In this episode, Elle and Vee have one of their most important conversations to date: all things vaginal health.  Elle is a medical professional - a nutritional therapist and holistic  medical professional with a Doctor of Pharmacy degree, so Vee uses this opportunity to pick her brain about how to prevent the most common of vaginal issues, including:    Chronic yeast infections and BV (bacterial vaginosis): natural solutions, vaginal PH balance and probiotics. What specific probiotic strains...

Every November, around Thanksgiving, Elle and Vee's group of lifestyle friends (aka Joy Family) throw an annual Freaksgiving sex party weekend.  After the 2022 edition, the girls debriefed their weekend, including: How to throw a great sex party! Valuing comfort: what’s on the checklist when setting up as a host? (2:42 ) The girls share their intentions, and what they learned from implementing them, including communicating your desires in the moment, and acting on your sexual feelings....

In this episode, Elle and Vee chat with Brandi about her ten years' worth of experience in the lifestyle, throughout which she's been able to explore all types of fantasies, from orgies to sub/dom power dynamics to pet play, and the joy and empowerment they can bring. Fantasies: exploring and fulfilling fantasies through ENM (ethical non monogamy). (2:18) How can you make it work when you’re both submissive? (9:25) Being dommed with your partner. (14:19) Hiring a pro dominatrix....

In this episode, join Elle and Vee with return guest  Physics to get an inside view of what goes on in a top’s brain and the intricate communication required for different BDSM relationships and experiences.  Who Is Physics? (0:53) The magic of intention in BDSM experiences. (2:05) What is DD/lg? (6:59)  DD/lg VS age play? (11:41) How to have a healthy appropriate Ds relationship? (15:35) Communicating desires and boundaries: What questions to ask before a scene. (21:21) What is...

In this episode, Vee and Elle chat with Physics (@physics_shibari) about the ins and outs of founding a sex group, what a yoni massage involves, and what sex magic is, including:  Shibari porn: Physics’s kinky awakening. (3:16) What is The Temple? Returning sacred sexuality to spirituality. (5:22) Sex workshops: What kinds of workshops can be found at The Temple? (10:06) Yoni Massage:  -From being “the guy who can make any girl squirt” to being a yoni massage practitioner....

Elle and Vee catch up on their weekend sexcapades. Vee attended a private sex party event with 40+ people and the City of Gods Halloween party in NYC while Elle spent  a sexy weekend with M at home. Butt stuff updates, the second sphincter and using poppers. (1:10) Storing sex toys, the Liberator, and traveling with toys. (6:44) City of Gods Halloween Party in NYC: impact play, electro play and understanding establishing consent and boundaries with new BDSM partners....

In this episode, Elle and Vee catch up about Vee’s latest sex party that she hosted with J, including squirting, enthusiastic consent, substance use, six-handed massages, listening to your body, and so much more…. Our top five episodes according to the numbers! (1:44) The benefits of having new people at a small sex party.  (12:16) Squirting: how to overcome the threshold and let go. Waterproof blankets, sensory deprivation, hydration, trust and muscle memory. (15:16) Setting...

Elle and Vee bring Leia back for a part 2 to discuss Sexual Somatic Healing and so much more!  What is somatic healing? How does it differ from typical talk therapy?  (0:43)  Three cornerstone beliefs of the Somatic Healing method. Transformation through pleasure. (4:50)  What does a session look like? Is there physical contact? An animal play session recounted. (6:28) The impact of current events and shared tips on how to get out of your head and into your body. (11:49) Leia leads us...

In this episode, Elle and Vee chat with their friend Leia (@vibrantbyleia), who gets deep about being a single bisexual female in the lifestyle, dating couples (versus prioritizing finding her own primary), and sexual healing. "Catalyst couples", awkward first dates and enthusiastic consent: how Leia was introduced to the lifestyle. (1:31) Where should the couple sit at a 3-way date?  How women hold a lot of power in ENM. (12:24) "AHA" moments from being in the open lifestyle....

Elle and Vee catch up and chat about sex with pregnant women and talk about new sex toys, offering their reviews and opinions.  Being pregnant in the ENM lifestyle. (3:47) Elle’s hormonal and body changes during pregnancy. Horniness, sexual desires, nipple changes, deep throating updates. (5:58) How pregnancy changes relationships, and the feeling of being left behind. (15:02) Sex with pregnant women and fulfilling fantasies:  Cream pies, lubricated vaginas, and conception fantasies....

This week, Elle and Vee chat with T Money about what he's learned in his twenty years in the lifestyle, including: Introducing someone to ethical non-monogamy, being on traditional dating apps, and dating people who are monogamous. (8:16) Stretching Fetish: DVP, vegetables, and the elasticity of vaginas. (17:24) Fisting: how to fist, the “goose” technique, and slow exits. (27:27) DVP: double vaginal penetration tips, and the benefits of being the "top" or "bottom" giver....

Elle and Vee dive into the work of Esther Perel, a relationship expert, on relationship dynamics, how to keep things sexy and how to foster erotic desire: When your partner is in their element and confident.Surprise.Seeing your partner though the eyes of another.Longing and absence. Who is Esther Perel and what is she about?  (0:38) When you ‘have’ something it takes away the wanting, and how the lifestyle helps with this. (2:47) When do you  feel most drawn to your partner?...

