Episodes
Typically in African society and culture, women are expected to not only have, but WANT to have children. From childhood, African women are generally told by society that marriage and motherhood are the ultimate life goals. In this episode, I speak with Zeezee, who has never felt the longing to be a mother. She shares very candidly about how she came to the decision to be childfree, navigating pushback and societal pressure, having difficult conversations with potential partners, and more!...
Published 01/26/24
Published 01/26/24
Motherhood is an incredible journey filled with love, joy, and growth. But it's also natural to feel nostalgic for certain aspects of your pre-mom life. In this episode, we'll explore some of the things moms commonly miss, with a mix of humor, honesty, and a touch of wistfulness. Follow Mommy Oyoyo on social media @MommyOyoyo. Don't forget to rate, review, share and subscribe to the podcast on Apple, Spotify, Amazon, and more! Share your feedback to any episode, the podcast and any...
Published 01/18/24
Setting goals as a family can be a fantastic way to bond, grow, and create lasting memories throughout the year. In this episode, I share some processes and things to consider when setting goals and making plans as a family. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/mommy-oyoyo/message
Published 01/10/24
In this episode, I talk about choosing extra-curricular activities for your children. Topics Discussed Examples of Extracurricular Activities Things to consider when choosing extra-curricular activities for kids, including Cost, Schedule, Interest, and more --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/mommy-oyoyo/message
Published 08/04/23
Are multigenerational households a thing of the past? In this episode I talk about the pros, challenges and my own personal experiences of multigenerational living. Topics Discussed What is multigenerational living? Why might people choose to live in multigenerational households The benefits of multigenerational living The challenges of multigenerational living Tips for multigenerational households RELATED EPISODES 69 - It Takes a Village to Raise a Child 43 - Raising African...
Published 07/26/23
Stepmothers generally have a bad connotation from negative stereotypes driven by fairytales and folklore around the world. In this episode, I speak with Tambari about her high and low experiences of stepmotherhood. She recently started the @GoodStepmother brand on Instagram to fight the negativity surrounding step-parenting and push more positive content and provide support to a community of stepmothers. Tambari shares her candid thoughts and opinions on issues relating to stepmotherhood,...
Published 01/19/23
In today's world where society seems to be more and more materialistic and entitled, how do we raise children to have an attitude of gratitude? In this episode I share my thoughts on teaching children to be more grateful, with examples from my own parenting experience. I talk about some of the benefits of living a grateful life, and share practical ways to teach children to be grateful. RELATED EPISODES 2. Children's Birthday Parties 4. Discipline and How Early is too Early 15. Your...
Published 01/16/23
When your children ask if they can go to their friends' houses for sleepovers, how do you respond? In this episode I share my thoughts on letting my daughter sleep over at someone else's house, as well as results from a poll posted on Instagram asking parents if they would let their child go to a sleepover. I also share a few tips for those parents who are considering letting their children attend a sleepover.  RELATED EPISODE 60. Teaching Children About Consent Follow Mommy Oyoyo on...
Published 11/22/22
In this episode, I shared responses from the Mommy Oyoyo audience to the question, "Should we be friends with our children? Yay or Nay?" The responses were varied with some advocating for being friends with our children, a few saying we should not be friends with our children, and others stating that there should be a balance between parenting and friendship. I share what my opinion was, and how I see things a little differently after doing some research into the topic. Listen to find out...
Published 03/29/22
In this episode Dr. Ijeoma Kola shares about her approach to parenting her toddler long-distance. Ijeoma talks about the decision for her family to maintain residences in two countries (Kenya and America), which takes her away from her son for a few weeks at a time. We discuss why mothers are reprimanded for prioritizing their careers, whereas fathers aren't. Ijeoma also shares what caused her to feel Mom Guilt and practical tips to mothers who may have to move long-distance in order to push...
Published 02/28/22
In this episode I speak with Titi Sule about her work as an author, and helping her seven year-old son become a first-time author! Titi shares how her son came about to writing a book on his own, her initial hesitation, working with him to edit and eventually publish his book! Listen to hear some practical tips on how to foster creativity and learning within young children. You can find Titi online at her website: https://tzsonline.com and check out some of her work below: Zaki &...
Published 02/02/22
We have all heard the phrase, "It takes a village to raise a child." It is an African proverb that speaks to the community or collective action of people in raising children. According to Wikipedia, "[it] means that an entire community of people must provide for and interact positively with children for those children to experience and grow in a safe and healthy environment." Essentially, parenting involves more than just the parents. In this episode, I share 10 places where you can find...
