“I am a pediatric psychiatric provider, business owner, and a newly single mom of a 4yo. As both a parent and a mental health provider myself, this is hands down the best parenting podcast and moreover, the best foundational approach to parenting. I think the simplicity of it and scripts she gives make it so much more realistic and doable than many of the other more complicated programs out there meant to address various concerns. As a provider who has read all the books in the pediatric mental health section, I think Dr. Becky does an exquisite job of teaching parents how to find that perfect balance of empathy and validation while also setting firm boundaries. I think this is where so many parents classically struggle as they tend to feel you have to pick one side or the other.
As a mom myself, I use so much of this with my own child on a daily basis and can vouch for the short and long term benefits. The circumstances and events following my divorce have been hard, including ongoing concerns about what happens at his dads. I know all I can do is continue to be the stable, loving parent I am and do my best to teach my son the language and skills I know he needs to build resilience. I love hearing my 4yo speak these words and come to adopt these approaches in his own way. I donβt know if there is any greater comfort to know he has these skills and thought process already. Hearing him get curious and start to verbalize things that didnβt feel right about various events that happen, especially at his dads, and knowing Iβm creating a space where he is comfortable to do that is such an invaluable gift. I know it undoubtedly contributes to the amazing bond we continue to share. It also gives me permission to be human, which I think every mom in America needs right now. Recently, we were playing the always fascinating role reversal game where he was the parent and I was the kid (highly recommend it) and I was pretending to have a tantrum and making threats to hit him. His continued response was βI wonβt let you (hit me/throw the toy)β. He even said it in the same authoritative but calm voice I use. He also has shared many examples where he set limits with others in situations where he knew what he needed despite others not liking it. Many of which would have been hard for most adults to do. For example, recognizing he needed space from a younger cousin at a family reunion, telling her that, and then going in a different room and shutting the door when she kept following him, even when she stood crying outside the door and other family members were trying to say he should play with her AND feeling solid in his decision when he told me about it later. Absolutely amazing. I could give 100 other examples. Highly recommend for every parent. What an amazing world it would be if every kid was raised with these skills πππ”
NinaChristine14 via Apple Podcasts ·
United States of America ·
08/05/23