What happens when a girl grows up in purity culture and gets married to the first boy who pays attention to her, just so she can have sex? Is purity culture religious abuse? In this episode we hear that story from Gabby. She is a 34-year-old cisgender female. She describes herself as white, straight but open to exploring, currently non-monogamous with three recurring partners. She has two sons, is pre-menopausal, and describes her body as curvy.   Bookmark topics: Gabby grew up in purity culture, signed a no-sex contracts in childhood, and discusses “courting” vs dating Gabby’s husband had a sudden and seemingly permanent decrease in libido If he’s turned off by my g******s, is he gay? Since leaving the church, Gabby’s life has changed dramatically, including dating during COVID and exploring polyamory We explore parenting while polyamorous The Lowdown: Gabby answers questions about number of partners, dating different races, sex toys, anal, oral, and choking   Resources: Joshua Harris documentary “I Survived I Kissed Dating Goodbye” trailer - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kjV6qSeWnL0 Sheila Wray Gregoire – This is the Christian marriage counselor Gabby mentions meeting at a conference. I’ve reviewed some posts on her site, and while I definitely disagree with her on some things, in general I find her ideas to be palatable - https://sheilawraygregoire.com STARS talk - https://www.goodgirlstalk.com/posts/episode/improve-your-sex-life-with-the-stars-talk     Patreon: All archived Good Girls Talk About Sex audio extras are now available for FREE!  They can be accessed at www.patreon.com/goodgirlstalkaboutsex.  I've done this because not everyone has the means to pay for access, and I know this additional material can be deeply important for some listeners. But creating this show isn't free, so if you’d like to support the work I do, I am grateful for your contributions at www.patreon.com/goodgirlstalkaboutsex.   BE PART OF THE SHOW: Rate this pod: Leave a rating and review at RateThisPodcast.com/goodgirls   Have a question or comment - Leave a voicemail for Leah at 720-GOOD-SEX (720-466-3739) - this is a voicemail-only line, so I promise you won't have to talk to someone in person!   Be a guest on the show - I'd love to talk with you! Fill out the form at www.leahcarey.com/guest   FOLLOW LEAH: Instagram - www.instagram.com/goodgirlstalk YouTube - www.youtube.com/goodgirlstalk Leah's website - www.leahcarey.com Podcast website - www.goodgirlstalk.com   WORK WITH LEAH: Individual and couples coaching - www.leahcarey.com/coaching     EPISODE CREDITS: Host / Producer – Leah Carey (email) Audio Editor – Gretchen Kilby Administrative Support - Lara O'Connor, Maria Franco Transcript creation – Jan Acielo Music – Nazar Rybak