How important is finding compatibility to you when dating? When seeking a life partner, you don’t want to choose anyone. You wanna find someone you’re compatible with, but what does that mean? The word compatible is where two things are able to exist or occur together without problem or conflict. There are some things that […]

Disagreements, frustrations and disappointments are impossible to avoid in relationships. Although we can’t avoid disagreements and frustrations in relationships, it doesn’t mean they have to turn into arguments. Disagreements aren’t the same as arguments. An argument occurs when two sides are approaching a disagreement in unhealthy and unproductive ways. An arguing couple in most cases […]

Have you ever found yourself frustrated or disappointed when dating? A disappointment is a negative feeling that results from something not living up to an expectation. When we open up ourselves to romantic interests (e.i. dating) we normally have some form of hope or expectation. An expectation to meet someone we like, where feelings are […]

What does it mean to be honest about your Relationship mistakes? A mistake can be intentional or unintentional but the key is, it’s wrong. It is a form of behavior that is either dishonest, unjust, or immoral and often violates another. In life and in relationships we make mistakes, the question is, what is our […]

Any solid entity needs a solid foundation or anchor to bring it stability. Consider for a moment a ship without an anchor. It would find itself fighting against the current, drifting from place to place unable to remain in one place. Consider a home and the destruction that would follow after a storm if it […]

Why is it when a woman chooses a man that is deemed undesirable by the world, people attack her character, assuming there’s an ulterior motive? As if her motives can’t be pure driven from the heart and wisdom. Recently on a podcast Channing Crowder attacked the character of Ciara and Russell Wilson. In his podcast […]

Have you ever made a rash decision that you regretted later. In life we all have moments or things where we are urged to loose control. This could be something common such as an act of cutting someone off in a moment of road rage, or it could be something uncommon such as a violent […]

To celebrate or not celebrate Valentine’s Day, that is the question? Just because something is a cultural norm, it doesn’t mean it has to be a normal practice for you. Valentines Day is a national celebrated holiday, but its value varies from person to person. Some people love it, the romance, the gifts and special […]

How does one remain happy and content in singleness? Be intentional in your approach! Finding happiness and contentment in singleness is not an accident. Just as having a happy marriage isn’t. Obtaining success in life requires you to take action. God tells us that one reaps what they sow. If you are purposeful in your […]

Dating can be a rollercoaster!!! There are moments in the dating process where you have emotional highs. You meet new people, you meet someone you like, you get to know that person, and maybe it turns into a something special. Yet, there are also the lows. You can’t find a date, you meet bad people, […]

It’s often said in sports, “if you’re not getting better, you’re getting worse.” I believe this saying is not only true in sports, but in relationships. As a spouse you should always be seeking to grow. How can you be a better husband? How can you be a better wife? One way to be intentional […]

How are you approaching family & in-laws within your relationship? When it comes to weird uncles, hardheaded cousins, or even that overly intrusive Mother, family dynamics can be challenging. So much so terms such as Monster-in-laws are used to describe them. Although we all have “THOSE” family & in-laws it doesn’t mean challenging family dynamics […]

If you had to choose between Looks vs character, which would you choose? Thankfully when approaching relationships a person doesn’t have to choose between looks vs character. Both play an important role within relationship. Yet, too often people place more emphasis on looks rather than character. Most people when choosing whom to date are driven […]

There’s an old saying, don’t put your business in the streets. Yet, how does this apply in the 21st century? In the age of social media, blogging, and streaming people are sharing more personal information about themselves in an ever increasing way. Yet, when sharing, when do you cross the line. When can sharing become […]

A myth is a widely held but false belief or idea. There are ideas people hold that aren’t always true. Unfortunately, people pass on these false ideas or personal preferences as truth, forming myths. Myths can be passed down from generation to generation, mentor to pupil, or even through social media platforms. Although something sounds […]

Is there a right or wrong amount one should spend on a wedding? Weddings can be amazing, but they can also be extremely costly. The average wedding in America is 30,000 dollars. Yes, you read that correctly. People are spending on a wedding the same price you can buy a car, or a down payment […]

Traumatic events are incidences that cause physical, emotional, spiritual, or psychological harm. Sometimes relationships face challenges as a result of incidences between a couple. This can be a spouse who does something dishonest, or a partner who says hurtful things. Yet, in relationships there are some traumatic events that don’t come from the couple, but […]

Is it proper to compare marriage to a business? There a lot of things we can compare marriage too. Some people compare marriage to a rollercoaster, and the ups and downs one may experience. In my book, Chasing Happily Ever After, I compared building a house to building a solid relationship, and the importance of […]

It has been said, “diamonds are a girls best friend.” So naturally a woman’s probably going to want one when getting engaged. A diamond ring has become a staple among what is offered when proposing in marriage. Yet is it superficial of a woman to reject a man’s engagement, if he offers something other than […]

Singleness IS NOT a disease, not is it a bad thing! Being single isn’t purgatory, an in-between period of life that you have to suffer through until you get to something better (aka marriage). First off, who said marriage is something better. If you ask some people, marriage can be jail, but that’s a different […]

Experiencing a tough breakup is like loosing apart of yourself. For those that have experienced a breakup or divorce can understand the emotional and physical toll it can take on you. In relationships you invest a lot to make them work. You open up your heart to another person, trusting that they will value it. […]

Messaging bad habits in marriages have lead to more unnecessary conflicts than I care to count. Don’t let them happen to you! Good communication is critical to any successful relationship. Unfortunately, many couples don’t always consider how they communicate over messaging as part of their good communication skills. The truth is people spend way more […]

Have you ever made a text messaging gaffe while dating that may have cost you another date? Good communication is critical to any successful relationship. This is even more apparent early in the dating process, because one mistake could end your interaction forever. Therefore there are unwritten rules of communication when dating, yet with each […]

Is your relationship Private or Public? This is a question that takes on a new meaning today. In the past to say your relationship was private (a.k.a secret) meant you didn’t tell anyone about your relationship. For example, your friends, family and others in your community didn’t know about or had little details of your […]