Identity-  Is not a fixed concept. It is a set of qualities and beliefs that make one person or group different from others…. We can change our qualities/ characteristics/interests and beliefs. We base our identity on what we’ve done in the past when we really should be basing it on who we want to become. In today's show, I will talk about the ability to change your identity. One of the best ways of doing this is getting extremely clear on the type of person we want to become. There is a great exercise for this that I will share. Supplementary to this exercise we will explore: -A discussion on the pain vs pleasure scale to determine why it is necessary to live as a new version of ourselves?  -Different reminders/triggers to keep you in line with this new version. -Catching yourself being the old version. (Reflection, redirection, compassion). -Why we do the thing we do. Most times this is unconscious.    How can you begin to shift your identity today? Who do you want to become, what is the next version of yourself in your relationship? Becoming that version NOW, living from that place will begin to improve your relationship. This isn’t only for our partner, this is for you! Your happiness, health, and lifestyle depend on it.  This episode will help you to begin your identity shift today. Sometimes, we need a slight course correction in our identity to create a successful relationship. Enjoy the listen and take the aligned action to change your relationship and your life.   Joel