Avoiding Distractions in a Long-Distance Marriage Not Alone Today Podcast | Season 5 Episode 3 Welcome back to another episode of the Not Alone Today podcast! In this episode, Nike asks a follow-up question to Timothy's question which we treated in the last episode (titled When a Couple's Attraction Wanes). Nike asks, “How can I maintain focus and keep the attraction alive in my long-distance marriage? I'm feeling emotionally confused and relying on my faith for support. I can't help but...

When a Couple's Attraction Wanes Not Alone Today Podcast | Season 5 Episode 2 Welcome back to another episode of the Not Alone Today podcast! In this episode, we dive into a question from a listener named Timothy who asks, “How can I handle the situation when I find myself getting less attracted to my wife due to certain habits or attitudes she wouldn't change? Communication is a major challenge between us. I value class and taste, while she seems more laid-back about appearances. How can...

In this episode, we reflect on the previous year and the transition into a new year. We discussed the following among others: ✥ Highlights of 2022 ✥ The merits and demerits of making new year resolutions ✥ Daily Audio Bible Chronological (https://player.dailyaudiobible.com/chronological) ✥ The concept of naming a new year ✥ A warning against distraction You can click on any of the links to listen . . . and please, remember to share. ✥ Joseph's Website —...

This is a 6-in-1 special episode bringing together over two hours of Relationship Content from the Not Alone Today Podcast. For easy navigation, here's a guide: 0:00  ⏩  1. Help! I Don't Like Who God Wants Me To Marry  19:07  ⏩  2. Marrying a Pastor  45:14  ⏩  3. Becoming the Right Person While Waiting for the Right Person 01:12:40  ⏩  4. The Audacity of Marrying on a 'God Said' Basis 01:30:15  ⏩  5. Being Sure of Who to Marry 01:51:47  ⏩  6. Am I Ready for a Relationship? You...

In today's episode, we respond to Chika's question sent in from Lagos, Nigeria. Here's her question: "What do you do when you try to work out your relationship with other people and it seems like the more you try to 'express' who you are, they keep misunderstanding?" We discussed a few possibilities for Chika's consideration including but not limited to: ✥ The possibility that God may be teaching Chika some patience ✥ The possibility that Chika may be surrounding herself with the wrong...

In today's episode, we respond to Betty's question sent in from East Africa. Her main question goes thus: "Pastor, I need your help. I've been married to a man I believe is God's will for my life for a couple of years. However, I have observed in recent times that my husband lies to me and hardly apologises! There are so many decisions we make as a family but sometimes he goes against them and, in turn, lies to me instead. I am so fed up. I feel it's not healthy for me, especially as we are...

In today's episode, we respond to Helen's questions. Her main question goes thus: "What can you say about a single lady who is waiting and working because she is not sure that it is time for her to get into a marital relationship yet? She is willing to walk according to divine timing; she is working on discovering herself, acquiring useful skills, working on her character flaws, maximizing her God-given potential, and receiving training on 'the art of authentic ministry.' Meanwhile, as she...

"What are your thoughts on how young moms can manage money in their marital context?"  That's the summary of today's question. It is the concluding part of Tunde's question which we began responding to in our previous episode (S3E04) on balancing the roles of a wife, young mom and career person with one's spirituality. Here's Tunde's question once again: "3 ladies who just got married have been struggling with balancing their spiritual life with child care, marriage and career. They wish...

"How can a young mom balance spirituality, childcare, marriage and her career?" That's this week's question in a nutshell. Today's question comes in from Tunde who sends a voice note to ask a question based on his recent interactions with 3 of his friends (all ladies) who share some things in common. In summary, here's his question:  "3 ladies who just got married have been struggling with balancing their spiritual life with child care, marriage and career. They wish they could get back the...

THE QUESTION: Today's question comes in from a listener who asks, "Do you ever worry about whether someone—or many people in fact—might have written about what you have in mind to write about?" Joseph and Anu reflected on this from their writing and publishing experience. Click on any of the links to listen . . . and please, remember to share. ✥ Joseph's Website — https://www.josephkolawole.org/notalonetoday/ ✥ Other Podcast Platforms — https://pod.link/1537774506 FOR MORE RESOURCES FROM...

THE QUESTION: Today's question comes in from Tejire, a young lady who has been in a godly courtship with the man she's truly and fully persuaded to be God's will for her life. However, as the wedding day draws nearer, it's been one challenge from her family or the other. She's feeling depressed from the various issues that are popping up (mostly pertaining to the wedding plans) so she reached out to ask how she could shield herself from allowing those issues to get to her. Joseph shared his...

THE QUESTION: Today's question comes in from Ire, a young lady who feels a bit fearful being faced with a dilemma regarding her choice of a life partner. She asks, "How do I hear from God (regarding who to marry) when my heart is full of fear?" The backstory is elaborated upon in the episode. BIBLE VERSES REFERENCED 2 Timothy 1:7 TPT - "For God will never give you the spirit of fear, but the Holy Spirit who gives you mighty power, love, and self-control." Psalm 32:8-9 TPT - "I hear the...

