Were you ever warned about dating outside of your faith, outside of your political beliefs, and culture? Was it ever implied that “people like us…” you can finish the rest. Values matter and are not to be taken lightly when dating and looking for a long term relationship. What Tom and Lisa wrestle with in this episode is why values and beliefs are such a heavy topic to carefully consider when dating. There is a framework of values to be acknowledged and a mindset in which both partners need to carefully approach their differences, if they are to create a long-term marriage that is healthy enough to acknowledge the differences and cater to their common ground. Relationship Theory with Tom and Lisa Bilyeu encourages healthy, loving, life long relationships. Whether you are fresh out of your last relationship, on a break, taking time to heal from a breakup, or looking for ways to strengthen the romance and bond in your current relationship, Tom and Lisa are sharing their 20 years of experience. They’re taking questions and giving relationship advice that will enhance all of your relationships. SHOW NOTES: Shared Value | Value systems matter, curiosity helps to establish common ground [0:46] Respect | How honoring different values with respect for each other is necessary [6:10] Common Values | How to find common values around one you don’t agree with [8:31] Framework Values | The agreement of how you navigate where value collides [12:16] Biological Timing | Why understanding that female hormones change and timing matters [14:39] QUOTES: “What we each demonstrated was a value of honesty, and a value of respecting that what is important to the other person in some way [...] needs to be important to me that it's important to you.” Tom Bilyeu [8:46] “The fact that something that will sound trivial to the audience can be so meaningful and remain meaningful to us over a very long period of time shows how important really figuring out your framework values is” Tom Bilyeu [13:41] “If you're trying to demean my position, whether you agree with it or not, it like them becomes a sticking point for me [...] about the fact that I feel undermined.” Lisa Bilyeu [14:21]