Become A Subscriber https://joeryan.com/subscribe/ How do we reach a point of truly being able to love? How do we get past the fears we have built up that wall off the ability to feel safe and be able to share ourselves with people, especially with that “special one” when that time eventually arrives?  In this episode, Joe shares his innermost fears regarding being able to give and receive love freely. The topic of learning to be good on your own before you can be good with others...

Become A Subscriber https://joeryan.com/subscribe/ What is your worth and value in life?…Many of us ask ourselves this same question often. What happens when someone doesn’t give back the worth and value we feel we deserve? How do we handle those instances and how can we better prepare to not let others' treatment of us greatly affect our own self-worth and happiness? In this episode, Joe asks this question and talks about how to avoid the feeling of worthlessness when we don’t get back...

Become A Subscriber https://joeryan.com/subscribe/ Release the Pain is a discussion based on a highly controversial Instagram post Joe made that stated ‘the fear you feel in your body is not happening now, it’s fear from your past that has been trapped inside of you”….Go back and re-experience the fear to release it”. The reaction from some readers triggered surprising push back, anger, and even hate! This episode delves into the process and reactions when allowing your thoughts and...

Become A Subscriber  https://joeryan.com/subscribe/ For access to all episodes and bonus content. In this episode, Joe really opens up…dealing with powerful issues surrounding ones’ authenticity and not pretending to be something you are by creating an image of himself that he needed to “survive”. Learn how to accept what comes in and out of your life and deal with things that are beyond your control by working on your self-worth and authenticity. Do the work, but don’t be isolated and...

Become A Subscriber https://joeryan.com/subscribe/ For access to all episodes and bonus content. An Unstuck Story is a powerful confession of Joes’ dramatic struggle to come to grips with his inability to do what his soul cries out for, not what is expected of him as a father, friend, son, and ex-husband. This episode deals with how to condition yourself to reach a point of doing “what will make you happy” vs “what everyone expects you to do”. Don’t sacrifice your own happiness…Identify your...

Become A Subscriber https://joeryan.com/subscribe/For access to all episode and bonus content. Your Job Has Been To Manage Your Emotional Well Being, Keeping Yourself Emotionally Safe. What Happens When You Have Resolved Most Of Your Past Hurt And Betrayal. You Become Emotional Unemployed. Now A Different Kind Of Emotional Work Begins; Soul Building - Website: https://joeryan.com - Instagram: https://instagram.com/joeryan - Subscribe: https://joeryan.com/subscribe/ - Coaching:...

Become A Subscriber https://joeryan.com/subscribe/For access to all episode and bonus content. There Is An Unloved Child In You That Needs To Be Loved. This Is A Love That Only You Can Give Yourself. Start Investing In Yourself By Learning How To Live The Unlived Life You Desire. - Website: https://joeryan.com - Instagram: https://instagram.com/joeryan - Subscribe: https://joeryan.com/subscribe/ - Coaching: https://joeryan.com/coaching/ --- Send in a voice message:...

Become A Subscriber https://joeryan.com/subscribe/For access to all episode and bonus content. Love Is Extending Yourself To Somebody Else, Putting The Relationship Ahead Of Individual Fears, And Becoming Emotionally Vulnerable For The Greater Good. You Can't Have Real Love Without Being Vulnerable - Website: https://joeryan.com - Instagram: https://instagram.com/joeryan - Subscribe: https://joeryan.com/subscribe/ - Coaching: https://joeryan.com/coaching/ --- Send in a voice...

Become A Subscriber https://joeryan.com/subscribe/ For access to all episode and bonus content. I’m Afraid If I Come Back Around, I Will Lose All The Ground I’ve Gained. I’ve Worked Too Hard To Let That Happen. I Don’t Trust That You Will Respect Or Accept The New Me. I Have To Learn How To Be Around You Without Losing Me - Website: https://joeryan.com - Instagram: https://instagram.com/joeryan - Subscribe: https://joeryan.com/subscribe/ - Coaching: https://joeryan.com/coaching/ --- Send...

Become A Subscriber https://joeryan.com/subscribe/ For access to all episode and bonus content. Our vulnerability is locked away and guarded as a means of protection from being emotionally hurt. When vulnerability arises, our nervous system kicks in and takes over and is experienced as deep fear. To dismantle fear, we must purposely lean into our vulnerability, not avoid it. The protection that once kept us safe now limits our life. Love, Joy, and strength reside in our vulnerability,...

Become A Subscriber https://joeryan.com/subscribe/ For access to all episode and bonus content. Holidays with family transport us back in emotional time to childhood and bring us back into the role we need to play. Use this time to see what your role is and how you pretend to be loved and accepted, to slowly dismantle the false self to become a more authentic you. Use this time to pay attention to the feelings and emotions that arise within you. Pay attention to the roles you and...

