Welcome back to our series “Being the Breadwinner!” In our final installment of this series, we’re addressing a relationship problem of invisible and visible forms of labor that may not feel equally distributed. I’ll be talking about how to find balance when you have a family.  This has been a very touchy subject amongst many circles but it’s something we have to talk about. If you and your partner’s values don’t align, especially when it comes to the division of labor in the home, it will...

Welcome back to our new series “Being the Breadwinner!” In part three of this series, we’re addressing some relationship problems that come up when you become the breadwinner of your family. This week, we talk about how to manage stress, energy, and mindset during this transition.  In this episode, I highlighted all the factors that depleted my energy when I became the breadwinner. My sister was diagnosed with cancer, my new position was incredibly demanding, and I even off-boarded all of my...

Welcome back to our brand new series “Being the Breadwinner!”. In part 2 of this series, we’ll be addressing some relationship problems that can come up when you become the breadwinner of your family. This week, we’re going to talk about how to support your partner’s dreams.  As their partner, you don’t need to understand their dream. You just need to be there for them. Being there for them is the most important thing because it will allow them to feel safe with you.  When your partner...

Welcome to our brand new series Being the Breadwinner! In this series, we’ll be addressing some relationship problems that can come up when you become the breadwinner of your family. This week, we’re going to talk about how to stop arguing about the bills.   Arguing about bills can be a sign that you are not aligned on your money values as a couple. And because you’re not aligned, you’re arguing about how to spend your money without having a why or a how for your money. Check out this...

Welcome to Part 4 of our latest series, Spring Clean Your Relationship! This week, we are asking our partners to tell us about ourselves. Hearing what your partner thinks of you is a crucial part of your relationship because your partner is your mirror. They are going to notice things about you that you don’t notice about yourself. And if you trust them, you’re going to want to listen to them. Because this can be a lesson you need to learn about yourself.  So when you ask this question, I...

Welcome to Part 3 of our latest series, Spring Clean Your Relationship! This week, we are asking our partners the question: What are your plans for next month? We’re going to work on your short-term goals to see if you can do life with this person in the long term.  Because when you’re deciding if this is the person you want to do life with, the emphasis is usually on long-term goals. What do we want to do in five years, in ten years, in fifteen years? A lot of big ideas come into...

Welcome to Part 2 of our newest series, Spring Cleaning Your Relationship! This week, we are asking our partners the question: Do our values still align? Figuring out if your values are aligned will help you figure out if this is the person you want to continue to do life with. Because your values and your partner's values are the way that you both navigate the world and make daily decisions. It impacts the way that you talk to each other, how you act, and how you feel towards each...

This week, we are kicking off a brand new series called Spring Cleaning Your Relationship! This is a four-part series that you can use to check in with your partner, strengthen your relationship, and make sure you’re still a team.  Part One of this new series will focus on one question: Am I still the one? Notice how we’re not asking, “Do you still love me?” And that’s because the answer to that question is not enough. You can love someone and not want to do life with them anymore. This is...

In this week’s episode, we’re discussing the top three things I learned about marriage.  Marriage is a lot of work, but it’s not hard if you’re paying attention to your partner. Your partner is the love of your life, but they’re also their own person. They have their own wants and needs, their own hobbies you won’t understand, and their own way of needing space. And a marriage works best when you can understand these lessons and respect them. Over the years, I’ve learned how to respect our...

In this week’s episode, we’re discussing the top three signs you are falling out of love with your partner.  There is a difference between being “in love” and having “love” for your partner. When you have love for your partner you respect them and have care and compassion for them. However, being “in love” requires you to consciously decide to be with this person and share the rest of your life.  Falling “out of love” with our partners can be very scary because it clashes with the big...

In this week’s episode, we talk about what to do when your partner becomes your roommate.  When you feel like your spouse is more of your roommate than anything and you do not address it, the red flags of this new roommate relationship will feel heavy. In this episode, we’re going to address these red flags and what you can do about them.  This year, I’ve worked with a client, who with my support as her relationship coach was able to address the root of the problem and get back to the...

In this week’s episode, we talk about how to be ok when your partner is not ok.  It can be incredibly stressful to know that your partner is having a hard time. But it’s also important to remember that your partner is not a problem to be solved. You don’t have to “fix” them every time your partner has an issue.  Many of my clients have a hard time letting go of the fixer role and giving their partners the space to solve their own problems. That’s why in this week's episode, I’m going to...

