Some people swear by Dear Abby, others swear at Dear Abby. Today we look at some of Dear Abby's terrible advice. PLUS: Stay until the end to hear an important announcement about the podcast going on hiatus so Leah can take a well-deserved rest.   Become a client: www.leahcarey.com/coaching Support Leah's work: www.patreon.com/goodgirlstalkaboutsex Full episode show notes: https://www.goodgirlstalk.com/posts/podcast/go-to-bed-angry 

In this Pop Culture Pillow Talk, I talk with pop culture critic Kristen Meinzer about two great movies: Joy Ride Plan B You can find Kristen at: www.kristenmeinzer.com How To Be Fine podcast The Daily Fail podcast Twitter Instagram Threads   Become a client: www.leahcarey.com/coaching Support the show: www.patreon.com/goodgirlstalkaboutsex Full show notes:  www.goodgirlstalk.com/posts/podcast/red-flags-sophilia

Plan B - https://www.imdb.com/title/tt13172796 Joy Ride - https://www.imdb.com/title/tt15268244   Become a client: www.leahcarey.com/coaching Apply for a free coaching session: www.goodgirlstalk.com/session  Support the show: www.patreon.com/goodgirlstalkaboutsex

In this coaching episode, Sophilia asks: why does she keep ending up in relationships where things don’t feel right, and the entire weight of making it better falls on her? Leah works with Sophilia to: understand the red flags for this type of relationship, the communication skills that will help screen them out, rethink her own experience of being turned on. Sophilia is a 39-year-old, cisgender woman. She describes herself as queer, single, and multi-racial with a white mother and Black...

Last year I found myself in the middle of a shitstorm for daring to expose a community leader's abusive behavior. Today I tell the whole story. The backlash was immediate and intense, with DARVO (Deny, Attack, and Reverse Victim and Offender) tactics used to paint me as the problem. Suddenly, I was not just standing as a representative of this man’s abuse, but also receiving harassment and ostracization from those I once considered my community. Sharing this story isn't just about telling...

What happens when your brain is so busy it can't slow down to enjoy having sexy time with the cute guy who's totally into you?  In today's episode, we break down the first two episodes of the HBO show Starstruck with teen sex and relationship educator Julia Sheldon (who also happens to be Leah's dear friend.) We focus on lead character Jessie and how overthinking gets in the way of being present. Upcoming Beyond Permission class schedule: Thursday, Feb. 22 - Embracing your inner MILF with...

In this coaching/storytelling episode, Debbie talks about having the best sex of her life at age 63. Her question: Is that usual? While Debbie has always been multi-orgasmic, now she's having dozens of orgasms in a single sex session. And the connection with her new husband is a big part of the reason. Debbie is a 63 year old cisgender woman. She describes herself as white, heterosexual, monogamous, married. She describes her body as slender and athletic. And don't forget: the BEYOND...

Togetherness is an HBO show that explores the challenges of maintaining a healthy and active sex life in a long-term relationship with small children. In today's episode, Danielle Silverstein from the popular Marriage and Martinis podcast joins Leah to discuss the first two episodes of the show. They dive into the complexities of sexual fulfillment, gender roles, expectations and resentments. Join us for a deep, thought-provoking, and insightful conversation about challenges of maintaining...

Leah joins Danielle of Marriage & Martinis to talk about why Danielle's conversation with her husband  about intimacy and pleasure was explosive and chaotic. Leah breaks down what we need to remember during these very tough conversations: we’ve been conditioned differently from the time we’re very young, and are often simply adhering to the roles we’ve been instructed to fulfill. They talk about why we can’t always trust our bodies’ physical responses during intimacy, games that can be...

In this coaching episode, Maria asks the age old question: why is it so hard to ask for what I want?! She's convinced that her problem is in poor communication skills, but it doesn't take long to discover that the issue lies in a complete different area. Leah works with Maria to: understand how gender dynamics are creating friction in the "what do you want?" conversation, rethink how her definition of "sex" makes asking so difficult, practice the way she'd like to initiate a conversation...

Leah delves into a deeply personal topic: how trauma and mental health have impacted her ability to show up authentically. She talks about the impact her demanding, charismatic father had on her psyche and sense of safety. In admitting her fear of being viewed as not good enough or too much like their father, Leah discusses the creation of a performative persona and the desire to shift to a more authentic voice.    Who Is Your Sex & Relationship Alter Ego? www.leahcarey.com/quiz Work...

In this coaching episode, Lisa talks about learning to stay present when she's having pleasure.  Currently her mind wanders during sex to making grocery lists or worrying that what she's doing is wrong. Leah works with Lisa to: understand what's underneath her brain's tendency to wander, reframe her judgments about sex workers, and recognize the effects of early childhood parentification. Lisa is a 44-year-old cisgender woman who lives in Italy. She describes herself as white,...

