Anxiety can lead you to what you need to heal“Letting go gives us freedom, and freedom is the only condition for happiness. If, in our hearts, we still cling to anything – anager, anxiety, or possessions, we cannot be free.” – Thich Nhat Hanh, “The Heart of the Buddha’s Teaching: Transforming Suffering Into Peace, Joy and Liberation”Anxiety, in contrast to Depression, which concerns the past, is a fear about a future event. We essentially feel threatened at one level or another. Our perception of our fear is going to be filtered through the lens of our past experiences. For example, holding a deadly snake is going to mean death to one, but not to another, depending one’s past experiences. It is important to understand also, our brains don’t recognise any difference between fear and excitement, it is our perception that tells the brain what direction to send the signals. The great thing is that we can, at anytime, change how we perceive fear purely by thinking differently about the things that scare us. However, this usually means changing the habits and patterns established in our subconscious. For the sake of our understanding and application into our reality construct, I divide fear into two categories; notional and existential fear (https://www.thealchemyexperience.co.uk/fear-podcast/ (listen to the episode about “Fear”)). The reality of the fear is not how we experience or perceive it, but rather the acuteness of the danger that is notional or real. Notional FearNotional fear is when there is no clear nor imminent danger, the threat is conjured up in the mind. When we experience anxiety of the unknown, e.g. receiving an email for our boss with the subject, “We need to talk”, we are making assumptions based on our previous experiences, or experiences of others that have deeply influenced us. When we come up against a trigger that reveals our notional fears, we have an opportunity to ask, “Where does this come from?”, and then the subconscious is compelled to give us an answer, which means we can start healing this aspect of ourselves. The answer might not come right away, so continue to be open to receiving it. The emotions that generate anxiety has their root in an Original Sensitising Event or Core Wounding. The threat is that we would ultimately die; if I don’t behave and my parents shun me, I can’t sustain myself and I will die. There are a number of notions and assumptions in that statement, but to the brain and our nervous systems, it is as real as anything. Existential FearThis is a fear that comes up for an immediate threat to your physical existence; lethal violence, attack by an animal, accident, or some other experience where you could potentially die. In these situations we typically sink to our lowest level of preparedness and training. Good training and preparation will allow us to be desensitised to the fear and allow us to prioritise and act in a way that has the maximum opportunity for us to achieve our objectives, whether that is saving others, eliminating the threat, saving ourselves, or something else. We essentially are able to control the fight, flight or freeze response that would otherwise be automatic. In these situations, if the threat persists, it is a natural impulse to push down any emotions that come up and when we do this for long enough we can develop Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD). Interestingly, the emotions can be stored in both our minds as well as our physical bodies, so the emotion can be purely a physical experience, such as a tick, spasm, shaking, or something else, without any conscious mental response to it. PreparationIf we are looking to work in a stressful and threatening environment, e.g. an emergency room, fire brigade, military, or something similar, you will train in environments that will mimic the real world scenario as closely as possible so that your mind knows what to expect. However, that doesn’t deal with notional anxie