This was recorded in the dark winter months of COVID and I honestly don't remember a lot of what we talked about, as I've been knee deep in therapy school (I know, I know but I still won't be YOUR therapist. Probably.) BUT I know it was amazing and sexy and all about breakups and relationships and how to get one and how to get out of one and how to get a new one and how to enjoy the whole darn process of it all even when it seems like the COVID winter of your dating life will never end. Guess...

Suzee is hot, cool, and has no problem getting people to fall in love with her. It's the staying in love that's the problem, even despite her best efforts to not get hurt again. So something has to change! Knowing exactly what you do in dating doesn't mean you'll stop doing it! There's more to it than that. We talk patterns and how to break them, dating in COVID, and holding yourself to treating yourself well, partially by letting go of the whole protecting yourself thing. It's time for a new...

Remember big weddings???? This episode was originally posted April 2019, when those used to happen and be a BIG FREAKIN DEAL. This episode was also a crowd favorite and we all learned a LOT from Alisa and all her incredible honesty. Enjoy! Alisa is set to get married in eight weeks. Problem is, she and her wife are not getting along. But with all that time and money and planning invested, should they call it off just because of some disagreements? Or power through and figure it out later?...

One word for Tim Drucker: aspirational. We are ALL lucky because he blessed us with his presence to answer some long-awaited listener Qs. We discuss single allyship, love spells (he cast one for you), how to get in touch with your intuition, punctuality, what not to ask on dates, why to stop telling yourself unproductive stories, and why I'm ok with Tim doing the exact opposite of everything I would recommend anyone else ever do. And maybe you should do it too! Maybe. Listen up! @tdrucks is...

Alex and I are kicking the dating year off right! We have so much to discuss because it's been a while! WHEN can we all mush our bodies together again, WHY to treat yourself like a pet, WHAT to do when partners have different lifestyles or religions, HOW to have better Zoom and outdoor dates. It's all here. Listen up! Send all Qs and coaching requests to [email protected] OR @notyourtherapistpodcast on IG. You can come on the show anonymously or not; I'd love to help! Write...

Alex and I are diving in post-my marriage and answering some long-awaited listener qs like: when is it ok to lie on dating profiles? How long is too long to hold on to the idea of someone? How the EFF do we keep dating right now?? Let's get into it. Listen up!   Guest: @ajospin, ajholistic.com   Send all Qs and coaching requests to [email protected] OR @notyourtherapistpodcast on IG. You can come on the show anonymously or not; I'd love to help!   Write us a lovely review and...

Robbie is BACK to discuss his no-longer-new or relationship and where it might (or might not) be going. How much time is too much to spend together? Does financial compatibility matter? How do we navigate major family and idealistic differences? We get INto it and no topic is off-limits. Listen up!   Send all Qs and coaching requests to [email protected] OR @notyourtherapistpodcast on IG. You can come on the show anonymously or not; I'd love to help!   Write us a sweet review...

Let's give up on pretending to be perfect already! EVERYone has baggage; what matters is what you do with that baggage. And everyone has major emotions now!! Embrace them! You'll laugh eventually yes, but it's important to first let yourself cry! So go easy on you and settle in while we discuss "Labor of Love", some listener qs, my sleeping habits, and of course, Alex's love life. Listen up!   Send all Qs and coaching requests to [email protected] OR @notyourtherapistpodcast...

I'm back with health and wellness expert and dating guinea pig Alex Jospin! Since we're still in quarantine, we're gonna talk about dating in quarantine! And dating in general. And how to take care of yourself, of course, and how to be bold and brave stop waiting for some magical perfect day and make things HAPPEN now (hint: fill the right file first)!! Listen up!   Alex: ajholistic.com, @ajospin   Send all Qs and coaching requests to [email protected] OR...

My partner is depressed and wants to take a break: do I stay or go? What are some fun creative things to do in quarantine for my partner? Do I keep in touch with someone who I have feelings for but who sometimes lets me down? And HOW to not get annoyed by every. little. thing my partner/SO/roommate/family member/self does while locked in the house with me? Answers to all these questions and more in my last quick episode before I take a four-week-long break: the first ever for Not Your...

