In anticipation of the upcoming launch of my signature program Healing Anxious Attachment, today's episode is all about what changes you can expect as you heal your anxious attachment. I'll be sharing 6 shifts that you'll notice as you do the healing work and become more secure within yourself and in your relationships. We cover: learning to observe your anxious thoughts rather than be ruled by themnot feeling the urgent need to fix and problem-solve your relationshiptrusting that conflict...

In today's episode, we're talking about the difference between privacy and secrecy. Depending on where you sit on the attachment spectrum, you may have a complicated relationship with privacy - both your own and others'. We'll discuss where the line is between privacy and secrecy, and what to do if you find other people's privacy uncomfortable or triggering. We cover: what's the difference between privacy and secrecy?anxious attachment and the need for information to eliminate uncertaintythe...

In today's episode, I'm sharing 5 ways to support a partner with a fearful avoidant (AKA disorganised) attachment style. The fearful avoidant attachment style is often considered the most complex and challenging of the attachment styles, characterised by a conflicting push-pull between wanting intimacy and fearing it. We'll cover: the betrayal wound and the importance of honesty & openness in building truststriking the right balance between compassion & firm boundarieshow to make the...

In this Q&A episode, we're talking all about moving on after a break-up. Specifically, what to do when we want to move on, but deep down we're still very much hoping our ex will reach out and want to rekindle. We cover: the importance of allowing ourselves to feel our feelings after a break-upwhy we don't need to emotionally let go before moving onhow to take action to support yourself after a break-upYou can download my free guided meditation on finding closure & letting go...

In this episode, we're talking all about the stages of a relationship - specifically, what happens when we transition from the honeymoon period of a relationship (fuelled by chemistry, romance and infatuation) to the power struggle (where all our flaws and wounds come to the fore). We'll talk about: what each stage of a relationship looks likewhy the transition from honeymoon period to power struggle feels like a bait & switchhow anxious-avoidant dynamics overlay onto this dynamichow you...

In this episode, I'm answering the question of "I'm anxious, he's avoidant. Is it weird that I want more sex than him?"  We cover: anxious-avoidant sexual dynamicsthe sexual honeymoon period and what happens afterwardwhy avoidant partners withdraw sexually how anxiously attached people use sex for validation Further Links & Resources Join the waitlist for the next round of Healing Anxious Attachment Download the free guide: Attachment 101 Follow me on Instagram: @stephanie__rigg &...

In today's episode, I'm offering 6 tips on how avoidant people can become more secure in their relationships.  We cover:  the importance of getting to know your inner worldlearning to feel safe with healthy interdependency increasing your tolerance for disharmony and conflictgetting curious about your triggers before acting on themcommunicating with words rather than actionsthe benefits of co-regulation for your nervous systemFurther Links & Resources Join the waitlist for the next...

In today's Q&A episode, I'm sharing tips for initiating hard conversations with an avoidant partner. This is a question I get a lot - how to express needs to an avoidant partner, how to set boundaries, how to share feedback. These conversations are already intimidating for many anxiously attached folks, and when combined with the sensitivities of the avoidant partner, can be a perfect storm.  We cover: how to set yourself up for success in initiating hard conversationsthe importance of a...

In this episode, I'm talking all about perfectionism - but probably not in the way you've heard it spoken about before. Perfectionism is often thought of as a personality quirk - a commitment to high achieving and having things a certain way. But when it comes to relationships, perfectionism can be a powerful protective strategy that keeps us from being seen and known as our authentic selves.   We cover: how anxiously attached people hold themselves to standards of perfection as a way to...

In today's Q&A episode, I'm answering the question of "My ex moved on immediately post break-up and I can't help but take it personally." This is a really common pain point for people post-break-up, so don't beat yourself up if you're in this situation (or have been there in the past!) We'll cover: why it's normal to feel hurt by a partner moving on faster than we dowhy it's so important to monitor the stories we tell ourselves post break-upreasons why people process break-ups...

In today's episode, we're talking all about emotional health & safety in relationships. If you've ever wondered what "emotional safety" actually means, look no further - we'll be discussing some guiding principles and questions you can ask to assess how emotionally healthy your relationship is.  And most importantly, what you can do to improve the emotional state of your relationship - because let's face it, this is going to be a work in progress for most of us.  We cover: voicing needs,...

"We've been together a year and I've just seen he's still using Tinder. Can trust be rebuilt?" Today's episode is a community Q&A, and I'm answering a hard question about rebuilding after discovering a breach of trust.  We'll talk through: Things to look for when deciding whether to stay & rebuild after infidelityThe importance of the other person taking ownership & responsibility for the harm caused What it really takes to rebuild trustRecommended resources For a deeper dive on...

