I want my children to know that I love my wife selfishly, and I believe this is only appropriate way to love anything or anyone. I know that might sound weird but let me explain. I’m not a fan of the modern day idea of love. Love cannot be unconditional, and I believe it has to be earned. Do not make the mistake, as I did, and think that overall benevolence is the same as love. Treating someone kindly or respectfully doesn’t mean that you love them, it means that you have self-esteem and...

We just got back from time in Florida with the whole crew. The whole crew in this case is the four of us, my parents and my mother-in-law. It was awesome! I can’t remember the last time I got to spend so many days in a row with my parents. One thing that I was struck with both my parents and my mother in law was how little they complained, how hard they worked, how little they expected and how grateful they were for what was happening. It was amazing to see in action. I know all of their...

Have you ever wondered “what’s wrong with the world?” You have? Ok, good, I thought it was just me. When I initially planned this episode I was going to rant for 10 minutes on what, I think, is wrong with the world but then I knew that not be helpful to you, and it might even be a little scary to listen to; I have a habit of yelling. So I thought that something more helpful would be, what am I trying to do about it? The answer to this question comes in many forms - my chosen career and what...

Oh anxiety, how I would love to end our relationship all together. For me, there is nothing more frustrating than losing yourself in a cascade of horrible thoughts and scenarios that haven’t even happened yet, and are very unlikely to happen. Yes, anxiety is something that has bothered me my whole life, so I can related very well to it. I know anxiety can be very complicated with many different causes, one of the things that has really helped me has been to look at my level of clarity...

I just finished Digital Minimalism and, like I mentioned last week, it gave me a lot to think about and digest. My other big take away was the chapter/lesson on free time and what to do with it. I have been looking online for similar articles to site but with no such luck, all that means is I’m going to be telling you what I took away and how I plan to apply this to my life. Happiness is my currency and the most important thing we hold in life. Newport brings up the point about people who...

'Without solitude, no great work is possible.’ Pablo Picasso Do you spend time by alone with your thoughts? Are you finding time to learn and reflect? I recently began listening to Digital Minimalism (by Cal Newport) and at first I didn’t like it. I don’t believe social media is to blame for it’s addictive nature and I don’t believe social media is making us any worse as human beings, it’s just exposing who we are. We are told that people lie about the ‘things’ they have so they can appear...

What a time we live in. I will be dating myself here but I remember growing up and watching a cartoon about a futuristic family named the Jetsons. The Jetsons didn’t drive, they flew. George (the dad) had a conveyor belt that he stood on every morning that would shave him and get him dressed and they a robot maid (Rosie) that would take care of their chores. The most amazing thing were their phones. They didn’t just talk, but they could look at the person they were talking to, and I...

Early this week a good friend of mine and practice member sent me an article of a man who was diagnosed with vitamin D toxicity results in kidney failure. It took the medical team a long time to figure out what had caused the problem and the M.D said something that I think is applicable to every aspect of life – when it doubt, test. This whole thing could have been avoided if this individual had their blood tested to see the levels of their vitamin D. My question to you this week is do you...

This week I had two amazing people reach out for advice. One asked how she should continue her workouts despite the fact that she had to battle to flu; the other how she could lose weight with two young children at home that made it really hard to meal prep and eat what she knew she needed to. My initial gut response was - maybe now is not the right time. Yes there are many people who can train through the flu and lose weight while raising young kids but, there is nothing wrong with not...

Do you spend time facing the things that truly make you uncomfortable in life? Not uneasy, not “I’d rather not.” But truly - I’m scared to do this? 19.5, the last workout of the open, created that sense of dread in me. Feel free to laugh, I can’t see you - other peoples fears are often funny and quirky to us since we don’t see the big deal. I grew in a very safe place, my parents did everything to protect me and shelter me from stress and pain and this can was more than obvious in the...

Have you ever had one of those days where the wheels just came off? I recently just had one and the most interesting thing about it was when I reflected on the day, nothing ‘bad’ or exceptional happened, but it felt like all the wheels came off. Your day is composed of various chunks and different tasks. You don’t just go to the gym. You wake up, make coffee, go to work, pic up your children, go to the gym, have coffee and a million other smaller chunks through out the day. Also stress and...

Every once in a while I hear or read something that directly attacks the ego and claims that your ego is the root of all your problems, while simultaneously destroying the world. I disagree, completely. Your ego is you. It’s your consciousness or, if you like, the unique part of you that makes you an individual. Or put another way - it’s your mind. The part of you that values somethings over other things, the part of you that makes judgements, the part that wants to choose and think. It’s...

Isn't being wrong the worst, yet the best? There is nothing worse that that cold chill followed by complete embarrassment when your deepest conviction, the one that you vocally and passionately supported, was found to be completely wrong. There is also nothing better because you have dropped an incorrect habit or belief from your practice. This week I wanted to discuss how you can leverage the fact that other people think radically different than you to your advantage.

