This episode is a bit of a departure from our normal subject matter. But I am getting SO many questions about moving overseas lately! (I think it's the election.) For those of you who are new to my world, I studied, volunteered, and worked abroad for seven years. (Mostly in Asia.) So I am a good bestie to have if you are considering moving abroad! And since not all of you have me in your contacts, I decided to do a podcast and share all my hard-won wisdom on ... Where should you move? How...

Do you ever get triggered by other people?  Duh, it's like asking, do you breathe air?  😂  Often we want to push away or put down people who trigger us. When actually they can be our greatest teachers. They are mirrors who can show us what we're not fully loving and integrating about ourselves. They can shine light on the parts of us that still need healing. In today's episode, I walk you through some quick questions to ask any time someone triggers you. So what started out as an...

This feels wicked vulnerable to share, but here it is ... I've been going through a pretty dark burnout in December. One that had me close to quitting my business altogether. One where it is really hard to create, express, or connect to my natural joy. I hesitated to share this, because it seems like as a coach who specializes in nervous system healing, I should have it more together. But the truth is, this burnout is teaching me so much. ​​About myself. ​​About my beliefs around...

Hey friends! Enjoy some highlights from my free 5-Day Self-Healing Challenge (aka Soul Surf Camp). In this lesson, I talk about how to change your memories. Which if you're haunted by a moment in your past is a useful thing to be able to do! I should clarify: we're not actually changing the memory itself. We're just changing the emotion around it. So that a moment that made you feel sad can now make you feel grateful. Or so you can feel compassion for yourself in a moment that used to...

You might be drawn toward "magical" practices like breathwork, plant medicine, hypnosis, and energy healing believing they will get you there faster. (And to a large degree, you're right!) But sometimes trying too hard to have a breakthrough ... Can actually repel the magic and push it away. And often when you release the need for a breakthrough, that's exactly when big magic comes to you and hits you like a lightning bolt. In today's episode, I'll share what I've learned about...

"You've gained a few pounds since last year!" "You're not married yet?" "Why can't you be quiet and sweet like your sister?" "Are you really going to have another drink?" "Of course we invited your ex. He's still family. We don't have to ask you." "Have you heard about our lord and savior Jesus Christ?" Welcome to the judgy-est time of the year! If your family is like most families, Thanksgiving get-togethers are kind of a mixed blessing. 😂  And for some of us, the holidays can be...

"The universe hates me." This was my conclusion when unexpected expenses kept smacking me in the face all through October. There was the appliance repair company ripping me off.The Assisted Living facility making a billing error — and then correcting it by pulling $13,000 out of my account with no warning. The Home Health company deciding out of nowhere that I owed them $1800, and I'd better pay up or they were sending me to collections.It felt like fighting a seven-nation army — and left...

Are you feeling unappreciated at work? Longing for the freedom to set your own schedule? Or are you a coach who feels pressure to go full time so you can be a "serious" entrepreneur? If you answered any of the above, this episode is for you! Today, I'm going to walk through exactly how and when to quit your job. Spoiler alert: if you're desperate to get out, finding a new job may not solve the problem. You may benefit from doing some thought work and self coaching first. In this...

If everything in your life is going wrong or sideways at once, you might be experiencing ... THE CRUMBLING. It can hurt like hell. It might feel like a personal attack from the universe — or even a spiritual death. But I want you to know that THE CRUMBLING really is here for your growth and expansion. When you're preparing to move to a new level, everything unaligned must go. And that includes job, relationships, thoughts, beliefs, and outdated programming. All that stuff needs burn down...

My mom will tell you I was an easy, sunny, sweet baby. What she really means: I never expressed any needs that were inconvenient, embarrassing, or made demands on others. And if I'm honest, it took me into my 40s to really start taking my own needs seriously. (Better late than never!) Being direct, setting boundaries, and telling people what I need are still wicked uncomfortable sometimes. But you know what else is uncomfortable? Constant people pleasing. Making it easy for everyone else....

I totally wish that instead of trigonometry and other worthless stuff, my high school had offered classes like self leadership, emotional regulation, and especially ... stress management. As a coach, I see a lot of stress. And here's the truth: most people feel helpless against it. We experience too much too fast. We have a lot of traumas (big and little T) that keep us disconnected from our bodies. Because of that disconnect, we often don't even recognize stress until it's screwing up...

Common perfectionist beliefs (raise your hand if you can relate): I can't feel good unless I'm doing goodPeople only value me when I am near perfectA mistake means I didn’t try hard enoughIf you were like "hells yeah!" to any of the above, this week's episode is for you. I'm going to share a rule a little about my own journey with perfectionism. (Oddly, it starts with spiders. Actually, it probably starts before that. But the spider part really sticks in my mind.) I'll also share a rule...

A few years ago, I took a 90-day break from alcohol that changed my life.  You know what was the hardest part? The social events! I was dating, so that felt super terrifying and vulnerable. I traveled and stayed with family for a few days, which is always kind of stressful. (Not because they aren't lovely, but because my nervous system gets really jangled when I don't have my own space.) I usually meet my friend at the same brewery to catch up, and we kept that tradition all through my...