In this week’s episode, we talk about breaking up and never making up and why that’s so difficult for you.  When you break up, you start to mourn all the promises that were made during the relationship. You naturally start to feel like this relationship was a waste of time. But healing comes when you start to accept the lessons this relationship taught you. These are exactly the feelings that I help my clients process to heal themselves, forgive their partners, and acknowledge the lessons...

In this week’s episode, we talk about why ride-or-die couples have so many blow-ups.   When you are in a ride-or-die relationship your partner's opinion matters so much to you that when it seems like they’re being even a little negative, you’re going to have an argument.  I see this happen all the time with the couples I coach, and it’s because you take your opinions so seriously. You care so much about what your partner thinks of you that if they don’t automatically love what you love,...

In this week’s episode, we talk about why money will not solve your marriage issues.  That one issue that you're having right now in your marriage that you think money will solve, I'm going to tell you how money will not solve it. These are questions I want you to ask yourself as you navigate solving for your marital issues with money: Can you even have conversations about money safely, soberly, and calmly without pointing the finger?  Are you and your partner in a position where you...

In this week’s episode, we talk about what forgiveness looks like and how you can start to use forgiveness as a tool to help you alleviate the hurt, resentment, and thoughts you have.  Because forgiveness is not about them. Forgiveness is about you. Forgiveness is a tool to alleviate the pain that you're going through, the betrayal that you feel, the hurt that you feel. Forgiveness is a tool for you. Forgiveness allows you to surrender everything. Forgiveness is the medicine that your...

Becoming head of household was a transition, to say the least. Especially because I had never made more than my husband before. But now that I was making more than enough money for the both of us, it turned some of our usual family dynamics on its head.  A lot of women find themselves becoming head of household these days - which is amazing for us! And while it can provide financial benefits, it can also provide personal stressors.  In this week’s episode, we’ll be taking a look at what...

In this episode, we'll uncover the subtle ways scorekeeping can creep into our relationships, from tracking who does more chores to keeping tabs on who initiated the last romantic gesture. I want to shed light on how this habit can erode trust and intimacy, and to provide practical strategies to transform it into something more positive Whether your in a long-term relationship or simply interested in what relationships go through, then know that this episode will offer valuable insights to...

In this episode we dive deep into how to navigate in-law relationships without constant arguments so that you and your partner can get back to being intimate. Whether your in a long-term relationship or simply interested in what relationships go through, then know that this episode will offer valuable insights to inspire hope on even the darkest times. Click the link to listen below and email me back with your thoughts, I want to hear from you! If this episode resonated with you and...

Money can be such a significant source of stress in our relationships, often leading to arguments and tensions. In this episode, we dive deep into the complex relationships between money and intimacy and I share my personal framework and strategies to help couples stop arguing about finances and enjoy a more fulfilling sex life. Whether your in a long-term relationship or simply interested in what relationships go through, then know that this episode will offer valuable insights to...

Listen as I get deep and very raw about the worst year of my marriage. This was a stage of my marriage where it's limits were definitely tested. In this episode I recount the challenges that pushed my husband and I to confront our deepest insecurities and vulnerabilities. From communication breakdowns to external pressures, I walk you through how we weathered our storms. Whether your in a long-term relationship or simply interested in what relationships go through, then know that this...

Listen as I walk you through deciding if its better to seek a partner with a well established track record or one with untapped potential? Throughout the episode, we'll explore:  What are partners with potential look like in a relationship?What are partners with patterns look like in a relationship?Which type of relationship works for me? Whether you're currently in a relationship or searching for one, this episode will provide you with valuable perspectives to consider on your journey to...

Whether you've been together for years or are in the honeymoon phase, the battle against boredom in your relationship is a common challenge. Join me as I share my framework for battling boredom in your relationship called P.L.A.Y. where I teach you how to:  P: Phone a wise friend L: Lean into your partner and yourself A: Affection & appreciation for your partner Y: Yearn for more connection  Tune in to learn how to transform your relationship from mundane to rediscovering the joy of...

Listen to this episode as we dive deep into a top unspoken topic of why we sometimes find ourselves settling in our relationship. Join me as I navigate the complexities of human emotions and decision-making, uncovering the underlying factors that lead to compromise and settled for less than we deserve. Whether you're currently in a relationship, reflecting on past experiences, or simply interested in understanding the intricate dance between emotions and decisions, this episode will...