Former police detective, hostage negotiator and international peacekeeper J. Paul Nadeau “Paul” spent more than 31 years working with victims of crime and perpetrators and learning from top experts in abuse situations, murder investigations, hostage takings, terrorist attacks and human behavior in general. Over the course of his career, Paul talked hostage takers into giving themselves up and murderers into admitting to their crimes, and because of his extensive training and his unique approach to connecting with people of all walks of life and under every circumstance, his life was saved by a terrorist during a terrorist attack in the Middle East. Paul understands the importance of connecting to others, without judgement, prejudice or fear, so that we can each contribute to helping the world become a better and safer place. He reflects this compassion in each of the books he writes, each seminar he runs, each life-coach motivational session he has and in each of his global keynotes. He is Canada’s most recognized hostage negotiator and the author of “Dammit, Just Ask!”, a book on negotiating in life and in business. J.Paul Nadeau's contact info: Linkedin: https://ca.linkedin.com/in/jpaulnadeau Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/paul.nadeau/ Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/jpaulnadeau/ Website: https://www.jpaulnadeau.com/ Book:  https://www.amazon.com/Books-J-Paul-Nadeau/s?rh=n%3A283155%2Cp_27%3AJ.+Paul+Nadeau Chapters 0:00:46 Season 5 Begins 0:02:51 From a Troubled Childhood to Becoming a Policeman 0:08:24 Key Insights on Human Behavior in High-Stress Situations 0:13:24 The Power of Changing Our Narrative 0:16:45 Taking Ownership and Rewriting Our Narrative 0:23:08 First responders focus on self-efficacy and controlling their response. 0:26:47 Building trust and connection with diverse police cadets. 0:28:27 Keeping the Peace in a Diverse Classroom 0:32:41 Conversation with a Terrorist: Unlikely Allies 0:37:15 Challenging upbringing and the power of choice 0:40:24 Lessons learned as a police officer: We are more similar than we are different 0:44:12 You are the Most Important Person in Your Life 0:54:18 Strategies for overcoming depression and uncertainty 0:57:28 Building new neural pathways through changing the narrative 0:58:02 Start Small: Journey of a Thousand Miles Begins 1:02:51 Let Go of the Past: The Power of Choice 1:06:42 Embracing the temporary nature of struggles and hardships 1:16:01 Principles of empathy and understanding Tags resilience, bounce back, adversity, mindset, supportive networks, effective communication, navigating uncertainty, overcoming challenges, gratitude Support the show Sign up for the weekly IT'S AN INSIDE JOB NEWSLETTER takes 5 seconds to fill out receive a fresh update every Wednesday