In this episode, I'm sharing 5 tips for rebuilding after a long-term relationship ends. Let's face it: break-ups are painful at the best of times. But when the relationship was a long-term one, it can be even more challenging to navigate our "new" life without our ex in it. I'll be sharing tips to support you through the life cycle of your break-up - from the initial grieving process all the way through to re-entering the dating world.  We cover: How to grieve your break-up in a healthy...

In this episode, I'm answering a question I receive all the time which is: "How do I tell my partner they are avoidant so that we can start doing the work?"  We cover:  The importance of being honest & self-aware about our intentions in introducing a partner to personal development workNavigating anxious attachment tendencies around the saviour complex, over-functioning and taking responsibility for what's not oursWhy "the work" might look different for everyone How to approach...

In this episode, we're talking all about apologies - and specifically, why they might feel so hard sometimes. Being able to apologise is so fundamental to healthy repair, but for many of us, can feel inexplicably challenging. After listening to today's episode, my hope is that you'll have greater clarity around why apologies can feel so hard, and how to address the underlying resistance so you can foster greater connection and emotional maturity in your relationships.  What we cover: Why...

In this week's Q&A episode, I'm answering a community question about the (very common) tendency to lose oneself as an anxiously attached person in relationships. I'll talk through why this happens so often and easily, and what you can do to counter it.  Further Links & Resources Join the waitlist for the next round of Healing Anxious Attachment Download the free guide: Attachment 101 Follow me on Instagram: @stephanie__rigg & @onattachment Visit my website

We often speak about the many ways in which anxious and avoidantly attached people differ in their relationship styles. But in this episode, I'm flipping the script and highlighting some similarities between these so-called conflicting styles. We cover relationship fears, boundaries, vulnerability, conflict and more - and my hope is that you'll walk away with a greater capacity to approach yourself and the people in your life with curiosity and compassion.  Further Links & Resources ...

In this episode, I'm answering the community question of "I used to be anxiously attached, but after discovering my husband's infidelity, I find myself being avoidant with potential new partners. How do I find the healthy middle ground?" We talk about changing attachment styles, fear, betrayal and how we can start to create more safety more ourselves after we've been hurt.  Further Links & Resources FLASH SALE: SAVE 50% ON MY MASTERCLASSES & COURSES WITH THE CODE "LOVEYOU" Download...

It's easy to feel overwhelmed and confused with the vast amounts of (often-conflicting) relationship advice going around - which is why in this week's episode, I'm calling out 5 pieces of unhelpful relationship advice, as well as some more constructive alternatives. I'll give my take on common advice like "never settle", "you have to love yourself first", and "when you find the one, you'll just know!".  Further Links & Resources FLASH SALE: SAVE 50% ON MY MASTERCLASSES & COURSES...

In our last episode of 2022, I'm sharing 5 pieces of life advice to help you enter 2023 with intention, inspiration and clarity around who you want to be and what you want to create in your life.  Apply for the 2023 Italy Retreat

In this week's episode, I'm sharing a trend I notice in people with anxious attachment as they move through their healing journey. I'm sharing my observation of three key "stages" or mindsets that people typically fall into, and which mindset will set you up for the most success in meaningfully shifting your anxious attachment style.  Apply for the 2023 Homecoming Mastermind Apply for the 2023 Italy Retreat

In this week's episode, we're talking all about anxious attachment & inconsistency. Inconsistency is a real point of sensitivity for anxiously attached folks, and we'll be talking through what that can look like, where it comes from, and some tools and reframes to support you in navigating the ebbs & flows of relationships from a more secure base.  Apply for the 2023 Homecoming Mastermind Apply for the 2023 Italy Retreat

This week is a Q&A-style episode, where I'm answering your questions all about anxious attachment! We'll cover what it actually means to "heal" anxious attachment, how to manage anxiety around texting someone, how to identify and express needs as an anxiously attached person, and how to deal with being on the receiving end of an avoidant partner's boundaries. Sign up for Healing Anxious Attachment Want to work with me directly? Apply for the 2023 Homecoming Mastermind

In this week's episode, I'm sharing 5 tips to help you process feelings of regret, shame and self-blame about things that may have happened in your past relationships. Regret can be so crippling, but it can also present us with a powerful opportunity - to reflect, to learn, and to do better next time - and today's tips are going to help you make the most of your regret rather than letting it get the better of you. Sign up for Healing Anxious Attachment Want to work with me directly? Apply...