Practicing self-regulation is challenging, even for the most self-aware adults, but it’s what will ultimately enable you to offer co-regulation to your children. Co-regulation is the underbelly of peaceful parenting and the greatest gift you can offer your kids, and in this episode,  you’ll learn why.   Discover the importance of co-regulation in your journey toward peaceful parenting. I’m showing you what it means to pause and respond in the face of challenging behaviors, why offering...

Resentment is a complex mix of emotions and it can poison our minds and relationships when left unchecked. As a parent, it can be difficult to know what to do with it when you see it show up. This week, I'm exploring how to let go of resentment, and how we can model the power of releasing grudges and embracing inner peace for our kids.   Listen in to learn my four-step process for releasing resentment. To help you better understand the complexities of resentment and its impact, I’m sharing...

Trust is the cornerstone of a strong parent-child bond, but it doesn't just naturally happen. One amazing way you can lay the groundwork for lifelong trust is by cultivating compassion, but how do you go about doing it?   If you want your kids to turn to you during times of mistakes, stress, crisis, and disappointment, this episode is for you. You'll learn how to build a foundation of trust now by showing your child compassion and being a safe place for their big, uncomfortable emotions. ...

In a world filled with hectic schedules and constant demands, you’re not alone if you experience the temptation to yell at your kids. You don’t want to, but yelling, threatening, and increasing punishments feels like the only way to get them to comply. The good news is I have three simple steps that will help you break the cycle of yelling, and I’m sharing them with you today.   If you’re ready to say goodbye to yelling and hello to a more peaceful parenting journey, listen in this week....

I was recently reminded of one of the most profoundly powerful parenting tools available to us: compassionate listening. Deep, compassionate listening is what allows your children to communicate their feelings, talk about their pain, and explore ideas. What would it be like to know you are the person who helps them do this? Join me this week to learn why practicing compassionate listening leads to deep connection with your children. As a bonus, this also works with your spouse, co-parent,...

As parents, we’re attached to the expectation that our kids will have the same convictions and beliefs that we have. But as they grow up, they might choose a lifestyle, religion, or ideology that differs from the one we've modeled for them. Many of us struggle to hold space for this possibility, and it can leave us dysregulated or tempted to withdraw.   Join me this week as I show you how to navigate differences in beliefs and values between you and your children. You’ll learn the power of...

A few weeks ago on the podcast, I shared an amazing coaching conversation with my client Valeria, where we talked about navigating fear and anger in parenting, setting limits, and connecting before correcting. Since that conversation, Valeria has told me she's experienced a massive transformation in her parenting, so I wanted to have her back to discuss it.    This week, Valeria is sharing the game-changing skills she’s learned that have changed her household dynamic from power struggle to...

Like so many parents, you might believe being reactionary in response to a power struggle or disagreement is hardwired into you. Maybe it's how you’ve always operated, or it was modeled in your home growing up. But what if it didn't have to be that way? What if, even in the midst of a storm, you could learn to pause and respond thoughtfully rather than react out of dysregulation?   Join me and a panel of Hive members – Kate, Tina, and Neil – as we explore the art of pausing and responding....

One of the most common challenges that coparents face is figuring out what to do when you and your coparent aren't on the same page. I recently had a coaching call with a couple with very different parenting styles and I’m sharing the breakthroughs that came out of our conversation on this episode.   Listen in to hear how your childhood wounds might be colliding with your coparent, why those wounds can cause you to become dysregulated, and how to build awareness around where you might be...

I’m always reminding parents of how rules and limits help our children to thrive and feel empowered, but what do you do when it comes to actually enforcing the rules you’ve set? If you have strong-willed kids, find yourself losing confidence, or struggle to enforce consequences consistently with firmness, this episode is for you.   You'll learn my top seven strategies for enforcing limits that peacefully stick, the importance of setting rules while you're calm and rational, and how to guide...

Our kids are going to be using technology much earlier and more frequently than we ever did. This isn't all bad, but navigating the world of technology is uncharted territory for many parents. I’ve got the perfect expert on the show this week to share his wisdom with us.   Forest Bronzan is the founder and CEO of Camplight, a membership for parents raising kids in a world shaped by technology. In this episode, Forest and I explore what parents often get wrong when it comes to our children...

Parenting can often feel like a juggling act of meeting career demands, managing household chores, and raising kids. If you’re wondering how to start requesting help from your kids around the house or you're experiencing pushback from them, I'm here to offer a lifeline this week.   Join me as I share my top tips for introducing your kids to household chores. You’ll hear where parents go wrong in requesting household help from their children, how to better manage your expectations, and some...