Published 01/18/22
In this episode I share about how coparenting has gone so far. I share candidly about some of the harder times, including periods when we couldn't stand to talk to each other (hello BLOCK button, LOL!). I also talk about how things are faring currently, and my ultimate wish for our coparenting relationship. RELATED EPISODES 54. Single Mom Life 66. Child Support 31. Dealing with Divorce as an African Mum feat. Vera 25. Life as Single Mother feat. Ebube 67. Dating as a Single Mother...
Published 01/10/22
In this episode, my second-time guest, Ebube gives us a life update! Since she first appeared on the podcast as a Single Mom, Ebube is now married and shares what her thought-process and journey was like as she navigated dating again. She answers questions about what she was looking for, how quickly she introduced her daughter to her now-husband, whether her daughter's father had any input or was informed prior to her getting married and more! She also shares advice to the single mother who...
Published 10/30/21
In this episode I share my thoughts on child support - paying child support and also requesting child support from the non-custodial parent. I talk about why some men may view child support in a negative light and I touch briefly on why all parties involved (whoever participated in the babymaking) should work to provide for their child[ren]. You might be interested in my feature on the Clever Girls Know (Finance) Podcast: Episode 196: Starting Over Building a Life Focused on Financial...
Published 10/08/21
In most African cultures, having just one child is seen as irregular, atypical or maybe even lowkey taboo. Typically, couples are encouraged to have multiple children in the hopes/belief that when you get older, you will have many children to take care of you. Unfortunately, a lot of times, the ability to take care of children financially, emotionally, physically, etc does not seem to be a part of the conversation.  In this episode I share why [at this time] I am perfectly fine with having...
Published 05/14/21
It's no secret that women stand the risk of being penalized career-wise when they become mothers. According to the Harvard Business Review, "Evidence from a variety of countries reveals that the longer new mothers are away from paid work, the less likely they are to be promoted, move into management, or receive a pay raise once their leave is over. They are also at greater risk of being fired or demoted. Length of leave can be a factor in the perceptions of co-workers as well – women who take...
Published 04/20/21
This episode comes from my thoughts after watching a particular video that made the rounds on Instagram in February 2021. The video made me question whether there are or should be some limits when it comes to parenting from the father.  --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/mommy-oyoyo/message
Published 03/14/21
Third time guest Tomisin shares how she and her family caught covid, her symptoms and her recovery in this episode.  Please note that neither of us are medical professionals or scientists. For up to date information about Covid-19, feel free to visit the CDC website or WHO website.  Follow Tomisin on Instagram @TwentySix.Digital  RELATED EPISODES 32. Coronavirus/Pandemic Awareness Follow Mommy Oyoyo on social media @MommyOyoyo. Don't forget to rate, review, share and subscribe to the...
Published 03/12/21
In this episode, my guest Kome Olori shared about how she chose to leave her career as a corporate banker for a life of entrepreneurship. A lot of women while on maternity leave wonder about staying home with the child[ren], going back to work, or doing a little of both. Kome walked us through her thought process on starting her Amazon selling business, and starting the She Dares 2 Succeed coaching program for women entrepreneurs. Follow Kome online:  Instagram @SheDares2Succeed Facebook...
Published 02/26/21
*CLICK HERE TO TAKE THE MOMMY OYOYO AUDIENCE SURVEY 2021* *CLICK HERE TO NOMINATE BERRY FOR THE LEADING LADIES AFRICA 2021* (Nominee full name - Anita Wikina or Berry Dakara, Social Media Handles - @MommyOyoyo) In this episode, Ndali, Associate Director of Hands Off Initiative, talks about teaching children, teenagers and young adults about consent. Hands Off is an organization that aims to break the cycle of abuse and address the problem of rape, sexual abuse, harassment and assault. Ndali...
Published 02/12/21
*CLICK HERE TO TAKE THE MOMMY OYOYO AUDIENCE SURVEY 2021* In this episode, Jayne of FabMumNG and Mom ChitChat TV, talks about the 4 main parenting styles: Authoritative, Permissive, Uninvolved and Authoritative. She also shared tips on how a couple with different styles can find a common ground when it comes to parenting. Check out FabMumNG on social media @FabMumNG and check out the website www.fabmumng.com for motherhood resources. Related Episodes 21. No-Shout Parenting  48. Girl Dad,...
Published 02/04/21
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Published 01/02/21
In this episode I speak with Vese, the author of children's book, 'Who Do I See in The Mirror?' and owner of the Philly & Friends lifestyle brand. Vese shares her thoughts on introducing and speaking to your children about diversity at an early age. Vese and her brand have been featured on BBC News, Huffington Post, Hello! Magazine and recently won the Absolutely Mama Best Brand 2020 award! Learn more about Philly & Friends via their website - https://phillyandfriends.com/ where you...
Published 12/05/20