Roxy and Taj have been together for over 3 years and have had several group sex experiences together. They explored playing with couples, but eventually decided they preferred to only have threesomes with women. In this conversation, we chat about how they arrived at that decision. We also talk about Roxy’s process of opening up and letting go of what was expected from her community and about Taj’s past failed non-monogamous experiences. Their journey is an example of how when opening up you might not really know what is right for you or what your boundaries are but it is through experience that you can find what Taj calls ‘the sweet spot’.