What happens when you discover the reason you've never been interested in sex is that you've been having the wrong kind of sex for your body? And that the mismatch at the root of your loving-but-sexless marriage is that your spouse doesn't want that kind of sex? Michelle, one of our most popular guests from the past, returns to talk about what has happened over the last two years, including beginning a domme/sub relationship with another woman. Michelle is a 44-year-old cisgender woman. She describes herself as Black, bisexual and homo-romantic. She describes her body as average. She is married and currently navigating the process of opening her 19 year relationship with her wife to become ethically non-monogamous. Topics we cover: Being queer Being homoromantic BDSM/activities/toys Switching dom/sub Non-monogamy Sub space/after care Thank you to our episode sponsors: Kindra – try out Kindra at www.ourkindra.com using code goodgirls20 for 20% off your first purchase. Planned Parenthood Direct – download the app to get convenient and affordable birth control delivered to your door: http://www.ppdirect.app/api/safelink?name=inf_leahcarey_1121 To sign up for notification when it’s available in your state, go to: www.plannedparenthooddirect.org Glossary and full show notes at: https://www.goodgirlstalk.com/posts/podcast/what-if-the-one-isnt-enough---michelle/ Support the show at https://www.patreon.com/goodgirlstalkaboutsex