Subscribe to Mamamia It might be Monday... but everyone is still talking about Taylor Swift's new double album The Tortured Poets Department. But is it time for Taylor to stop being petty to those who've crossed her? We can't agree.  Plus, a debate about pepper spray and whether or not laws should be changed to better arm women against male violence. It’s complicated.  And, Victoria Beckham is a big birthday girlie. She's just celebrated the big five zero, but the way she’s celebrating delivers a universal truth about women and milestone birthdays and we have thoughts.  The End Bits:  Listen to the latest episode: Mia Re-thinks Her Relationship With Social Media Read: Kim Kardashian is seemingly slammed in Taylor Swift's new album. Their fight escalated well before this. Read: A Melbourne mum took her baby to Arj Barker's show when he asked her to leave. Get your tickets: Mamamia Out Loud Live Presented By NIVEA CELLULAR Sign up to the Mamamia Out Loud Newsletter for all our recommendations and behind-the-scenes content in one place.  Want to try our new exercise app? Click here to start a seven-day free trial of MOVE by Mamamia  GET IN TOUCH: Feedback? We’re listening. Send us an email at [email protected] Share your story, feedback, or dilemma! Send us a voice message Tell us what you really think so we can give you more of what you really want. Fill out this survey and you’ll go in the running to win one of five $100 gift vouchers. Join our Facebook group Mamamia Outlouders to talk about the show. Follow us on Instagram @mamamiaoutloud CREDITS: Hosts: Holly Wainwright, Mia Freedman & Jessie Stephens  Producer: Emeline Gazilas Assistant Production: Tahli Blackman Audio Producer: Leah Porges Mamamia acknowledges the Traditional Owners of the Land we have recorded this podcast on, the Gadigal people of the Eora Nation. We pay our respects to their Elders past and present, and extend that respect to all Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander cultures. Become a Mamamia subscriber: https://www.mamamia.com.au/subscribe See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.