I believe most people are good at their core. If someone has developed selfish tendencies it might due to the fact they’ve developed bad selfish habits over the years. That doesn’t make someone a bad person, it simply means they have some work to do to get back on track. This is what happened to me, as I was single for many years and only really had to consider my own needs and desires. Entering a relationship I was faced with the challenge of being less selfish, and more altruistic. This was not an easy task, but I explain how I began to work on this, and break down this topic in-depth in the latest episode of Surrendering Average. Here are a few other items covered in the episode:        - Discuss the times a partner might have to be selfish.        - Signs to help you see if you are a selfish partner.        - Discuss studies done on selfish tendencies in relationships.        - Why we should change our selfish behaviors.        - The benefits of being altruistic.        - How to be less selfish. As I always mention, I am not a perfect man. I still struggle with being selfish at times. This is something I continually work on. Perfection will never be achieved, but I believe it is our responsibility to continually work on ourselves and our relationship if we want to make it last. The most rewarding things in life are not always easy, my relationship with Jess is not always easy but it is certainly rewarding. I hope you’ve enjoyed the mini-series on relationships!   Joel:)