Become A Subscriber https://joeryan.com/subscribe/For access to all episode and bonus content. Shame keeps us isolated and living in fear of being exposed. To dismantle shame, we must enter our shame and not run and hide from it. We come out of hiding by exposing ourselves to ourselves. Once we start owning our shame, we fear being seen less, feel more alive and free. So much of our lives was us living a lie; we didn't know it. We built layers of protection around us to protect us from...

Become A Subscriber https://joeryan.com/subscribe/ For access to all episode and bonus content. Having a strong emotional connection to self is vital in recovery. Most of us were conditioned to be emotionally available to others to feel valued and loved. We're taught that for us to survive, we have to abandon ourselves to meet the needs of others. We never formed an emotional connection to ourselves in this process as we were always looking outside of ourselves to manage external...

Become A Subscriber https://joeryan.com/subscribe/For access to all episode and bonus content. Most of us never left home emotionally; we have stayed loyal to our family system by staying in our false self role, by abandoning our authentic self. We were molded into the role by being conditioned through shaming, anger, and fear. We learned how to adapt, conform and compromise our needs for the needs of the system.  To become our authentic self, we need to dismantle our false self role...

Become A Subscriber https://joeryan.com/subscribe/ For access to all episode and bonus content. The inner child gets stuck emotionally at the age that the abuse happened. We internalized the abuse and have carried it as our responsibility, and we have shamed ourselves for it ever since. We have mirrored our experience as not being valued, loved, or worthy of being cared for and carried it as our self perception. Joe discusses how Healing the inner child is first understanding that an...

Become A Subscriber https://joeryan.com/subscribe/ For access to this episode and bonus content. In this episode, Joe talks about the self-conscious, shame-based feelings that he constantly faces and how he has learned to deal with them without mood altering. This episode delves deep into the protective actions one takes to hide feelings of shame and paralyzing yourself from life’s most simple activities! Topics in this Episode: -Starting with his first drink at 10, followed closely with...

What is below all those layers you have built up? What are you hiding down there? What is your secret?  Uncovering your secret is an emotional process that can't be forced, it requires patience. There are things in our path that only time can move.  While we wait for the next layer to reveal itself, we allow ourselves time and a safe space to grieve the previous layer and feed our soul as part of the healing process.  - Website: https://joeryan.com -  Instagram:...

How do we recover from our traumatic experiences? When does the feeling of shame enter into the equation? What is the "pain of shame," and how should we deal with it? In this episode, learn how to deal with these emotional pains...and the dull ache that resides with it every day of your life! Learn to resolve trauma, not just store it away! Joe covers the effects of feeling "shamed" and not resolving the traumatic events that have led you to this point, as well as the difficulty in taking...

In this episode, Joe talks about how to deal with anger and not being afraid of being angry or having people being angry at you. Avoid feeling like you have to be a "people pleaser" to avoid people getting angry with you! Learn to set boundaries and to not allow people to disrespect you and cross lines. Learn how boundaries can make everyone involved feel uncomfortable, yet become easier over time to set and manage. Overall a short but to the point revealing episode that effectively brings...

Episode 42 delves into the subject of dealing with numerous levels of emotions and how it affects your fears, anger, resentments, and how you manage those internal ques that will arise. Learn how internal emotional reactions can lead to a downward spiral that includes further depression. See how controlling emotions is crucial and not letting people tell you that “you have no reason to feel (insert the emotion- sad, lonely, etc), even though you don’t know why you feel like you...

In this episode, Joe dives into the topic of feelings, thoughts, and self-pity. See how emotions take you over and how you should just let thoughts just "be." Learn how self-pity can actually be a good thing in your grieving process. Find out how going deeper into your pain can eventually lead you to greater joy in life. Learn to expose yourself to your fears and learn how to make them part of your daily existence. Dealing with situations that can lead to rejection makes everyone...

Traumatic events are stored inside of us, occupying the space reserved for joy. These events are waiting to be acknowledged, accessed, felt, experienced, relived, grieved, and released.  By accessing our past trauma, we are releasing the shame, self-hate, and accountability we internalized. We get to rewrite the story we have been telling ourselves, by now knowing what happened to us was not our fault and is not our responsibility to carry the unwanted feelings anymore. We see the...

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In an enmeshed family system, we have no boundaries, no protection. To start moving out of your family system role, we must learn how to create boundaries. Boundaries are a responsibility line. A boundary lets others know where your responsibility for them ends, and the responsibility for yourself begins. Without boundaries, we are codependent people pleasers who abandon ourselves to be accepted by others. When setting a boundary, we fear the feelings that arise within us as we anticipate the...

Humiliation; being exposed before you're ready to be exposed. Humiliation brings a vast wave of powerful, uncontrollable emotion that can lead us into a shame spiral and emotional paralysis.  I guarded against humiliation at every moment, in everything I did in life. Not dealing with the emotions of embarrassment, I learned not to feel safe within myself, to have no internal boundaries, and to have no self-protection in guarding against the extremely debilitating feelings of shame that the...