In this coaching episode, Maria asks the age old question: why is it so hard to ask for what I want?! She's convinced that her problem is in poor communication skills, but it doesn't take long to discover that the issue lies in a complete different area. Leah works with Maria to: understand how gender dynamics are creating friction in the "what do you want?" conversation, rethink how her definition of "sex" makes asking so difficult, practice the way she'd like to initiate a conversation about sex with potential partners. Maria is a 27-year-old cisgender woman. She describes herself as white, bisexual and single. She describes her body as athletic. Leah offers valuable insights and tools to help Maria and all listeners to reconsider talking about their desires.   BEYOND PERMISSION workshop: www.beyondpermission.com Apply for a free coaching session: www.goodgirlstalk.com/session  Become a client: www.leahcarey.com/coaching Support the show: www.patreon.com/goodgirlstalkaboutsex Full show notes:  www.goodgirlstalk.com/posts/podcast/slow-down-maria