Today's question covers various themes: manipulative relationships, breakups, waiting for the 'right person', pressure to get married, etc. It comes in from Phoebe who asks: "Hello sir/ma. I have been in a 5-year relationship for which I later called it quit because it was subtly manipulative on me. I have gotten over him long before I broke up with him through the help of God. I am happy I ended it. So, I told God that I want to have feelings or emotions only for the man I will end up marrying; never again do I want to waste my emotion on the wrong man of whom God does not approve. I don't know whether I should be worried because, for some months, I have not been in a meaningful relationship with any man. What's your take on this, ma/sir?"  We responded to these questions by zooming into various aspects of her question and pointing Phoebe's attention to what God may be using this season to accomplish in her heart.  MENTIONED IN THE EPISODE: 1. The New Rules for Love, Sex, and Dating by Andy Stanley 2. Psalm 32 from The Passion Translation. OTHER RESOURCES TO CHECK OUT You will find the links to other resources from Joseph and Anu here: https://josephola.disha.page/