There is nothing quite like a good romp around social media to see how great, beautiful, ripped, wealthy, successful, attractive, happy, vacationing everyone is and how we are lonely loser who isn't doing, or doesn't have any of those things. We all know what it feels like to compare yourself to someone else and how small and miserable it can make us feel. Is there anyway to stop it? Is there anyway to prevent this chronic comparison with others? That's the topic of today's episode

Dan Sullivan of Strategic Coach - you should really look him up if you’re an entrepreneur - has a concept he calls “The Gap” or being in ‘the gap.’ The gap is the mental space you fall into when you have something in mind that you want to achieve yet you’re not there yet. The gap is described as that feeling associated with the frustration of not having achieved your end result while feeling like you’re a failure because there is so much left to go. I was reminded of the gap just yesterday,...

I love that the idea of self love, self esteem and self care are becoming more and more popular and talked about. I love that people are aware of the mental health struggles that we are having as a society and that they inherently recognize that we need to care for ourselves and that it’s ok to love and value yourself. But how do we do that? On today’s episode I discuss what I did to make the largest leaps in my feelings of self worth and self esteem. Enjoy -Dr. Kresimir Jug

Are you a step ahead or are you step behind? If you’re like me then you are both. Some days I’ve got it figured out and then other days I feel like I want to hop on plane and never come back. One of the things that I’ve noticed has made a huge impact in enjoying my days is my ability to prepare for the day ahead. If I’m able to do that, it makes a massive impact. But how do you that? I know there are various ways, on this episode I’ll share what I do. I hope it can help. Enjoy -Dr....

Am I the only person who was the best, most knowledgable parent in the world, before I had kids? It’s funny how experience is a great and humbling teacher. I wanted to share something, a way of thinking, that has been very helpful as a parent and I’m hoping you can take it and use it. The idea is not sacrificing the long term for the short term. What does that mean? For example, my children eat too much junk food for my liking. And every time their grand parents give them junk food I get a...

Pretend your life is one room with only one door leading in and out. The only way anything - a person, a career choice, a partner - can enter your life is through that one door. Likewise the only way they can exist is through that door. At the door stands a door man carrying a list. On that list is a set of your values and nobody is allowed to get through the door and into your life unless they are on that list, meeting your values. We’ve all had people, or things, in our lives, that we...

It’s been a hard week. I had to say goodbye to a close family member. Someone I grew up with, had many experiences with and will miss tremendously. During the whole process I noticed how the grief, trying to come to terms with the situation, and saying good bye, affected me. I was anxious, more judgemental, edgier and would do things - like bicker with my wife - for no good reason. I also notice that when I was alone I would listen to music much more. I would want to hear songs that were...

If you’re old enough to remember the classic Seinfeld episode where Jerry Makes a reservation for a car rental you’ll quickly understand the most important point of this video. In the episode Jerry is disappointed because the rental that he made, and was confirmed by the rental company falls through since the car is not there. The classic line was “Your great at taking a reservation, not so much at keeping the reservation.” The same can be said with New Year’s Resolutions; it’s easy to make...

It’s true that New Year’s is just a date and that you don’t need a certain date to set goals you can start anytime. It’s also true that you’ll probably fail at your New Year’s Resolutions, but this doesn’t stop me from loving this time of year. I believe that quiet time, reflection, and planning (all qualities of a rational, reality oriented mind) are good whenever they happen, if the changing of calendar inspires you to do those things - then so be it. This year I have a challenge for you,...

Have you ever had a goal that you wanted to start pursuing? Maybe it was creating a product, launching a business or even going to the gym and getting fit? You had this massive excitement built up, but then, when it was time to pull the trigger and execute you just couldn't do it? Eventually, you stopped altogether and then (this is worst part) you started telling yourself a story, I'm lazy, I just procrastinate, etc. Lately, I've noticed for myself, that if I lack clarity on a task or...

Have you ever had a week where something unexpected threw a massive wrench in your plans, vision and goals? That was last week for me. Something, completely out of my control, has sucked up most of my time, focus and energy and the worst part is that dealing with it is not getting me closer to my goals. So what should you do? I don’t know much, but I have been alive long enough to know that things are always going to get in the way. In fact, the bigger and better you get, the bigger and...

As the holidays are approaching and the conversation moves to “Ari what do you want for Christmas?” I find myself torn a little bit. On one hand I want to be able to buy my children everything that I possible can for them. After all I love them, I want their lives to easy and filled with abundance. Then, on the other hand, I know what’s necessary for success in life. I know that I grew up in a family where the answer was always yes and I know how hard it was in life when I had to adapt to...