Valeria has two boys, ages two and five, and when she reached out for help navigating some storms, fears and anger at home, we decided this would be the perfect opportunity to share some live, Real World Peaceful Parenting coaching with you.   Tune in this week for a front-row seat to our coaching conversation as we explore what it means to set limits around what our children are developmentally capable of, why we must let go of guilt, and how to bear witness to your child’s storm without...

So many of the lessons I've learned in parenting boil down to a simple idea: the better we know ourselves, the better we can show up as parents. Emily Wardrop is an Advanced Certified Life Coach who is joining me on this episode to share the power that identity work has had on her parenting journey, and how her devotion to it has transformed her family.   Join us as Emily and I discuss why our identity is something we must explore, the importance of being mindful of how we assign our...

Even if you’ve never formalized your family values or put them to paper, you parent around them just the same. If you want to empower your children, create harmony at home, and ultimately build a stronger family, clearly defining your values will help you make this dream a reality.   In this episode, I explore the power of defining your family values and using them as your compass for navigating the world. I’ll share some tools for coming up with your own family values, and show you how to...

Awareness is the compass that guides you toward self-regulation as a parent. It is the first step on the path to understanding and managing your responses to your child's behavior, and by acknowledging and understanding your own triggers, you can stop reacting and start responding to your child.   This week, I'm sharing some common thoughts that trigger reactive parenting so you can learn how to cultivate awareness in those moments of overwhelm, and make self-regulation a priority in your...

As much as we want to be able to influence our children through our words, the truth is kids don’t do what we say. They do what we do. Modeling is a powerful parenting tool that allows children to learn by example, and it's at the root of your children feeling seen, heard, and valued.   Join me this week to hear how to model the behaviors, attitudes, and values you want to instill in your children, and the questions to ask yourself that will help you take inventory of what you’re modeling. ...

If you’re an adult who has spent a lot of time and energy trying to recover from a stressful or dysfunctional childhood, you might find yourself wondering how best to nurture a secure childhood for your kids.   Join me this week to learn the foundation of a secure childhood, and how doing this work helps you raise kids who don’t have to recover as adults. I’m showing you what a secure childhood might look like, and how a secure childhood sets the stage for healthy relationships, emotional...

Have you ever wondered why you react the way you do when your kids make a mistake, or how to show up as a regulated parent who holds their child in high regard, even when they fail? This week, I’m diving into a fundamental trigger of parental dysregulation—our kids' mistakes—and exploring how to use self-regulation to address them in a healthy way.   Tune in to discover how embracing the concept of self-worth is the backbone of self-regulation, how integrating it into your family culture...

Fear is a huge part of the parenting experience and it can show up in a variety of ways for us. Parenting fear affects our decision-making process, shapes our thoughts, and even how we get along with our kids. So, how can we use it for connection instead of control?   Listen in this week as I’m joined by Hive members Dina, Kris, and Viv to discuss how we can better manage our fears as we raise our kids. They’re sharing their experiences of parenting fear, how they’ve learned to...

At the beginning of each year, I like to declare a theme that guides the parenting work we do. My ultimate goal for 2024 is for all of us to become emotionally mature, and the skill of emotional maturity begins with one important practice: self-regulation.   Listen in to discover why I’m committed to a year of self-regulation in 2024, and how to model it for your children. I’m offering three reasons why you too should be committed to improving your self-regulation skills, and showing you...

Most parents, if we're honest with ourselves, have had thoughts like, “My child doesn’t respect me,” or, “My child is so disrespectful.” Respect needs to be earned, not demanded, and it takes time to unfold. So what do we really mean when we expect respect from our kids, and are we using that expectation as a weapon against them?    Listen in this week to discover how demanding respect could be damaging your parent-child relationship, how your unconscious rules of engagement are fostering a...

The holiday season is an intense, stressful time for many of us. That’s why I’ve got the perfect holiday gift for you this week.   Join me this week to hear the best gift you can give yourself and your children this holiday season. You’ll learn what happens when you hold yourself to impossible parenting standards, the power of offering yourself a new start every single day, and why you don’t ever need to be the most perfect, enlightened parent.   Get full show notes and more information...

Creating connection with our children can happen pretty naturally when we're spending quality time together. But how do you continue to build connection during the mundane, day-to-day time? I’ve got some effective connection-creating tools to share with you in today’s episode, and it all starts with how you talk to your children and nurture their self-esteem.   This week, I’m sharing how your communication might be unintentionally causing your kids stress and affecting their self-esteem,...