"How can you help a younger believer who is addicted to masturbation when previous intervention doesn't seem to be effective?" That is the summary to the interesting question we responded to in this episode. It comes in from Bimpe who asks,  "Sir, please I need your counsel on a matter. There's this girl myself and [my fiancé] are discipling who is addicted to masturbation. I shared with her #Unaddicted. We read it together and encouraged her [but] she's still deep into the act. How else...

"What if someone is addicted to sharing godly and edifying posts on social media?" That is the summary of the interesting question we responded to in this episode. It comes in from Bisi who asks,  "Sir, I have a question for your wife. I remember in one of the previous podcast episodes that I listened to, she spoke about how that when she has gotten certain godly piece of information, she's quick to share them on her social media handle. Like, for example, she sees an edifying post and then...

In today's episode, Anu and Joseph both reflect on some highlights from their time in the Word in the past week. Anu zoomed in on different aspects and prayers from the life of David as recorded in 1 Chronicles while Joseph reflects on a conversation between Jesus, Peter and John in Luke 22.  BIBLE VERSES REFERENCED 1 Chronicles 21:8; 22:9; 29:10f  Luke 22:7-13  Click on any of the links to listen . . . and please, remember to share. ✥ Joseph's Website —...

"If the lady I'm convinced God wants me to marry has a bad attitude and character, should I still go ahead?" That is the summary to the interesting question we considered in this episode. It comes in from Zachaeus who asks, "Please sir, there's this question I'd love to ask as well as seek clarity from you with regards to marriage/relationship. If God is leading me in the direction of a lady as my wife-to-be (God's will) and such a lady has a bad character and attitude, am I permitted to go...

Is it okay to sleep on a hotel bed on our wedding night? That is the summary of the interesting question we considered in this episode. It comes in from Kwame who asks,  "Hi. I have this question on my mind and I would want to know your thoughts about it and whether it is scripturally right or wrong. Myself and my wife-to-be have had a lot of discussions about our wedding day, especially the wedding night. However, I do have this concern. Is it advisable for us to spend that special moment...

Have you ever felt disappointed by God? The question we responded to in this episode comes in from Henry who asks, "At those times when you felt disappointed by God, what were the things you did to keep you going and to still trust in God?" We discussed this by sharing some personal case studies of times we have felt such an emotion and the practical steps we took which boosted our confidence and continued trust in God. BIBLE PASSAGE REFERENCED Romans 5:1-5 MSG RESOURCE...

Welcome to Season 2 of Not Alone Today Podcast. We want to thank those who have tracked with us and always sending in their feedback, questions and suggestions. We are very grateful. We kick off this new season with a question from Angela who asks, "Is it wrong to have a tattoo or get a second piercing as a lady?" We discussed this and shared some principles that may guide us in coming to our personal conclusions and decisions about such amoral issues. BIBLE VERSES REFERENCED 1....

In this episode of NATP, we feature some of the feedbacks some listeners have sent in either as voice messages or texts. We hope that the episode will inspire you to keep engaging with this resource and also spread the word within your sphere of influence so that even more people can be blessed by this resource.

The question we considered in this episode comes from Tina. She asks,  "A while ago, my mum suddenly began to object to the church I attend and she never had issues with this in the past. I kept praying that she would change her mind while I kept attending church. She would give in for a while but begin to complain again later. Her point was that my church was a bit far hence I come home late whenever I go for weekly service. She threatened to kick me out of the house if I persisted and...

Bola asks, "Sir and ma, I will like a clarification on when rapture will happen. I have always believed that believers will not witness the period of the Antichrist but I was recently in a discussion that brought in the idea that they will. What are your thoughts about this?" This episode is our response to her question. We discussed the different perspectives to understanding the 'timing' of the rapture vis-a-vis the events of the 'period of tribulation' described in an apocalyptic...

Why would a lady marry a guy who is, to say the least, clueless about his future?  That's the summary of the question we consider this week. It comes in from Pemi and was directed to Joseph. Pemi asks:  "I read your book 'Bumpy but Sweet' again today. I noticed that you didn't particularly know so much about God's plans for you before you asked your wife to marry you. I have heard relationship coaches say that you shouldn't hitch your ride to someone you aren't sure is going your way (i.e....

Today's question covers various themes: manipulative relationships, breakups, waiting for the 'right person', pressure to get married, etc. It comes in from Phoebe who asks: "Hello sir/ma. I have been in a 5-year relationship for which I later called it quit because it was subtly manipulative on me. I have gotten over him long before I broke up with him through the help of God. I am happy I ended it. So, I told God that I want to have feelings or emotions only for the man I will end up...