Leah shares the next step in her health care journey: hypermobility. And this one has even more wide-ranging implications than the endometriosis diagnosis that upended her world six months ago. Take the brand new quiz to find your Sex & Relationship Alter Ego! Find the quiz at www.leahcarey.com/quiz   Links to earlier health update episodes: March 2nd May 25th July 20th Also mentioned in this episode: Hypermobility coach Tracy Rodriguez - www.instagram.com/thetracyrodriguez/...

This week's episode is delayed due to another project I'm working on. But there's some really important information in this quick feed drop, so please don't skip it. The emergency alert test will be happening in the United States on Wednesday, Oct. 4 at approximately 2:20 pm Eastern Time.   Article about how domestic violence victims can protect themselves during next week's emergency alert test:...

In this coaching episode, Savy talks about getting more comfortable with her g******s and with having sex in a fat body. She's had limited sexual experiences and wants to expand her horizons, but is afraid of being rejected in the middle of the act. Leah works with Savy to: realize that by the time she gets naked with a potential suitor, they won't be surprised by her body, recognize the difference between what her brain is telling her and what is happening in reality, and identify ways to...

In this pop culture breakdown, we do a beat-by-beat examination of the recent Below Deck: Down Under episodes that depicted unwanted sexual contact between cast members. We look at the tactics used to manipulate and coerce a vulnerable person, and how that leaves the victim feeling ashamed and at fault. We also look at the actions of bystanders - both good and bad. We’re talking about Below Deck: Down Under - season 2, episodes 6 and 7. Apply for a free coaching session: ...

In this coaching episode, Jen is a listener who struggles with body image and emotional baggage in her relationships. She was abused beginning at age seven, and the scars have faded but haven't disappeared completely. She is self-conscious about her body, which is affecting her ability to be present for intimacy with her husband. She feels like a "hot mess" because dealing with her body insecurities and emotional baggage has been a significant challenge. Leah works with Jen to: examine the...

It's our first pop culture breakdown, in which we look at how sex and sexuality are depicted on screen! My guest is pop culture critic Kristen Meinzer. We're talking about: Apple TV's Ted Lasso - season 3, episode 8 - We'll Never Have Paris Netflix's Never Have I Ever - season 4, episode 1 - Never Have I Ever Lost My Virginity The Duggar family (including things we learned from Amazon Prime's Shiny Happy People)   Coaching with Leah: www.leahcarey.com/coaching/ Support the show: ...

Leah provides an update on her health journey after two surgeries within four weeks of each other (earlier updates are here and here.) Plus: BIG news about changes coming to the podcast! Coaching with Leah: www.leahcarey.com/coaching/ Support the show: www.patreon.com/goodgirlstalkaboutsex Full show notes:  www.goodgirlstalk.com/posts/podcast/my-innards

In this replay of our landmark 100th episode, Ar Blia is a listener-turned-guest who has been untangling early experiences of trauma, limiting cultural beliefs, and confusing desires to first explore and then advocate for her own pleasure. Even within the constricts of a conservative community, she has been able to find adventure, find herself, and find a partner who truly works for her. Ar Blia is a 27-year-old cisgender female. She describes herself as straight, monogamous, Asian Hmong...

A few months back, I was pleased to be a guest on the Life After Diets podcast with Sarah Dosanjh and Stefanie Michele. They have kindly allowed me to share that episode with you - and it's a great one! We focus on how body image and sex are related - and will losing weight actually help your confidence? We also talk about topics including: The typical female avatar; why would we assume anyone would like our body just as it is?? The issue of TRUST when it comes to what our partner thinks...

When Caitlin left her marriage, she found herself exploring sex as a single woman and discovering new interests. Through coaching with Leah, she admitted to herself that she might be interested in queer sex. This led to a realization that everything she thought was true about herself shattered, similar to a glass shelf breaking. She is finding freedom in exploring her desires and leaving behind what no longer serves her. In this coaching conversation, Caitlin and Leah talk about how she can...

Leah provides an update to her health journey. When last we spoke, Leah was preparing for a hysterectomy surgery. However, when her surgeon had her on the operating table, he discovered that he couldn't do the hysterectomy as expected. Instead, she's spent the last month recovering from surgery #1 and preparing for surgery #2. GoFundMe - https://www.leahcarey.com/GoFundMe Class replays - https://www.leahcarey.com/courses

Chandra grew up in the 7th Day Adventist church, which she equates to a cult. She faults the church for being an educational, social, and religious system that neither acknowledges nor teaches that consent exists for women. She became (mildly) rebellious, experimented with illicit hand-holding, got married, got out, and then embarked on a season of further discovery. Chandra is a 29-year-old, cisgender female. She grew up in the 7th Day Adventist Church in the United States and describes...