Elle and Vee have two special guests in today's episode, Ace and Jess who share their lifestyle practices with edging and other kinky  experiences 2:32 Why edge an orgasm? What does edging do for Ace?   3:44  Aces edging discovery and how he uses it his advantage in the lifestyle 5:57 Elle Vee and Jess explain the differences of their personal orgasms  8:05   Multiple orgasm for female, but what about men?  10:50  Who is charge of finally cumming, edging to cum together and a women...

Elle and Vee share their experiences and challenges of bringing a third to a weekend getaway and how they worked through being triggered. Vee shares her fears, desires and boundaries for this episode. (2:26) A challenge of having a third partner: balance. (3:57) Codependency, projection, and the stories we tell ourselves. (6:41) Elle discusses another potential challenge of having a third: feeling left out. (13:32) Elle's example of "the stories we tell ourselves" and the lessons...

In this episode, Elle and Vee debrief on the highlights, challenges and takeaways from their most recent weekend away with their ENM friends.   “A glimpse into a lifestyle party,” and one of the challenges of bringing a third to a party. (1:46) What’s the point of having themes? (5:35) Sobriety: the challenges and benefits of staying sober for an entire lifestyle weekend. (9:10) Sobriety and sexuality. (18:02) Highlight: FFF threesome and goal-oriented f*****g....

In this episode, Elle and Vee chat with M, the squirt master. He shares his tips and tricks on how to make a girl squirt and the girls share their perspectives and experiences. Vee shares her fears with squirting. (2:12) What makes squirting different from orgasm? (7:17) M shares how he discovered his squirting skills. (8:36)  Why squirting is hot: a male perspective.(15:00) How to make a girl squirt: finger placement, feeling, movement and more. (16:36) The challenges for the...

What is an Intimacy Inventory, and why is it important for our relationships? (1:52) Get Access  here…  What strengths do you bring to your relationships? What is a dilemma that you carry with you? (5:32) Stubbornness and fighting with your partner; how to put a sexy, fun spin on it. (9:44) When do you feel most free in your relationship? (14:28) When you’re out at a bar with friends, do you have a hall pass?  What agreement do you have with your partner about what is allowed? ...

Elle and Vee chat with their friend Kit, who grew up in a strict religious home. The girls chat about their formative sexual experiences and messages they received about sex early on in their lives, and how finding the ENM lifestyle helped to heal them.   Early messages around sex when you grow up in a strict religious community (for example, Mennonite or Pentecostal). (1:50) How did you work through/unlearn all the shameful messages around sex and adultery that you had grown up with?...

In this episode, the girls sit down with Slutlana, who is Elle and her husband M's best friend and girlfriend.  They cover a range of topics, including: What’s it like being a third for a married couple? What fears come up as a third? The importance of communication in a throuple. (1:20) The benefits of being a third and not having a primary partner. (8:44)  Opening a marriage with the help of a sex therapist. (10:49) Transitioning from swingers to open, and falling in love with...

What happens when you’ve had the same group of ENM friends for years?  In this episode, Vee and Elle sit down with M to chat about the catch-22 of having sex with your friends: how sometimes you sacrifice the quantity of sex for quality when you develop stronger friendships with your ENM partners. Strategy to turn the vibe sexy in big groups: “orgy boards”, taking a group vote with eyes closed, changing locations/spaces. (4:22) Why is it so much more challenging when trying to transition...

In this episode, Elle and Vee talk all things CUM, including  Ejaculating vs Squirting: and is there pee in squirt juice? (2:54) Taste: modifying your own taste, and what affects it. (10:36) Male ejaculation: the focus on male orgasm. (21:06) Orgasming: the hottest place for a guy to finish, “shooters” vs “dribblers”, spitting vs swallowing, and creampie fantasies. (28:35) Female taste: tasting yourself, and what to do when you encounter a stinky pussy. (43:08) Instagram:...

In this episode, Elle and Vee cover a range of topics, from dealing with the emotions of multiple partners in threesomes and foursomes, questioning how to be an ethical porn consumer, and recapping Vee's weekend at a lifestyle party, including: How to deal with it as the unicorn in a threesome when there is an issue with the couple. (1:27) Listening vs giving advice when someone is triggered, and where to have the conversation. (8:26) What to do when the vibe is off between a CNM couple...

In this episode, Elle and Vee discuss all things pornography, from their use of it to their first exposure to it, including:  How do you use porn? Authenticity in porn, “daddy” and age play, searching for specific vs playing porn roulette. (2:22) Masturbation and porn. (7:04) Using porn as a tool to connect with you partner. (9:30) Favorite porn sites. (11:01)  How does porn affect teens’ ideas of sex? (11:49) How can porn contribute to and affect sexual confusion and sexual...

In this episode, Elle and Vee and their monogamous friends answer each others’ questions, including:  What does the word vanilla mean to you, and is it offensive? (2:40) What do you think of when you think ethical non monogamy or open relationship? What words or concepts come to mind? (4:38) What changes have you observed in your friends since they started exploring the nonmonogamous lifestyle? (9:55) What questions do you have for people in the lifestyle? How does it work?...

In this episode, Elle and Vee recap their weekend at Baconfest 2023 at their friends' house at the Jersey Shore. It was a mixture of ENM and vanilla couples, which lead to some interesting dynamics.  The girls talk about their learning moments and more, including: Merging friend groups: What is it like having traditional couples at a play party? How do lifestyle couples interact differently at a party than monogamous people? (1:20) Going to bed early: Vee overcomes her FOMO! (14:00) Going...