It's health and wellness week with coach Alex Jospin and we get INto it as the quarantine beat goes on...but we don't just talk about that! Hear our hot take on "Too Hot to Handle", the great things about our current situation, and Alex even tells me what's wrong with ME! We also have more tips for virtual dating and great ideas for fighting and/or embracing the boredom. Listen up! Guest: @ajospin, Alex Jospin Follow Not Your Therapist Podcast on Instagram and send us your...

The ladies from LJ Matchmaking, aka "The Love Agents of Hollywood", join me to talk about virtual matchmaking, their virtual blind date venture (it's a HIT with my clients), and the dos and don'ts of virtual dating and beyond. We go from how to get started to what to wear to how to enjoy it and what to definitely NOT do. We also get into their super fun personal love success stories, which are nothing short of inspiring (and hilarious) and will make you think twice about searching so hard for...

AND...what do with all this horniness in quarantine (yours and ours and theirs)!? Fan Favorite Billy Griffin Jr. is BACK to update us on an EPIC assignment I gave him when he was first on over a year ago. Hint: He wasn't allowed a boyfriend for a full year, wasn't allowed to even TRY for it and now...well, you'll have to tune in. Together we talk how to use communication to grow vulnerability and ultimately build a strong and healthy bond. We discuss our invention of creative pornography,...

Listener question for the week: how can I be more comfortable telling my new-ish partner what I'm into sexually? Let's talk about it, as well as how to make this virtual dating thing a bit more creative and interesting, AND how to go easy on yourself and your partner because everyone handles this differently. Also, it's Passover this week so free yourself from whatever is keeping YOU enslaved, and celebrate what you're already free from that perhaps you weren't before. Let's celebrate...

Alex Jospin (health and wellness expert and my single out in the field, AND the brain behind this incredible episode title) joins me to talk about all things dating and COVID, as well as her personal recs for staying healthy and sane (ish). You can do nothing if you're feeling burnt out, you can have chat sex if you're feeling bold, you can do anything you want because we're all feeling everything! Be bold! Because for the foreseeable future you have nothing to lose but everything to gain by...

First up: plenty of hot tips for our current situation and how to feel MORE connected and hopeful romantically - not less. And THEN. Goddess Angel Anderson is here to entrance, educate, and soothe us with her incredible story of marriage, infidelity, radical honesty, and polyamory. Angel currently has two boyfriends AND a comet. What's a comet, you ask? You must listen to find out! Angel is a downright SAGE and we can learn SO MUCH from her. Whether you think polyamory might be your thing or...

Staying in can be FUN, and GREAT for your dating life! I mean it; so do it. Whether you go on FaceTime dates (Love Is Blind-style without the blind!), rediscover your love of watercolor painting, or find out you LIKE someone you recently started dating beyond just the sexual, take this time for YOU and for both your relationships with other people and with yourself. MEANwhile I talked to Cameron the self-proclaimed introvert (who must be LIVING right now) about how to be more social, get out...

What do you do when everything is "perfect" in a relationship except a fewwww key things? And if you were all of a sudden told you were terminal, what would you do? Go have a sexual revolution? That's what my guest Nikki Boyer's best friend Molly did, and they were generous enough to make a podcast about it! Nikki and I talk about what it was like for her to vicariously go on this journey and what she learned about sex and dating and herself in the process. Nikki is also making it work as a...

Health and wellness coach and Single Out in the Field Alex Jospin is BACK this week to talk Love Is Blind (what can we learn from this apparent disaster), our dating book club pick "Come As You Are" (what can we learn from this MIRACLE of a sex help book), AND her dating life! From sex and vulvas to why Jessica needed to GET OVER HERSELF, we cover it ALL! Listen up! Follow Not Your Therapist Podcast on Instagram and send us your questions! @notyourtherapistpodcast

Comedian Audrey Stewart is lunging at women out in the world (consensually) and LOVING IT!!! Sometimes. Other times she's beating herself up and doubting herself and questioning dating as a whole, just as everyone does, straight, gay, queer, and all of it. Lesson is: the journey to becoming you isn't easy and neither is the journey to finding someone to love you for you, but it's worth it. And it WILL get easier if you stick with it and keep pushing against that cocoon til you're free....