I've barely got words for what a f*****g year it's been. Long covid has been a wild ride.  A shamanic initiation.  A cracking open.  A curriculum for my expansion.  A burning down of everything that was out of alignment or in wrong relationship. In this week's episode, I pull back the curtain and get juicy and vulnerable about: The ups and downs of this year.Let's talk treatments. What's helping and what's horse shit.My experiences with the medical community.How my thinking about...

Do you ever say cringeworthy things out loud? Make the wrong decision? Hurt people and regret it later? If so, this episode is for you! We live in a society where it isn't easy to make mistakes. There's a lot of judgement and blame flying around — not all of it justified. It can make it hard to be a human who's evolving in real time — whether as a parent, professional, or partner. But there's an antidote to the shame culture. In today's episode, I share the self-restitution process....

Everything ends. Jobs. Relationships. Chapters of your life. Even versions of YOU end. And new ones come online. Sometimes change can feel amazing. (Let's burn away the old and make space for the new!) And sometimes change is upsetting and destabilizing. You might wonder if it means you're doing life wrong. Society like to mess with our heads by holding up permanence as the ideal. It's why 10-year job anniversaries and golden marriage anniversaries get celebrated. (Even if those...

Setting healthy boundaries is one of the best ways to practice energetic sovereignty and manage your nervous system. So in this week’s podcast episode, I'm going to talk you through ... 🌟 What actually are boundaries? 🌟 When is it appropriate to set a boundary? 🌟 An exact script you can use to set that boundary. 🌟 Tips on holding a boundary. 🌟 How to make a request when a boundary isn't appropriate, but something is still bothering you. Hope you'll find plenty of super actionable tools in...

Have you ever caught yourself thinking: I need to know the right answerThe more information I have, the betterI must never waste time or money with the wrong decisionOther people know better than meThen you might be suffering from analysis paralysis! We humans often use overthinking to keep ourselves safe. And in prehistoric times, it probably worked.  But even though the world is now safer, we can't stop. So we drive ourselves crazy trying to figure out the right workout plan, dating...

If you're anything like me, you're always searching for the right answer to every question. Like when I wanted to run an ultramarathon, I not only read a book and scoured every website I could find for training advice. I actually got certified as an ultramarathon coach to make sure I was doing it PERFECT. #queenofoverdoingit But you know who a lot of us aren't asking for guidance? The most important person — ourselves. Learning to ask yourself for guidance is a game-changer. Putting your...

We all have this romantic idea that when we most need support, our friends will lean in. And sometimes they do. But very often, they don't. It's pretty common for people experiencing grief and loss to find themselves alone, forgotten, or misunderstood when they need community most. Even intimate partnerships get impacted. It's more common for a marriage to end after a major loss or the death of a child, for example. So how should we take it when our support system seems to be distancing...

Whenever we're chasing a goal or working to solve a problem, our brain likes to go straight to action. We are little planning machines. Which kinda works. But not really. Because too often, when we focus on action, we're actually solving the wrong problem. What works better? Starting on the inside. Looking at who we'd be when we have what we really want. And finding ways to be that person RIGHT NOW. Sound complicated? It doesn't it have to be. In this episode, I'll walk you through...

A manifestation portal? What the cheese balls is that? And why should you care if you’re not a whacky, woo woo, green-juice slurping, crystal farming hippie? 😂 Bestie, I promise. Manifestation is for everyone. And no, you don’t have to be a toxic positivity monster to benefit and enjoy. To help you understand manifestation and how it works, I made you a video! It includes a little bit of teaching and a cool guided meditation you can use when you’re manifesting new things. Loving...

About a year into my personal growth journey, I was convinced I was f*****g it up. Why? Because I wasn't having any massive breakthroughs. 🔥  I wasn't making six figures in my business while sitting on a beach with my laptop. 🔥 I wasn't engaged to the love of my life. 🔥 I didn't have a perfect, healthy body with a six pack. (Do 47 year-olds even have six packs? Doubtful. But that's where my mind still goes. 😂 ) I didn't have any of the external stuff. So my mind told me I was failing...

Hypnosis. Trance. The unconscious. To some people, these are spooky concepts! But to me, they are some of the most healing words in the English language. And it's time to pull back the curtain. In today's episode, I'm going to spill the beans on all things hypnosis. What it is ... and isn't. How it works, and what modern neuroscience research tells us about its effectiveness. How I structure my client journeys to help create lasting change without struggle. The three levels of work we...

I know we've all been beaten over the head with the need to sleep more. And I can tell you as a coach and personal trainer that SOME OF IT IS HYPE. However, a good night's sleep has many benefits: Cleanses your brain of neurotoxinsPromotes neuroplasticity, change, and emotional shiftsRegulates your hormones and metabolism (can even help you lose weight)Promotes deep cellular healing (so essential for you Long Covid peeps!)Improves focus and productivityGives your mood a boostSo in this...