourself nodding along to information that confirms what you already believe? Ah, Confirmation Bias strikes again. Ever stick with the familiar just because it's, well, familiar? Exposure Bias has you in its grasp. And who hasn't reminisced about the "good old days," only to realize they were just old, not necessarily good? Thank you, Experience Bias. And...

Ep #276 - Automatic negative thoughts in early sobriety can spiral you down with anger, anxiety, resentment, and a myriad of other emotions aimed at your past self and potentially anyone you decide to blame for your lot in life. I get it. Traumatic things happen, you re-live them in your head, and they grow and grow into trauma that is rooted so deep into your psyche and persona it feels you will never pull them out. Let's get to the bottom of what kinds of automatic negative thoughts are...

Ep #275 - The trials and tribulations of life are an excellent opportunity to journey into one's emotional resiliency. In today's show, I discuss four quotes that have fueled me these last four weeks and how I use that energy to push and pull myself toward the accomplishments of my plans. I close the show with a bit of a rant and a whole lot of excitement about what I am learning about the theories of psychology and how little we have learned in the last 150 years of seeking answers about...

Ep #274 - We have accumulated a lot of bad habits in our journey of addiction. The physical ones are very noticeable, but the mental ones - perhaps not so much. We are all searching for solace from our past selves in our sobriety. Saying goodbye to your old self requires saying hello to new ways of living your life. This episode starts a series meant to give you the direction that'll help you solidify your new life in sobriety and recovery. Just hit play, and let's dive in with our open...

Ep #273 - A new person in sobriety and recovery has a lot of inner turmoil, which will show in their outer actions and behaviors. Supporting them, while not enabling them, is critical in the early stages. If you or someone you know is a supporter of a person in addiction recovery or if a loved one is seeking answers to what they can do to help you, this episode can guide you and them to a wiser understanding of one another. Just hit play, and let's dive in with our open minds, hearts, and...

Ep #272 - You will want to change many of your habits and routines in your early stages of sobriety. There are certainly actions and behaviors you are going to need to stop doing to increase your odds of not succumbing to the mental gymnastics and voices in your head saying, "come on, one more time." Whether you are new to sobriety or an old-timer, these tips will help you on your journey or support someone else's journey from sobriety to recovery. Just hit play, and let's dive in with our...

Ep #271 - Wow, I'm seven years sober. Addiction recovery is a journey. A huge part of mine has been learning to accept me for me. My life, where I am, who I am, what I am doing - all of this and more is part of my human experience, and it is a massive experiment in learning my human design. I am me. We are we. Together, we achieve a collective vibration of being free - from booze, from drugs, from addiction processes, from suffering, and the list goes on. Let's get into this because I have...

Ep #270 - Do you think you have a drinking, drugging, or process addiction problem? There can be a lot of information out there telling you one thing and then being contradicted by the very next Google result. If you are asking yourself if you have a problem, then chances are you are long since past the point of no return, and sobriety to addiction recovery is either your future or a deepening of your suffering, and trauma will push you further down the spiral. In this week's show, I am...

Ep #269 - A new year brings with it an opportunity to change our lives in a meaningful way as our society has deemed this day to be so important that we all get to forget now to put 24 on everything we date for the next few weeks, LOL. Jokes aside, today really is just another day in life - yet we can choose to make this the day that changes everything. In reality, any day can be that day. You decide to make a difference in your life right now and then commit to this new you come hell or high...

Ep #268 - Your level of commitment to yourself when you step into sobriety is going to determine significantly your resiliency when your mind plays games with you and uses its cunning and mental gymnastics to pull you back into behaviors you have already decided you are sick and tired of having in your life. Being sober curious is dabbling, and being interested is slightly more into it, but gathering up your momentum into passion is the throttling into the commitment that'll fuel you during...

Ep #267 - Not making assumptions and striving to do your best every day are beautiful life goals to seek to achieve daily. Perfection is non-existent, so release the notion you will rock these every opportunity they present themselves. Instead, seek that level of self-awareness that opens you to the recognition and evaluation of your behaviors so you can correct and grow so the next one is the best one - until the next one is the best one...and so the journey continues. Just hit play, and...

Ep #266 - Be impeccable with your words, and do not take things personally. Sounds easy enough, and then life creeps in - you know, that thing that happens while you are busy making plans and doing things. When you strive to live by the four agreements, you offer yourself a roadmap to navigate. There will be detours, speed bumps, and emergency pitstops, but they are not meant to deter you from your path - they are signs along your highway alerting you to pay attention and increase your...

Ep #265 - Self-awareness connects us to what we are doing and why we are doing it, and I don't mean the obvious why - I mean the profound reason related to a past anchor. In the depths of our subconscious lies the answers to the questions we seek. The first step is to recognize that you are not thinking, feeling, or acting the way you desire, and evaluating your motivations as to when, where, and why is some next-level introspection. Corrections are meant to align you with your highest self....

Ep #264 - Addiction isolates. Maybe not in the beginning, when our socialization is kicked up because of the introduction to substances, but in time, when we aren't paying well enough attention, our drug or booze of choice begins to shrink our world smaller and smaller. Then, one day, we look around, and the reasons we started to use aren't as prevalent, and in their place is isolation with our addiction. Connection opportunities are all around us. They are created in our minds and our...